In a perfect world, you can have a good job, a great family, and perfect neighbors. Unfortunately, you canât always get three out of three. However, with a little lesson in persuasion and assertiveness, you can at least deal with one of the three constants in your life. In this article, I will teach you how to deal with bad neighbors.
Not everyone is the same. However, that doesnât mean you have to tolerate every snoopy old lady or every noisy family that lives next to you. If you want to know how to deal with bad neighbors, read on!
1) The Old Rumor Mill
Donât you just hate it when you have a neighbor who loves to gossip? Such a person will always try to find out what youâre doing, where you work, where you bought your clothes, who you are seeing, etc.
It can be quite frustrating especially when you donât even like that person in the first place! So how do you deal with bad neighbors like this one?
Stop encouraging that person. Donât feed them too much information. If you want to be polite, you can always say âIâm sure youâre not interested in something so trivial as (insert issue here),â and then change the topic into something about them, âOh, what lovely flowers you have there. Where did you get them?â
Other variations include:
âIâd rather not talk about it.â
âPlease respect my privacy.â
2) The Noisy Family
Sometimes, you end up living next to a family that makes a lot of noise. Their kids might be in a band or one of them might like to play the stereo really loud. The father might like mowing the lawn at an ungodly hour or the mother might watch her soap operas with the volume turned on high. Hereâs how to deal with bad neighbors like them:
Well, letting them know is the first step. If the kids are the noisy ones, talk to their parents. Itâs not really your place to discipline them. If the parents are your problem, explain your situation and talk about how you can find a balance. If they refuse to budge, let the community leaders know about it.
3) The Stalker
On the rare occasion, you might find yourself with a neighbor who is too interested in you. He or she asks you out all the time, or invites himself/herself to your house.
When this happens, tell that person that youâre not interested. Period. Cut off that line right away and donât give him or her any ideas about a possible relationship.
In a perfect world, you get along with all your neighbors. But that isnât what happens in real life. However, if you know how to deal with bad neighbors, you can maintain peace and harmony in the community.