My 18 year old daughter, Kelly, calls me in a panic. Her ex best friend has text her because she’s heard rumors that she believes Kelly has been spreading about her. She wants to come down from college and confront Kelly. Kelly is upset because she says she hasn’t said a bad word to anyone about this girl and she feels extremely frustrated because she doesn’t know how to prove that she’s done nothing wrong. I listen, as any good mom would do. I allow a little silence after she finishes telling her side of the story, as any good life coach would do. And then I ask her the question that has alleviated my stress, given me serenity and allows me to let go of things that would have driven me insane in the past.
“Kelly, have you kept your side of the street clean?”
She has heard this many, many times, especially as a teenager. She knows what I’m talking about. She knows where I’m going with the question. She answers immediately “Yes” and I can feel her tension lessen a little bit.
I was blessed to learn this saying in Alanon, among many other pearls of wisdom. What this saying has done for me is:
* Kept me from saying and doing what I would regret later on
* Kept me from reacting before I could process the situation
* Helped me to see that I ALWAYS have a choice
* Humbled me to the fact that I often wanted to act out in a very immature way
* Allowed me to live with integrity
* Guided me to behave in a way that I was proud of
As a life coach I am responsible for walking the walk. I couldn’t, in good conscience, help my clients to live their most authentic lives if I’m not living mine. So I keep this saying in my “tool belt” and I take it out whenever I feel I might step out of my integrity. It’s a powerful tool. Before you say or do something that doesn’t feel in alignment with who you want to be, ask yourself “Am I keeping my side of the street clean?” It doesn’t matter that others don’t. We are only responsible for our actions. Use it the next time you’re drawn into drama and notice how much more peaceful you feel.
• In what situation or relationship have you not kept your side of the street clean?
• How did you feel then and how do you feel now?
• How can you clean up your side of the street if you need to?
• Where are you resistant to keeping your side of the street clean? Why?
I am a life coach. I help people to uncover the valuable lessons that might have been overlooked in the midst of their divorce and I empower them to get back into the game of life. I have also been affected by someone else’s addiction and I know what it’s like to have your life feel unmanageable.
I am a divorcee. I am a mother and a stepmother. I am an ex-wife and a new-wife. I am someone who is fully enjoying this stage of my life and I love empowering people to enjoy theirs.
I have been a Certified Public Accountant for 22 years. My education prepared me to be a CPA. However, life and all that it entails prepared me to be a life coach.
I am living proof that you can live your best and most authentic life, post divorce, and I want to help people experience that.