I have very few regrets in life, but one of them is that I did not realize early in life just how incredibly POWERFUL words are.
Words spoken out loud.
Words spoken to yourself.
Words spoken over people.
Words you hear.
Words you read.
Words you assimilate as a child and as you are socialized.
You and I have an shockingly powerful ability to impact both the world around us and what we believe by the words we speak out and the words we allow to influence us.
Please allow me to share a personal view:
I believe that human beings are created in God’s image. And God actually “spoke” the world into existence.
It is certain therefore that we have a God given ability to literally speak things into existence with the words that come out of our mouth. Think about the implications of that! We can bring into existence GOOD things or we can bring into existence negative things.
Understanding the power of words and Self Talk will literately take you to a new plane in your journey to success.
One of the most important but sadly one of the most overlooked factors that affect what we can achieve is self talk.
Researchers have found that of the tens of thousands of thoughts a person has every day, a huge percentage are negative. Often we vocalize these statements and many times we don’t even realize it!
Consider the following:
“What an idiot I am.”
“I’m so stupid.”
“I suck at that.”
Then there is the more serious and often not vocalized negative self talk:
“I will never succeed.”
“Life is passing me by.”
“I will never achieve my goals.”
“Nice guys finish last.”
“I can never lose weight.”
“No-one likes me.”
The amazing truth about self talk is you gravitate towards and become what you say to yourself.
If you say to yourself “I can never lose weight”, that becomes an actual reality for you.
If you say “I will never achieve my goals” that will be true – you never will!
We often use words that are damaging to ourselves and others. We don’t mean to. It is simply that very few of have been taught just how powerful words, especially spoken words, really are.
Why is it that great orators and speech makers can move us?
Why is it that great coaches can motivate a team with words?
Why is it that great actors can change our emotional state with their words?
Why is it that words can build a child’s self esteem or shatter it?
How is it that the words of a song or a book or an advertisement can change our behavior?
How is it that a well worded argument can change our opinion?
How is it that we can be deeply hurt, sometimes for years, by words spoken to us?
Because words are far more powerful than we have been taught to believe.
Because of the huge power words and therefore of self talk, it is critical to pay attention to what you are saying to yourself. The good news is you can practice positive self talk and over time you can change your self talk and therefore your reality by only saying positive things.
Tip #1 Deliberate Positive Statements
I go for a walk and I repeat a number of positive statements to myself such as:
“I’m going to be energetic, enthusiastic, and feel great all day”
“I’m healthy and fit and I don’t get sick”
“I’m going to be the best dad and husband in the world”
Write your own list and start speaking into your own life. It might seem a bit “out there” but most high achieving sport people do exactly this.
Tip # 2 Override Negative Self Talk
Ensure you immediately eliminate any negative self talk whether thoughts or verbalizations. If I catch myself in negative self talk I will over-ride it with a positive statement.
Tip # 3 Gratitude
Speaking aloud how grateful you are is a powerful way to reinforce positive thoughts and attitudes. We all have many things we can be grateful for:
Eyes that see.
A heart that beats.
Yours for a Life filled with positive words!
Oli Hille is the author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling Personal Development book “Creating the Perfect Lifestyle” which was reviewed as the “Must have book of the century” (by Midwest Book Review, USA).