"To change my life, I have to make a change in my life." This made so much sense to me when I first came across it! One of my goals was to change my life and, since you're reading this article, I guess it's one of yours too. My list was rather long, how about yours?
You want life to become more desirable. Yet to change your life, you need to see change as a good thing! What do you want to change?
Write down your List of Desirable Changes
Make a list of the changes you want in the future. Put some energy into this, the more energy the better. The secret of success is to write them down, write it all down. As they say, "If you don't know where you're going, then any road will do!"
Why write them down? Because this focuses your mind on both what you want and where you are now. Yet there's a lot of truth to the aphorism saying the real value is in the journey rather than the goal.
Change is Inevitable
Most everything changes on an ongoing basis. Change is inevitable anyway, so you might as well get used to it. It may seem as though nothing has changed, but that's only because changes can be minuscule over short time frames.
Yet many see change as undesirable. If you're one of them, perhaps you only want things to change for the better. This is understandable, we all want things to improve, rather than get worse. The problem is determining what is better, and what is worse. It's not just one or the other, it also depends on the time frame.
Is it Better or Worse?
Suppose you want more money to spend, more disposable income is a common goal. Then investing in your own home will decrease your disposable income in the short term, yet give you more to spend later. So would this change make your life worse or better?
If you like feeling physically good, then you need a fit toned body. But getting fit can be a tough job, your body feels uncomfortable when you start working out. Again short-term pain gives long-term gain.
You know many ways to get fit, perhaps join the gym and go regularly. But the reason gyms are viable is because many pay the membership fees but don't go! They don't have the internal resolve to stick with it through the initial painful steps.
Do judgments of better or worse serve you? Judgments can hinder you from seeing the world clearly. You add better or worse, and then insist it is this. And it does - but only to you, not to someone else - because you've added the meaning. Hence many arguments.
To change your life, the effort it requires needs personal power. No matter how much you have to start with, more is valuable and will benefit you. But how do you increase your personal power?
A very good question, we'll explore that in the next article in this series.
Food for Thought
"When coasting in our comfort zones, we don't grow. We continue to do more of the same. ... Maintaining a comfort zone can, paradoxically, lead to discomfort in the long run ... if we avoid important life issues. ... Eventually, as both internal and external pressures for change persist, the 'comfort zone' ceases to serve us."
Eric Allenbaugh, Ph.D. (Organizational Behavior), leadership coach, author
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