Being a relationship coach and dealing with breakup issues mainly, I have a lot of anxious female clients/readers who are on the brink of a nervous breakdown because they feel their world is falling apart: i.e. their men seem to fade into the state of indifference. They panic and need a healthy dose of inspiration to get their self-confidence back.
If you are one of those women, this article is for you. Read very closely.
I have a few questions you will need to digest to understand what went wrong with your relationship:
-Are you a happy woman here and now, despite your relationship or lack thereof?
-Can you change the way you perceive the world -how you see things- in a way that is empowering to you, instead of languishing in the state of mind that brings you down?
-Can you just focus on yourself -your own happiness- without worrying about other people -be him your boyfriend, husband, ex or people around you?
- Can you let go the obsessive need to be in control, especially of other people's behaviors toward you? To want them to be in a certain way, do things your way, not do things in ways that don't please you, to please you and take care of your feelings and emotions?
-Can you just radically/unconditionally accept things as they are: things that are beyond your control?
-Do you understand that total acceptance of yourself -how you are: your feelings, your vulnerabilities, your shortcomings- is the hallmark of self-mastery? Self-acceptance equals self-confidence which is vital for the success of a relationship and everything else in life.
Only with self-acceptance, we can learn to accept others unconditionally as well. Total acceptance is the basis of happiness. When you have mastered the science of happiness, a happy relationship is just around the corner because we should realize relationship doesn't make one happy. One makes a happy relationship by being a happy person.
Happiness is contagious. Happy attracts happy.
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This article is one of the breakup series I write. Please check my author page for more articles on the subejct or join me in my ex-back support group and relationship forum for more tips on how to deal with your breakup and how to get yourself on the path of getting your love and your life back. Please also follow me on facebook: http://www.facebook.com/katarina.phang for my daily nuggets of reflections/insights/advice and tips on attracting and maintaining a lasting relationship and fixing a broken one.
Katarina Phang is an author, love/life coach specializing on reuniting couples and curing troubled relationship. She founded a free ex-back support group and relationship forum http://gettheloveyoudeserve.info.