June 7, 2013 by Christy Whitman Leave a Comment

A good friend of mine has a 15-year-old daughter who is just learning how to drive. As we were talking the other day, my friend Sam told me how excited and nervous her daughter becomes when she is behind the wheel. There are so many things to think about all at once; so many moving parts… and if her mind wanders for even an instant, she inevitably finds herself listing toward the sidewalk. On a recent outing, my friend’s daughter became so overwhelmed by the number of things to consider when she pulled up to a 4-way stop that she simply had to pull over to the side of the road and have a good cry. Of course, Sam responded with love, compassion and certainty, knowing that her daughter’s feelings of discouragement are only temporary, and are an essential part of the learning process. When she was ready to begin again, Sam offered her daughter specific feedback about ways that she could refine her technique.

In thinking about my friend’s experience with her daughter, I realized that the learning to more deliberately operate our human machine in order to attract the things we desire into our lives is a lot like the process of learning to drive. Just like a car, our body/mind/spirit vehicle is comprised of countless moving parts that over time we learn to master; our vision – or goal – is like the GPS that constantly reminds us of the destination we are striving to reach. Our mind is like the steering wheel, and each thought we think either brings us in alignment with our vision or leads us painfully away from it. Positive emotions such as empowerment, encouragement, certainty and excitement provide potent fuel for our creative engine, accelerating the speed at which we manifest our desires. Likewise, negative emotions such as self-criticism, frustration and discouragement throw a wrench into the gears. Like driving a car, the process of deliberately sifting, choosing, and creating our reality takes awareness and effort, and – in the beginning at least – if we’re not paying attention, we can easily slip back into thoughts and feelings that don’t serve us or our goals. In moments like these, it’s natural to feel discouraged – and even to want to pull over to the side of the proverbial road and cry!

What’s so curious to me is how much more patient, understanding and compassionate we are with a kid learning to drive than we are with ourselves when we are practicing a new way of being. Instead of offering ourselves compassion and boosting our own confidence when we encounter a steeper-than-anticipated learning curve, many of us are quick to give up; to conclude that “nothing ever works out” for us, or to convince ourselves that maybe we aren’t as prepared for or as deserving of our desires as we thought. As a coach, I see all the time how most people expect so much from themselves when they first start working with the Uni-versal Laws – as though they should be able to master these principles immediately. And even though we all have an innate understanding of the laws of attraction, allowing, and deliberate intention, it takes time to unlearn previously habitual behavior and master a more conscious way of living.

In the same way the road offers new drivers constant feedback about how well they are doing, the Uni-verse provides us constant feedback about the vibration we are offering. Attracting people and circumstances that resonate with our intentions is an indication that we are on course; experiences that elicit the opposite reaction is feedback that our thoughts or emotions have taken us away from our chosen path. How we choose to use this feedback is vitally important to the end result we achieve. The definition of progress is “movement that increases the chances of achieving something you desire.” Without continuous feedback about where we are in relation to our goals, there is no way of knowing how we are doing! As we learn to become more masterful operators of our human machine, we begin to accept feedback as valuable information, and adjust the content of our thoughts as necessary. Eventually, like a seasoned driver, we learn to do this in stride; and soon the day comes when we find ourselves having arrived from point A to point B without knowing exactly how we got there. In time, deliberate creation becomes a skill that we will one day take for granted. Until then – like my friend’s daughter will tell you – it’s a learning process that requires practice and patience.



Author's Bio: 

Christy Whitman is a New York Times bestselling author, transformational leader and CEO and Founder of the Quantum Success Coaching Academy, a 12-month certification program for Law of Attraction coaches.