***Romance is a Balancing Act

Did you know that romance and passion are actually energy?

Romance and passion are a balance of masculine and feminine energy.  And it doesn’t matter if you are married, single and want to be married or in a committed relationship…no matter what body you are in, male or female…when you learn to balance the masculine and feminine energy in your relationship, there is respect, excitement and tenderness for each other.  You create a life of hot passion and sweet romance!  Sound good?

So how do you balance the energy to get more romance and passion?

First, you must promise that you’ll never give up who you are for anyone or anything!  This is one of the two things that I taught my children to remember me by. (The second, in case you wondered, is that you always, always have a choice.)  Marriage is one of those places where it is easy for us women to give up who we are, lose our voice and forget what our truth is.  Who we are and what our truth is matters in our marriage and in the world.  Hey!  Own who you are!

Second, you and your mate must decide who is the masculine and who is the feminine energy in your marriage.  Traditionally, the male or the husband, is the masculine and the female, or the wife, is the feminine.  But it can be the other way around, or even in a same sex relationship, somebody is the masculine energy and somebody is feminine energy.  One masculine, one feminine.  If you have two masculine energies or two feminine energies together, trying to be happy and trying get what they want from the relationship, it won’t work.  There will be too much conflict, chaos, and trauma-drama!

Third, learn what the characteristics of masculine are and what the characteristics of feminine are and be willing to have an open mind about what you think you know!  For example, masculine energy is giving, protective, cherishing of your feelings and active. I know, you thought giving was a feminine characteristic.  Me, too, for the longest time.  No wonder we women are worn out!  We are always giving instead of receiving! Feminine energy is receiving, softer, respecting of your man, passive. Please note:  I did not say “submissive.” I’ll never ask you to be submissive.  Not my style either.  Passive is using your femininity and letting your man give to you first, which makes you both happy!

Fourth, think complementing rather than competing with each other.  Your relationship is not a game. One half is masculine, one half is feminine.  Masculine and feminine complement each other.  Think Bogey and Bacall, yellow cake and chocolate frosting or summer and flip flops.  One is not any better than the other but when you put the two together you get “yummy!”  If you are being all masculine and competing with your man, guess what will happen?  His caveman DNA to win the game is going to kick in and you are going to get your feelings hurt or you’ll say things you’ll wish you hadn’t!  You may win the game but the cost will be a lack of intimacy and a disconnection between you.  Is that what you really want?  I didn’t think so.

It’s time to balance the energy in your marriage and create hot passion and sweet romance!

Try the four tips above and see what happens!  You don’t have anything to lose!  It’s only energy, right?

Then experience the respect, excitement and tenderness that are meant for you as a woman.

Because you are a woman who is so worth it!