When I heard Dr. John Gray, author of the best-selling Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, talking about his book, Why Mars & Venus Collide, I found it interesting when he described the differences in how men and women handle stress as well as why the sexes treat stress differently.
If I can put this in a nutshell, men’s brains, because of their limited number of neural receptors, have a sequential thinking pattern which means they think about one thing at a time. Women, on the other hand, possessing thousands more neural receptors than men, have expansive thinking patterns, which means we have a lot more on our minds at any one time.
Now add to that innate quality the fact that so many women are not only running the household but also being relied upon for part of the family income and you then have stress that is greater than has ever been recorded for women.
Through the years of my business as a voice specialist, I have found that the majority of my female clientele are sore in the neck and shoulder regions while others complain of sore jaws by the end of the day. And while some feminists today may try to tell us that there is essentially no difference between men and women, I have yet to have a man complain to me that he is sore and tense in those regions! Men handle stress differently because they don’t sweat the small stuff. We ladies, however, do. You may have a great husband who helps you, runs errands, and even does the dishes but we are the ones who have to tell them what needs to be done. We are carrying a tremendous load.
Interestingly, Dr. Gray further discussed the fact that, in the past, women were outliving men by 7 years. Those figures today are changing – and, they are not changing for the better. Many of our mothers, who are in the nursing homes today, were stay-at-home moms. We baby boomers and our daughters to follow are the ones who will discover that stress kills.
When I teach people how to improve the sound of the speaking voice, I am also teaching them how to breathe with the support of the diaphragm. You can not have one without the other. Shallow or lazy breathing, which is typical of 99% of the population, actually increases our tension because we are not able to eliminate the toxins in our body. Deep supported breathing, however, decreases stress because it eliminates those nasty toxins.
There are so many courses today on how to lower your stress, eliminate your stress, deal with your stress, and handle your stress. Why not try breathing? It’s simple; it’s basic; it’s normal; and it’s a lot healthier. All mammals breathe with this support; it is only the most intelligent of the mammals that stops this practice sometime during our childhood development and revert instead to shallow or lazy breathing.
Learn to breathe properly and discover the best way to reduce the stress in your life!
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