Secrets To Build Extraordinary Love Relationships

What attracts us to a soul a mate is varied and depends on a lot of things among which is the person’s ability to make you feel loved or one whose sight alone sets your emotions jerking and set on fire. However often times, those quality we see and admire in our partner at the later stage of our married life may turn into thins we dislike most about them. You cannot really give what you don’t have. To create the love you ever desire, what you must do first and foremost is to begin to love and appreciate yourself. Know your worth and don’t see yourself as valueless.

Developing the following interpersonal skills will help you to create that type of love you are craving for:

1) The amount of self love you have determines to a great extent the type of love you’d create

You must be able to differentiate self love with looking after yourself. To love yourself, you need to create a good relationship with yourself. You need to see yourself how you are and begin to appreciate everything about you including your physical features. Sometimes, you’d notice that you may not like the shape or size of one part of your body or the other but if you have self love, you’d work hard at devising strategies to really come to appreciate that size or shape of body part if not for anything for the fact it made you complete human with all the features you need to possess a s a human. Apart from that unit performs one function or the other in your body. Loving yourself means also means to create your own limits and boundaries, being self-reliant and convinced about your value. You must also believe that you have right to express your feelings and desires. This is a must for all healthy, authentic relationships with others

2. Effective communication

To create the type of relationship you desire you need to be able to communicate effective with each other. It is by talking that your partner would know how you feel and what you want and unless you voice it cannot be exactly figured even though it may be perceived. If you truly love yourselves, you should be able to let your partner know in clear terms your desires, your fears, your worries, your needs and your expectation without undermining him or her.
Happy couples are genuine, defenseless, and sincere with each other. They make demands in an effort to meet their needs. For your relationship to be successful, efficient communication is accepted is inevitable.

3. You must possess skills to handle and resolve conflicts if you want to create the love you ever desire.

Creating the love you want doesn’t mean free from conflict. There are bound to be such moments but your ability to resolve the crisis and rise above it is what keeps you going. Instead of conflict become an impediment, to create the love you want you are able to turn crisis situation into an opportunity for further development

4. You must be able to plan and establish strategies to keep your sexual feelings for each other alive

To create that type of love that you ever desire, you must never lose sight of the significance of intimacy in your relationship. It keeps you going even when other things have failed. An intimate relationship and a sex life that is built on perfect love are reassuring. To make your love life last, you must make satisfying each other’s sexual desire a priority. You must therefore consciously figure out times and strategies to keep re-igniting and re-energizing your love life. Believe it or not, your relationship will not be the ideal if it is lacking in sexual satisfaction and fulfillment.

5. See your coming together as a part of your destiny
When you see your marriage as part of your destiny, you would be much more able to create the type of relationship you crave for.

It is easier for you to feel so much attraction to each other when you focus more on that cause or purpose for which you are together. If you see that there is a purpose you are meant to achieve together, you will work harder to ensure that it is fulfilled. Your purpose may be a value you share together. If you see God’s hands in your union, you’d always look at that divine purpose for some sort of comfort and inspiration when the going becomes tough.

6. It helps to have a royal model to look up to
Majority of people who created the love they ever desired had some royal model they looked up to for inspiration.

Apart from royal models you may also subscribe to the services of relationship experts to help you deal with your relationship and love life. The good thing about majority of these relationship experts is that they are couple themselves. They are experienced people not just knowledgeable in that regard. So, with their experience and knowledge, they are able to guide and direct you on how you must constantly act if you hope to create that type of love life that you crave for. All in all, you need to work hard.

7. Learn from your past experience and grow from it
When the going becomes tough, we tend to let go of the lessons that comes with it but if you are able to check what led to the crises, what you did well and what you did not do well, you may be able to develop yourself and your relationship further. Instead of ruminating over what has happened, draw inspirations from it and move forward.
If you think you have not been able to create the type of love you want, you may wish to ask yourself questions to really discover what is wrong and what you need to do. Ask yourself, what is it about your partner that you are not happy with, check whether that thing that you are now unhappy with is one of his or her traits/features you use to admire when you started out. If it is the case, it means the problem is from you and not really your partner. It is possible that that trait of your partner is pointing to you an aspect of your life that need to be further worked upon.