Psychological Tricks to Get An Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend Back - Tips To Get An Ex Back
How do I make my ex boyfriend be my friend again?
This recurrent question is asked repeatedly by many. Making a successful and promising contact with your Ex is the first aspect of getting back your ex and it's also a great step on the road to reverse the breakup. However, it's one of the controversial steps in the whole process of reconciling with your Ex. If you make several unprofessional efforts to contact your Ex, you could find out that you unconsciously push off your ex boyfriend/girlfriend further away from you. On the other hand, if you delay too long in contacting your Ex, he/she could begin dating someone new already. So this has to do with the right timing and knowing exactly how to go about striking a promising contact.
I already mentioned that Getting your Ex to make contact with you is a great step on the road to reverse the breakup. This is because the lines of communication between you and your Ex will have to be re-opened in order to settle the dispute. However one more thing you must ensure before trying to reestablish contact with your Ex is to give your Ex some space (which I believe has occurred already); disappear for a while and break all contacts. This will make your Ex miss you back so badly, I'll explain better.
Yea right - You'll only begin getting positive result in reconciling with your Ex as you totally break communication for sometime long enough for him/her to miss you.
From the onset of the breakup, it's advisable to leave your Ex alone. By so doing you are giving him/her some time to reminisce about and miss you. When your ex breaks up with you, the first thing he/she wants is a little space (usually to enable both parties get over the heat of the conflict) - and there is nothing wrong with that. I know a lot of folks are not willing to give that breathing space, probably they think that they can quickly get back with their Ex by trying several ways to contact their Ex without seeking proper advice and counsel. Well, what do you expect? This indirectly halts their chances of getting back together.
If you have been bombarding your Ex with incessant calls, text or whatever means, you may as well be pushing him/her to the edge. If you are guilty of this act, you might have previously done things like always calling your Ex incessantly, sending or dropping him/her notes or still leaving him flowers without. You have probably made calls, sent emails, text messages... doing everything you thought was important to make your Ex know that you still need and love him/her. Truly, despite the fact that greater part of your approach was for your own benefit: you did it because you desperately want him/her back. Perhaps you in fact did not consider your Ex' feelings or needs at all, moreover you were overwhelmed with the desperate need to get reconciled to your Ex.
Possibly, you are feeling confused thinking and wondering "Can I ever get reconciled with my Ex to a loving relationship? Why is my Ex not responding? He hasn't called me yet?" Friends, the answer is easy: it is all because your Ex currently does not miss you. I tell you, if you leave your Ex alone for a while without contacting him/her and has a few weeks to juggle around with the break up, he will usually realize very soon that he need you so much more than he thought he did (it's a usual occurrence). Your Ex will find himself/herself in a panic mode if he/she doesn't see or hear from you. He/she will begin to ponder whether you have moved on without him/her. Your Ex will begin to think that you have gotten over the dilemma of the break up? They keep thinking; Have you found another lover? All of these thoughts will turn up in the mind of your Ex, making him anxious to know what exactly you are doing at the moment.
Now, coupled with the fact that he hasn't spoken to you for a long time, this is where your Ex will develop desire to call you.
"Are there other ways of communicating with my Ex lover? What should I do to make my Ex make contact with me?"
There are a lot of potentially effective methods you can put into operation to compel your Ex to reestablish contact once more. Some of the simplest and popular ideas are listed below:
The 'I Found something that belongs to you' Call -- Find something that belongs to your Ex that he forgot or left at your house then give him/her a call pretending as though you intend to return it (or have him pick them up from your place). Remember to do it nicely. Moreover to get your Ex to call back, you can make the call at a time, you know he will be absent from home and drop a message. If you've stayed away from contacting your Ex for some time, I bet he/she is already consumed with hunger to speak with you again, thus guaranteeing a callback.
The 'How's Family Doing?' Call - If you were close to your Ex' family, asking about their family members is another way to reestablish contact with your Ex. Asking about the well being of their family members shows your caring personality and more importantly opens the door to reestablish contact with your Ex. This technique works excellently especially in a condition where your Ex has relatives who is ill or admitted in the hospital, about to undertake surgery, a sibling who is about to begin college or a special event concerning any member of his/her family... you can make use of special occasions as a means to reestablish contact. An example is this; make a phone call asking "Hey, how has your dad been doing?" Don't be afraid that your Ex will suspect that you have hidden intentions. Your Ex won't suspect because it's been long since you last made contact, rather he/she will think you have a caring heart.
* Calling to Congratulate -- Another powerful technique to get your Ex to make contact: call to congratulate him on something like an achievement, progress made, new development e.t.c. You could congratulate your Ex on his/her birthday, a promotion at work, an award anything worth congratulating. You've got a good excuse to call and wish him/her the best. Also, doing it when he is absent from home by leaving a message on the answering machine will get your ex to call you back, just like you want it.
Other potentially effective techniques are available that you can apply to help you get reconciled to your Ex. Furthermore, recognizing exactly what to do and say when he calls is more necessary. That's what you need to find out and know. When you successfully reestablish contact with your Ex, you and I know that it doesn't stop there. You still have to continue with the reconciliation process if you want your Ex to fall in love with you again.
Obviously, you require a step by step method of reconciliation. As you apply these secrets I have showed you today also you need to learn what to do to get back into a loving relationship with your Ex. There is so much you have to learn, as a matter of fact, reconciling into a healthy relationship is difficult than just getting you Ex to contact you. The time when he finally does call, make sure you are equipped with right information on what to do or say and exactly how to deal with the conversation are two important aspect of getting back your ex boyfriend into a healthy relationship with your lover.
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