It should be pretty obvious that the only way you are going to get to know a woman is to sit down with her and ask her questions.Lots of people recommend remembering "date questions" such as, "If you were a flavor of ice cream, which one would you be?" but these questions are not good. They are all rehearsed and sound plain bad in normal conversation. Plus, they just kill all attraction between you and the woman.
"Date questions" are the worst, and you should just forget about them. Instead, just allow a discussion with the girl happen automatically. Guys often memorize stupid questions as a crutch to deal with feelings of nervousness or anxiety that they get. Using a bunch of canned questions will only build up a wall between between you and the girl.Stop thinking so much and just be present of what is going on in the moment with you and her. Pay attention to how she behaves and start to really care about her experience. You'll never be at a loss for words .
Too many men also just ask questions that can be answered with a "yes" or a "no". Stop doing this, if you notice that you do it. This will make you seem weird like you're a reporter interviewing her.
Are you from around here? - Yes.
Do you work in the city? - Yep.
Do you have a dog? - Nope.
Is this conversation getting under your skin? - Yes.
Open-ended questions are a lot better because they make the woman contribute something personally to the conversation.
What's your favorite area of town? - I like the ABC District. In fact I live there.
Really? What do you like so much about it? - I like all the history and character there. blah ...blah... blah.
This isn't too hard.
Ask her questions about her life experiences. Try to get a better understanding of how it feels to be her. Keep taking things deeper by asking the woman things like "how did you feel when that happened?" or "What was XXX like?" Also watch her reactions and behaviors when she talks about things. Ask her questions like "You seemed a little unsure when you were talking about your job. Tell me more abou that." This ofent opens things that the girl didn't even know about herself.
Once you do this a few times, you will begin to feel a very extremely strong connection that will make it seem like the two of you are in a bubble, alone from the rest of the world. You can be in the noisiest bar out there, but it will seem like you have her all to yourself.
Doesn't that sound a lot better than "If you were a song, what kind would you be?".
So, just ditch the annoying date questions and just have a real legitimate conversation. Just show up to the interaction and let things flow naturally. Ask the girl questions and get to know her more. So feel free to ask anything that you want, so long as you are truthfully interested in the answer.
Brian Broderick used to be a shy "nice guy" that was clueless with women. Now he is in a relationship with his dream girl and enjoys helping other men reach their dating goals.