My Husband Keeps Leaving Me and Coming Back: My Husband Keeps Coming And Going

It's very common to fear that when your husband walks out the door and has made it clear that he is exiting the marriage, all is lost. Most wives will assume that this is just the first step of a divorce and the marriage will eventually die a slow death and end. This does not have to be the case at all. If you want your husband back (even after he has left), you will have to avoid some behaviors and concentrate heavily on some others. Some of these behaviors and tactics will seem foreign or risky, but in reality, they are the safest, most sensible way to go because they ensure that your husband comes back willingly and that is "on board" with being with you and committed to the marriage. It may feel like a win if you are able to talk or trick your husband into coming back, but in truth, this is just a short term victory that will often back fire later. In this article, I'll discuss tips and advice that are meant to help you get your husband to want (with all his heart) to come back and to save the marriage once and for all.

Understand Why He Really Left (Regardless Of What He Is Saying With Words): Often, when women email me with statements like "well, my husband just left me, now what do I do?," my first question is always "why, exactly, did he leave?" Usually there is silence followed by a whole string of things that "could" be one cause. They will tell me things like: "he says he's not in love with me anymore," or "he says it's not me, it's him," or "he won't tell me anything, just that he doesn't want to be married any more."

Sometimes, the answer appears clear cut, like he's having an affair or he's leaving for the other woman. However, regardless of what he is saying with body language or with words, every one of these reasons really comes back to one similar thing - a lack of intimacy and connectedness to his wife. Some men will be sad about this, but want out all the same. Some men are angry or disappointed. Some men shut down all together. However, the outcome is always the same - these men have lost the feeling of "being in love" and being intimately connected to their wives and they don't know how to get it back or they don't feel that it can be risen from the dead again. (Of course, you suspect this isn't true. So, you have to show him (very skillfully) the flaw in his thinking.)

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What Men Really Want From Their Wives (Although They May Not Even Know It Or Be Able To Explain It): I know that a husband's lack of explanation and communication can be maddening. I can not tell you how many women tell me "if I knew what he wanted, I'd give it to him, but he won't tell me, and everything I try backfires." Well, believe it or not, men are a lot like us. They usually think they shouldn't have to tell us, and often, they can't articulate what they are wanting very effectively. But, some of them do visit my site and dialog with me. And, I can tell you with complete certainty that many of them want the same things that every one wants (including us.)

They want to feel deeply loved, completely understood, highly valued, very competent, greatly appreciated, and that they are absolutely worth your time and attention. They want to have lighthearted fun with you. They want to have a positive, not negative feelings based on shared positive experiences. They don't want to have to compete for this with your boss, your aging parents, your children, or your other obligations. I know this sounds harsh. It is harsh. But, this is the truth as I know it. They want that connection and commitment that they felt when you first fell in love. Please don't use this information to feel dejected or that it is too late. I'm telling you this because I believe it is not too late, but I believe you have to know what he wants in order to give it to him and to get him back. However, this will take some finesse. You can't appear desperate or like you are acting when you do this. So, let's get to it.

What You Need To Know (And Do) In Your Quest To Get Your Husband Back: So now we know what your husband wants. And, before you take any action, you need to always remember two things. First, you want to always appear attractive (this is not just physical.) And you want to create positive experiences. When I say attractive, I don't necessarily mean your physical appearance (although you should take this into account and make it the best that it can be.) No, what I mean is that, as I've explained, a woman who is most attractive to a man is the one who completely "gets" him and what he is about, but loves him passionately anyway and shows him this on a regular basis. With that said, men do not find woman who try too hard or "yes wives" at all attractive. They like interesting, busy, self confident, and alluring women. It's a huge ego boost for them to know that a woman who has so much going on is going to take the time and effort for them. So, you can't just have one part of this equation. So, how does this work in real life? Like this.

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The best way to show your husband the woman he first fell so hard for is to bring back the attributes that he loved the most. This is a difficult exercise for many women because it is hard to look at yourself in this way. But, I can tell you what men overwhelmingly tell me and this is that they love a woman with a laid back sense of humor, open heart, razor sharp interest, and a woman who can take the time to really understand and appreciate them. It's highly likely that your husband fell in love with someone with a quick wit, a ready smile for him, and someone who took the time to know what would lighten his load and brighten his day and then took action.

Now, he's obviously left, so you don't have immediate access to him. But, I'll bet you know where he is or where he is hanging out. However, you don't just show up there, with this plan in hand. No, first you go out with friends (mutual friends are best) and put a smile on your face. You put your best self on full display with the full intention that he finds out. After a reasonable amount of time has passed, you bump into him or, if you have to, your arrange a meeting where you need to return something or exchange something. You make sure he knows that the woman he fell in love with is still there and that she is busy and carrying on. You conduct yourself with dignity and respect. You are upbeat, lighthearted, and you are always focused on positive interactions. Eventually, he will not longer try to avoid you and will likely want to see more of you because this new you is something that is pretty intriguing.

Always let him take the lead and never be the initiator or push too hard. Again, you are the vibrant, open hearted woman who would love to save her marriage, but who respects her husband enough to deal with this situation in the most positive way she can, fully confident that this new person he sees will remind him very much of someone he once loved so much that he married her.

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It's inevitable; your spouse does something that irritates you. And then, in the UNHEARD space of your mind you gripe and vent to yourself about how much your spouse irritates you or how mad they make you. You may even go so far as to dwell upon thoughts of how much you don't like them, how much you wish they were just gone.

But, those thoughts are just the start... Now, you really get going... In the UNSEEN recesses of your mind, you start imagining all kinds of sordid ways to "cure" your spouse, to "correct" them, to "fix" them, and especially, to get back at them, to get even with them, to punish them. Before long, if you don't curb it, you can have a scene going on in your head that far exceeds anything ever seen in a horror movie.

The problem is, your unheard thoughts and unseen imaginations have a very real, very tangible power to them that over time has a major negative impact upon your marriage.

With the thoughts and imaginations of your mind, you are literally cursing your marriage relationship. You're mentally PROJECTING ill-will, hatred, resentment, bitterness, and strife into your marriage - and every time you do this, it widens the gap between you and your spouse.

And, as you get more and more experienced at having these negative thoughts and imaginations about your spouse, they become more and more powerful - and this stronger energy separates you even further from them.

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Now, let me ask you, how much sense does it make to think and imagine even more trouble, distance, and division into your marriage relationship? I think you'll agree with me that it really doesn't make much sense at all.

But, if you have the power to do it "wrong", then you must necessarily also have the power to do it "right".

The "right" way is to use your mind to think, to imagine, to project goodwill, lovingness, supportiveness, and appreciation for your spouse.

ESPECIALLY, when you're mad at your spouse...that's when above all times you want to DEMAND of yourself that you channel and control your thoughts and imaginations in the positive direction.

This can be a real test of one's will-power. For most people, it really "rubs against their grain" to even consider the notion of not giving into negative thoughts, imaginations and emotions when their spouse does something that displeases them.

But when you do, you unleash one of the most powerful forces available to you...the power of NON-RESISTANCE.

Water serves as a wonderful example. You can "hit" water as hard as you want - and you can't hurt it. You can put water into any shape or form and it molds itself to the form unharmed. It's non-resistant. And yet, if you "resist" that water in certain ways, it's powerful enough to cut you into pieces, to crush you, to totally destroy you.

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It's the same in your marriage, when you let those irritating things that inevitably crop up in a marriage "flow on by like water" without any resistance, they have no energy with which they can harm you. Conversely, the more you resist them, the more powerful they become - even to the point of destroying your marriage.

And, you let them "flow on by" by focusing your mind upon the outcome and the results that you want in your marriage. If your spouse has done something hurtful, focus your mind upon thoughts and imaginations of them being a loving, caring, non-hurtful person. Create a scene in your mind of them being a person that really meets your needs and pleases you in every way.

In doing so, you mentally project blessings into your marriage. And as before, those unseen, unheard thoughts and imaginations have a very real, a very tangible power that will soon enough be seen and heard in the physical realm of your marriage.

Give this a try for yourself. Try it out the next time you're offended at your spouse and prove to yourself that your persistently loving and non-resistant mind directed at your spouse will smooth out whatever the trouble is in a way faster, more peaceful, more harmonious way than the negative, resistance approach ever has.

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What should you be doing when your husband ignores you? This is a question that many married women would love an answer to. Why is it that once the courtship is over, and he's married to you, he stops being as attentive? The nights when he used to bring your flowers for no reason are a thing of the past. At times, you likely feel that your husband isn't even listening to you when you talk. Is there a way to change this or are you destined to spending the rest of your life with a man who takes you for granted? You actually have the power to completely transform your marriage and make your husband more attentive and romantic than he's ever been before.

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One thing you absolutely must do when your husband ignores you is create a bit of distance between the two of you. When a couple marries, the man feels secure and confident in his wife's love and devotion. He knows that she'll be there for him so he just stops trying to impress her. Your husband is likely accustomed to you wanting to talk to him, so he shuts you out. The key to get him to pay more attention to you is to pay less attention to him. If you busy yourself with other things, things outside the home, he's going to sit up and take notice almost immediately. He's going to feel his grip on you loosening and it will make him realize he needs to pay attention to you again.

You've also got to show him that you have a life beyond the walls of your home. If you're someone who devotes most of her time to her family, your husband may have started taking you for granted. Unfortunately, sometimes our husbands don't realize they devalue us when we focus on the household instead of outside interests. Find something new to be passionate about. It can be anything from taking on a part time job to doing some volunteer work. You need to show your husband that you are still a vibrant woman with many different interests.

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"Oh, how great it felt in our marriage ceremony, how great it was! And then our honeymoon... but now, look at what our marriage has become! My marriage needs help!"

I don't know about you, but the above sounds exactly like how I was feeling when my marriage was ending and I was looking desperately for something that would save it. When your marriage is going down the drain, it's impossible not to remember all the good days. I thought there was no hope. But I was wrong. With the things I was taught to do next, I not only saved the marriage but made it better than it had ever been. So, I hope to be YOUR mentor now, the person who will teach you how to save your marriage. Bear with me.

What made me realize that my marriage needs help was that my spouse was making it clear to me that he wasn't attracted to me anymore. Everything was going down, we didn't do anything together, we barely talked, we always fought. Nevertheless, I didn't want to lose my family, so I did the best I could think of.

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Unfortunately, when you are desperate do something, the best you can think of is actually no good. I tried to argue with my spouse to the point about why we shouldn't divorce and how awesome a couple we actually were. I tried to discuss every little issue we were having with the marriage. Could that work? No! In fact, it always led to more fights and my spouse got even more fed up with me.

When you are saying "my marriage needs help", you must understand that saving a marriage is not an overnight process. It takes time, commitment and patience. So, the first piece of advice I am going to give you is that you should not act according to your instincts. I am sure your instincts are telling you to beg and plead right now - but that will never work. What WILL work is a plan of action you have to create by thinking logically and not emotionally. If you think "my marriage needs help", do not let your feelings misguide you into doing the wrong things!

Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your spouse to feel even more distant from you. You can make your spouse fall back in love with you, all over again.

You don't have to worry about whether your spouse is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make them fall hopelessly in love with you.

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