Is the Fear of Abandonment Sabotaging Your Relationship?

By Nick Arrizza M.D.

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The fear of abandonment can place significant stresses on a relationship. So much so that it often leads to the very outcome that is feared. Is there some way to permanently release what amounts to early life programming so as to help restore both you and your relationship to life?

As mentioned the fear is rooted in early life programming that is stored in one's unconscious mind/body as the collective negative memories of having been abandoned. Such memories have associated with them the negative feelings of insecurity, emptiness, loneliness, fear of not surviving, anxiety, worry, panic and feelings of annihilation to name a few.

These feelings are continually present in the background of one's emotional landscape threatening to erupt leaving one feeling fragmented and debilitated. The feelings can so dominate one's experience that the person may spend an inordinate of energy and time attempting to forestall ever feeling them.

Compensatory habits/behaviors to prevent feeling so incapacitated range from subtly soliciting attention and or caring gestures from others all the way to outright manipulation and control of others.

These self destructive strategies not only lead to the dissolution of one's relationships but also add to the storehouse of negative memories thus making them stronger. The net result is that the person becomes enslaved in a web of negativity that ultimately leads to things like ostracism, loneliness, depression or worse.

Fortunately there is now a way to completely extract/erase that negative programming from the unconscious mind/body so as to release one from sliding into this negative spiral.

This new process has shown that erasing the negative memories of the past is not only possible but a necessary requirement for any individual, even those not ensnared by this particular fear, if they ever hope to experience and live as their true authentic selves. The process helps one achieve this and rewards one with what has been acknowledged as the reintegration of their Life Force Energy with their mind/body.

Such a reintegration feels utterly empowering and ushers in great self esteem, self worth, self confidence, resilience, inner peace and strength, joy and happiness, and a positive outlook on life. In short it equates to what many term being "truly alive".

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