Nothing happens by accident - I really don’t believe in coincidences - I believe that things are meant to be - or at least I thought I did - but I really didn’t ‘get-it’ until I read the poem ‘LETTING GO TAKES LOVE’.
I guess it was just meant to be - my Divine needing me to ‘get-it’. I love to be in control - and being in control is great - when you are working in the corporate sector - when you are a boss - when you are a parent - but being in control when you are in a relationships means that you are only controlling your fear from getting out of control - that you have people who relate to you who feel they are ‘out of control’.
I am a woman of colour and totally believe in self-empowerment and equality - but I had to learn this lesson about letting go - does take love - and real love is trusting your Divine.
Here are some tips I discovered from the poem (author unknown).
I want to address some key verses in this poem to help you to see how you can apply the ‘letting go ‘ principal to your relationships. My comments are in CAPS.
LETTING GO TAKES LOVE
To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it's the realization I can't control another.
To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences.
IT IS SIMPLY AMAZING WHEN YOU DO THIS - I HAVE DONE THIS - MY FIRST STEP WAS TO ALLOW MY DIVINE TO SPEAK TO ME - BUT NOT TO JUST LISTEN BUT TO REALLY UNDERSTAND THAT LETTING GO AND LETTING GOD BE IN CONTROL IS SO FREEING.
IT LITERALLY ALLOWS FREES YOU AND LET A GREATER POWER WHO IS ABSOLUTE GUIDE YOU ALONG YOUR LIFE JOURNEY.
I AM LEARNING THAT AS WE LET GO AND GIVE UP CONTROL WE ARE ACTUALLY EMPOWERING SOMEONE TO BE THEIR BEST - AND THAT IS SIMPLY AMAZING. AS THEY NOW ARE LIBERATED TO BE THEMSELVES AND LET GO OF THE FEAR OF YOU BEING IN CONTROL.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands.
TO BE POWERLESS DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE NOT POWERFUL - IT MEANS YOU CONTROL THE POWER WITH IN - AND DON’T USE IT WITH AN IRON FIST BUT WITH A LOVING GENEROUS AND HUMBLE HAND.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it's to make the most of myself.
YOU CAN’T CHANGE SOMEONE - YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOURSELF. BY LETTING GO YOU ALLOW THE DIVINE TO CHANGE THE AREAS OF YOUR LIFE THAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM REAL HAPPINESS - FROM NO LONGER LIVING IN FEAR - BUT LIVING IN JOY AND PEACE.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
IT IS THE MOST LOVING THING YOU CAN DO TO CARE FOR THAT PERSON AND ALLOW THEM TO BE EMPOWERED WITH IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.
TO LET GO IS TO ALLOW THE DIVINE TO COME IN AND GUIDE THAT INDIVIDUAL INSTEAD OF YOU TRYING TO BE GOD. AND IT STOPS YOU FROM NEEDLESS WORRYING - YOU AE NOW FREE TO BE. AND YOU KNOW WORRYING EQUALS WRINKLES. (SMILES)
To let go is not to be protective,
it's to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
I THINK THAT SAYS IT ALL!
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
IT IS TO LOVE MYSELF AS I AM IN THIS MOMENT.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.
IT IS TO KNOW YOU HAVE MADE A MISTAKE BUT YOU WILL NOT DO IT AGAIN - BECAUSE “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
AND I KNOW THAT NONE OF US WANTS TO BE INSANE.
To let go is to fear less and love more.
So my sacred message for you is to love more - allow love to rule, know it is a gift, to be treasured and truly treasure those you love.
Here is to letting go - and letting God.
Ophelia is a spiritual life coach who blends the best of two worlds: as an experienced intuitive with over 4000 online consulting sessions, Ophelia's practice is underscored by professional training and education in psychology and life coaching. As an ordained metaphysical minister, Ophelia is uniquely qualified to apply her blend of powerful intuition and practical problem solving to clients with difficult issues to address.
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