Have you ever wanted something badly, but also felt a little bit nervous about it? For example, you may have dreamed of having a successful business, but doubted your ability to handle the responsibility. Or you may have yearned for a committed relationship, but then felt shy and anxious when a potential partner was introduced to you. When it comes to the Law of Attraction, conflicting desires can effectively stall any manifestations you attempt. And the bigger problem is that you may not even realize you have conflicting desires. Many of them can be caused by subconscious fears, childhood conditioning, limiting beliefs, and unhealthy habits.
Take a moment right now and jot down some of your bigger goals. Have you been trying to manifest a better job? A life partner? More money? Better health? Whatever you wish you could bring into your life in the near future, write it down. Then, pick the most important item from that list and insert into the first blank below:
âIf I were to have ____________, Iâm afraid that ____________.â In the second space, jot down some negative outcomes that could ensue if you were to achieve this goal. Examples: âIf I were to have a loving, committed relationship, Iâm afraid that he would find me uninteresting.â âIf I were to have my dream job, Iâm afraid that it would limit my quality time with my family.â âIf I were to have great abundance, Iâm afraid that people would treat me differently.â
Once you know which of your fears, limiting beliefs or habits may be interfering with the arrival of your desires, spend some time thinking about them and ask yourself:
1) Is it likely to happen?
Often you fear things that are highly unlikely to happen, and recognizing this can be a great relief! For example, if you fear that a potential partner will think you are uninteresting, examine the facts. ARE you uninteresting? Do you have some redeeming qualities? Do you have hobbies and interests? More often than not youâll realize that the fear is groundless.
2) If it did happen, what would you do?
All right, if a potential partner DID find you uninteresting, what then? How would you handle it? Would you beg her or him to reconsider, or turn your attention to more suitable partners? More often than not you fear something happening because you donât believe in your own ability to handle it, but thatâs rarely true. If you can come up with one or more ways you could cope with such an outcome, you will find that the fear diminishes quickly.
Now, continue this process for each fear, habit, and limiting belief that you can uncover â and youâll soon realize that they cannot hold you back unless you allow them to. When you let go of conflicting desires, your true desires will be free to manifest in your life.