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Lately many of my clients say to me: Jill, I find it difficult to find the courage to face the challenges in my life, do you have any suggestions?
Hmm, I see some heads nodding so most of you know what I am talking about.
The other day another client was furious; you could see “smokes” coming out of her head. She had been on a date, liked the guy. She liked him but… he kept talking about his ex…. During the whole date….
Whether we are separated, whether we get fired, or we get involved in a car crash, bad things, situations happen. It is quite common as well to separate, get fired and get involved in a car crash at the same time. During that time we are very sad. It is as if we are stuck on the bottom. Those days you feel worthless with no energy to react. There is no courage not event to look up, our head faces the ground. Has someone been there?
Well, there is good news. First of all, these things happen to everybody. Life brings ups and downs to everybody. Second of all, you have a choice. Choice one is to stay on the floor. Weep, and whine for the bad things that happen to you. Discuss it with your friends, your mother, your hairdresser and your pet. Communicate the disaster that has happened to everybody. Spend energy and time towards this. And stay on the floor…
The other option is to see the situation from above. Really understand what went wrong. What lessons do you learn from this experience? What will it teach you for the future? Where do you need to pay attention from now on? You may also ask for feedback, from your environment. Ask questions like, “how did you see me creating this situation?” What did I do wrong?
When you do yourself critique and realize the learning you are getting from your challenge, get up from the floor. Just gather all your strength and get up. Do whatever you can to rebound. This is what differentiates successful people from the others. Think about it, bad things happen to everybody. The big difference is that successful people rebound much quicker than the rest. They take the lessons, take the dust off and run. They don’t stay on the floor. They live today, and let go of the past.
You will get up easier if you find alternatives. It is important to change the way you react, it is important to learn the lessons. If not you will get through the same challenges in the future with different people. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
Check for alternatives. What do successful people do in relevant situations? Observe, ask and do research so that nothing similar happens again.
The only person you can influence in the world is…. Yourself. The duration you will stay on the floor is your decision. It could be 1, 2, 3, months or years. So what is your choice this … or the other…
Be Unique!
Τζιλ Δούκα
Life Coach, εισηγήτρια, συγγραφέας
Jill Douka supports people to take action, feel secure and get the greatest value from their future. She is a coach, workshop leader and author, lives in Athens, Greece, next to the sea, working with clients from 3 continents. She is the founder of http://www.uniquenessdevelopmentgroup.com
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