Almost everyone from time to time has experienced feelings of self-doubt. The majority of people are inclined to be self-critical: focusing on the negative rather than on the positive characteristics that they have. If these people allow their thoughts concerning their sense of self-worth, and abilities to be non-constructive this will eventually lead to them having negative feelings, attitudes and beliefs about themselves.
If you think about it then it makes a lot of sense to actually support yourself in a positive way by having positive thoughts about yourself. You can start to do this by being more respectful towards yourself. Just as you would be respectful and helpful towards other people. Make sure that all self talk is constructive, so you can start feeling good about yourself, and gain more confidence.
Remember your physiology and your mind are closely connected. By this I mean that what you think will show itself in your body, so if you lack confidence then it will show in how you hold your body.
I would like to show you some simple NLP tricks that will demonstrate this, and give you more confidence as well.
Think of your favourite piece of music. Music that really makes you feel good about yourself. Now close your eyes and see yourself walking confidently, talking to people in a confident way. I want you to hear your voice as you speak in this confident manner. Imagine what it would be like to have super confidence. Make sure you can feel this super confident energy rushing all through your body.
As soon as you feel this super confident energy rush through your body, squeeze the index finger and thumb together hard. While still imagining the confident you. Make the picture you have in your head full colour, and big like a movie screen. Bring this picture of you being confident right up to you eyes. Now step into the picture, and see the world through this new person's eyes, and feel what it's like to have this confidence. Be in the moment. As soon as the confident feeling starts to wane, separate the thumb and index finger.
Now test it. Squeeze the index finger and thumb together. You should go straight into the confident state. If not repeat the process. It can take a few repetitions to get it absolutely right. What you are doing is laying a trigger in your physiology. In other words your unconscious mind will associate the feeling of confidence with the squeezing together of the index finger and thumb.
Like I said before your physiology and emotions are closely connected. So the more you practice this the stronger your feeling of confidence will become.
Another very easy NLP technique to do, is to change your stature. As you know by now physiology is linked to emotions. Everyone when feeling un-confident walks around with hunched shoulders, and has an anxious look on the face with the eyes looking towards the floor. Confident people on the other hand walk with their shoulders back: and head held up, and a look of confidence on the face - most of these confident people have a knowing smile when they talk. Just try to walk like a confident person, and you'll find it hard to feel nervous and inadequate.
About the Author:
Dion Daly is a certified trainer in hypnosis, a master practitioner in NLP and TLT. He also has a degree in metaphysics.
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