By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
Prince William and Kate Middleton have dated each other since their days at the University of St. Andrews in England. However, some divorce lawyers say the second-in-line to the throne of England would be “well advised” to seek a prenuptial agreement.
Kate was born in Reading, England. We are proud to say we have been there and have interviewed successfully married couples in that fair city.
For the most part, we believe that Pre-Nuptial Agreements are a bad idea! Just imagine, telling someone that you love him or her, but you don't trust him or her! If Prince William were to ask Kate to sign a Pre-Nuptial Agreement, what does that say about his trust in her and his faith about their future together?
To us, this is analogous to having two separate checking accounts in a marriage -- one for him and one for her. In both cases it becomes a case of yours and mine. Or, how about this, “I love you with the following conditions.” Whatever happened to US? We? Love without conditions?
Frankly, we don't believe that the true meaning of "marriage" allows for this sort of duplicitous relationship between two people who say they love each other. True love means true love. You can't have a bonifide loving and successful marriage or relationship when you have a Pre-Nuptial Agreement! People who invented this concept don't know anything about real love and real relationships. Only people with an agenda would encourage something so anti-love, so anti-relationship, and so anti-marriage.
Why do we need pre-nuptial agreements? What ever happened to pure, unconditional love! We believe it still exists! It is still the norm, thank goodness!
According to Wikipedia, “There are two types of prenuptial agreements: a marriage contract for people who are married or about to be married, and a cohabitation agreement for unmarried couples. A variation for people who are already married is a postnuptial agreement.” We think all three are bad for love, bad for relationships, and bad for marriage. Here’s why.
In our research with successfully married couples for nearly 30 years on six of the world’s seven continents, we have found a number of recurring and pervasive themes. Foremost among them is an abiding trust in and for each other. They trust each other completely and without conditions. People who truly love each other do so without conditions. They have unconditional love – as it should be.
Like most things in successful relationships, the little things matter. Caring deeply for someone – loving someone – is only as real as the honesty of the relationship between the two people who profess to love and care for each other.
We ask you these questions – Do you truly and deeply love someone else? Do you care for another human being more that you care for yourself? Is there someone in your life that you would die for? Is there someone you would like to spend the rest of your life on Earth with? Is there someone you share your deepest and darkest secrets with? Is there someone that you cannot imagine life without?
If the answers to all of the above are the same for both of you, then you are completely and wonderfully in love. People like you do not need a pre-nuptial agreement. What you do need to do is spend your lives together. What you do need to do is cement your relationship with each other.
What you do need to do is all of the simple things required to make your marriage or relationship work. What you don’t need to do is sign a pre-nuptial agreement! Let love reign!
In love and life, the simple things matter ! This simple message applies to Prince William and Kate as well!
By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
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