Is The Fear of Abandonment Sabotaging Your Relationships?

By Nick Arrizza M.D.

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Many individuals suffer with the fear of abandonment. The havoc it wreaks in one's relationships is, just that, the high risk of being abandoned. So like a self fulfilling prophecy it draws the same negative consequences to itself thereby making it stronger and more intractable. Sadly few ever really free themselves of it and their relationship lives often fail miserably. There is however now a way to be free of this.

Briefly, individuals compensate for such a fear in different ways i.e. they may be overly dependent/needy, or they may be very/fiercely independent and/or overly vigilant or untrusting of others. Often intimacy problems will be reflected in their relationships. Of course feelings of anxiety, insecurity, worry, and panic, lacking self confidence, self worth and self esteem are also often present. There is also often a tendency to be overly controlling of one's partner or one's circumstances.

As you can see the fear acts like a significant wedge that blocks the consummation of any relationship.

The fear is often rooted in early childhood memories of abandonment or neglect that remain embedded in the person's unconscious mind acting as what I have termed "negative emotional landmines" that are waiting to go off whenever an event in one's daily life triggers them. These triggers set off so to speak all of the old hurt associated with the early abandonment and literally lead one to feel like their very survival i.e. emotional and physical is at stake.

Such feelings can be overwhelming, overpowering and may dominate much of one's social interactions with others. In fact there is also often a tendency to dominate others in the process of trying to compensate for the feelings of insecurity and annihilation that ensue.

So as you can see such internal negative programming is very destructive not only to one's relationships but also to the person in question. Many who are trapped in such an internal emotional scenario may not fully recognize that they are slaves to this programming. Instead their attempts are aimed mainly at avoiding feeling the hurt and forestalling potential rejection.

What is necessary to know however is that one can choose to free themselves of this employing a new process that can now help them literally erase and/or diffuse the old negative memories permanently and effortlessly. By doing so not only does the old hurt go away the memories do also.

In so doing it is possible to begin to reclaim one's true authentic nature in ways that few ever really ever experience. By doing so one also begins to acquire a new perspective on who they really are and the full extent to which they have been enslaved. The latter insight often feels extremely empowering and inspiring.

The effect on one's relationships is nothing short of transformative as the partner begins to feel like they are now with an entirely new and attractive person.

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