It’s Monday and I’ve accomplished absolutely nothing today. I just can’t seem to get motivated. I guess it’s time to check my alignment once again.
What’s that? Check my alignment? Why whatever do you mean?
Let me explain. About eight years ago, I was in the same situation. I had lost all motivation. I just couldn’t find the excitement and the passion for my work that I’d had in the past. I actually dreaded having to go to work each day. Then I read an amazing article. It said that just as your car will squeak and make unpleasant sounds when it is not in alignment, so too will your soul when your business tasks are not in alignment with your vision, mission and values.
You have completed the first step towards building your own business. You’ve examined your skills and your weaknesses and thought about what makes you passionate about life. Before investing more time and efforts to take your business the next level, you must evaluate first what your primary values are, how you prioritize them inside you, and, see if the business activities that will be necessary support and are in alignment with the priority of your values.
For example, eight years ago my father, who had Alzheimer’s, moved in with me. At the time, I used to travel quite a bit to speak to specific groups of people to market the business for the company I worked for. To be successful and get promoted, I needed to travel and speak and network more frequently. There were lots of late nights and long weeks and too many weekends when I was not at home.
But, family life is on the very top of my priority list, in a place higher than business or career success. So, whenever my work required that I travel for an extensive amount of time, my inner self experienced a misalignment. I still went ahead and did what my “head” told me I was supposed to do, but my heart was centered to my values. When the head pulls the whole body to do what it dictates it to do, the heart starts to send out signals to you that if you don’t make adjustments, you will not stay in wholesome health any longer. The heart sends out signals by decreasing your enthusiasm, motivation and self-esteem. You start seeing yourself get down more easily, you feel lonely, not understood and you feel that you get angry easily or you get blamed for shutting your emotions. And that is exactly what happened. Whereas I once enjoyed traveling and meeting with our clients, now I simply wanted to get the trip over with so I could get home. I started making excuses to cut trips short or to send someone else. And when I had to go I was sick and depressed most of the time. I did not give clients the attention they had come to expect. I knew I had to do something or instead of getting that promotion, I would be looking for a different job! That’s what prompted me to start my own business. Now I only travel when I want to and I almost always take my husband – and my dog – along!
In the article, it said that one of the easiest ways to figure out what your values are and in what priority they are in is to make a “Desire List.” Ask yourself, “What do you want?” Then, begin to jot down your list of answers. Don’t judge yourself for your wants. You need to create a safe and open environment for yourself so that your true self gets uncovered. Don’t be ashamed to say, “I want to own a house by the lake with an amazing view to the mountains and a dock for launching my very own boat.” Or, “I want to be the most influential leader and the expert of experts of my field.” Or, “I want to be a famous dancer!” Just let things flow. Let the same question come at you for 10 to 15 minutes. You may start getting bored of the same question, but you may start seeing what is hiding under those wants. Your initial “wants” are really saying, “I want to be recognized.” “I want to be trusted and respected.” “I want to be loved by my family members.’ “I want to be understood and loved for the real me.” “I want to make a difference in this world.”
Your wants and desires express your values.
Take your top 5 values and complete the following questions to get an inner alignment:
1. What are you doing on a daily basis to support these values?
2. What are you doing on a daily basis that does not support these values or that are in conflict with these values?
3. Will the activities necessary to start your business support your most important values? If not, can you modify your business life so that they do? Can you eliminate business activities that are in conflict with your values and still start the business you want? If these business activities are important to the growth of your business, what else is out there for you to consider for the replacement of such activities. Take the example above; ask yourself if you can find out ways to market the same audience through the phone, internet and other ways? Hold a teleseminar? If there is no way to modify your business activities, can you modify the business itself? For example, I still love planning events and I miss doing that. I’m working on a way to get back into that business online so I don’t have to travel and meet clients.
When you are a busy business owner you will have many activities and to-do’s everyday. Form the habit of running your business tasks through these results-proven questions and get your alignment checked periodically. It’s the best way to keep yourself headed for success. So, if you’ll excuse me, I’m off to Starbucks for a lube job with a Grande White Chocolate Mocha and an alignment with a visit to my grandkids. Once I get myself straightened out, I’ll run much more efficiently!
Melodieann Whiteley, Boomer-Living Director, is a retired Navy Cryptologic Technician. It was in the Navy that she first discovered her talent for meeting planning by initiating a series of training seminars. She is a Certified Master Trainer. After retiring from the Navy, she moved to Northwest Arkansas with her husband and family. There she continued working with meeting and event planning and training, first with a local biotech company and later with the local Girl Scout Council. Melodieann brings this unique experience with her to Boomer-Living.
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