To have respect in relationship means to be able to value each other, and understand to accept each other wholly by who you are, and not by what you are. So when you are belittling each other, you are not living with respect at all. Love without respect is useless. With love, there is respect, and with respect there is also love. How can you love someone without respecting him?
In a long term relationship, the feelings grow deeper as we see the personality of each one during the best and worse times. You will both discover the imperfections and worst personality ever. More so, flaws are part of married life, and the ability to accept those are opening doors for respect. So don't allow disrespect to happen in the relationship especially on times when you feel you know each other well. Earning the respect of our partners and vice versa is really essential as respect always comes with love.
1. Do not pretend as somebody; Be REAL
You have to remember that your partners will love you more when you never change; you are still the person he/she loved before. Do not ever suddenly transform yourself in order to please anyone and mostly your partner; being YOU is enough to actually please your partner. As such, it allows for the respect to arise.
2. Respect alone can cause respect
Learn to gain respect within yourself and you can then respect others. The ability to respect yourself should be coming from what is inside of you. You cannot expect your partner to respect you when you are not worthy to be respected as a person. So, think about it and it makes sense.
3. Give your efforts for the sake of the relationship
It is always two to tango, and so working together towards the betterment of the relationship is far better than only ONE is doing everything to keep it. Two parties have to be involved on either saving or reaching out the damaged relationship. Always show to your partner that you have always been there through the good and bad times. Remember, respect comes when you both are proactive in the relationship.
4. Be remarkable
This doesn't mean that you will be wearing fascinating clothes and heavy make-up. Make him/her feel that you have never changed, that you are still the person he/she loved and cared for. So, always show to your partner and vice versa that nothing has really changed; it's you and it's still him.
5. Learn to stand on your own and be OPEN
Being independent means you know how to decide for your own and can be able to find ways and means to live on Remember,you are mostly respected when you can stand on your own.
Honesty is also an important tool to earn someone's respect. When you are honest, you are very vocal about your feelings and sentiments which make your partner feel that you are true to him, thus earning his respect.
6. Love yourself.
Never allow yourself to be emotionally attached and dependent to your partner or else you can never have his or her respect. Make time for yourself, to enjoy the life in you and to always try to be the best for yourself and to your partner.
7. Listen from your heart
To listen means you are allowing the partner's thoughts and feelings to be absorbed and felt by you. It is not all the time that you talk over an argument, it is also best to listen to your partner, his or her views and opinions so that the process of communication is followed and at the same time your partner appreciates you for respecting him or her through listening.
Respect in relationship is applicable to all, be it at home, school, work, etc. As always, respect is everywhere around the globe, but only few have the heart's desire to value it and practice it. On the contrary, in connection with relationship, respect is one of the major points why there exists such a lasting relationship. It not just simply saying that you respect; it is more like putting it into practice. In every relationship, showing respect is a learned process that cannot be achieved overnight. Indeed, planting respect in life can make you better and wiser as a person.