“Counterwill” is the name for the natural human resistance to being controlled. Although adults experience this phenomenon, we seem to be surprised when we encounter it in young people. Counterwill is the most misunderstood and misinterpreted dynamic in teacher-student relationships.
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Some experts suggest that a little stress is good, but high levels of stress are harmful to most people. However, it is possible to perform well when relaxed (think masters of kung fu). In my opinion, that should be the goal: a classroom (and life) that is productive and virtually ... Views: 63
A significant trait that teachers, students, and parents are concerned about is being consistent when it comes to discipline.
“How can I be fair, firm, and CONSISTENT?” was a question I continually asked myself, not only as a teacher, but especially as an assistant principal of supervision ... Views: 151
Brain compatible learning infers that learning will take place in a manner that is "natural." Unfortunately, however, many teachers expect students to learn in an "unnatural" way.
Let me explain by asking you to visualize the last time you dreamed. Not that you remember your dream, but did ... Views: 95
Problems with students so often arise from imposing, rather than eliciting. When teachers impose “logical” and/or “natural” consequences on students, they are using their authority to impose a form of punishment. It matters not if the adult’s intention is to teach a lesson. Imposed punishments ... Views: 110
Hopefully, society is well past the "politically correct" theory (an oxymoron in a democratic society) that the ONLY difference between a male and a female is in socialization-—that aside from reproductive organs, there is no difference between the sexes neurologically, psychologically, or ... Views: 90
In a perfect world, all aspects of life would be enjoyable. You'd not only love your job, but you'd also have a pleasant home life. However, a stressful home life can hinder workplace productivity. Sometimes that stress involves children.
Perhaps you've had this happen or have seen it occur ... Views: 60
When raising and disciplining children, many parents rely on rules. In reality, though, the use of the term “rules” in parenting is often counterproductive. Rules are used to control, not inspire. Although essential in games, rules are counterproductive in relationships.
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With any task in life, the approach you use helps determine the outcome. Parenting is no different. Your parenting approach may determine what the young person becomes.
Today’s parents have two models of discipline from which to choose. The older approach uses rewards and punishments—the ... Views: 217
If you find that disciplining your children and fostering a sense of responsibility in them is stressful or unsuccessful, the use of traditional parenting approaches may be the problem. Why? Because traditional parenting approaches, including using lectures, rewards, and punishments, rely on ... Views: 225