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- We're Human Beings, Not Beads - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Judy WidenerI recently heard a famous self-help guru insist that balance is impossible, so we must give up the idea that we can have it. With all due respect to my esteemed colleague, I couldn't disagree more. He defines balance as a state where nothing is happening. He's referring to the motionlessness ...
Views: 5 - Do You Fall Into The Trap of Irrational Thinking? - by Submitted on May 07, 2012 from Judy WidenerI recently ran across a word I haven't heard for a while: irrational. Like so many terms coined by psychiatry, it's been misunderstood and misapplied. I used to think that someone who behaved irrationally was crazy. Not so. A thought is irrational when it's illogical or unreasonable AND ...
Views: 47 - A Shocking New Revelation About Your Genes - by Submitted on May 02, 2012 from Judy WidenerThree hundred years ago, Isaac Newton proposed a radical new theory: the human body is a biological machine that responds solely to physical stimuli. Thus, the health of your physical machine is improved with nutrition, exercise and drugs. Accordingly, the mechanistic Central Dogma of ...
Views: 40 - The Neurology of Worry - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2012 from Judy WidenerDid you know that chronic stress causes physical changes in the size and activity of many of your brain structures? When they're swimming in the stress neurochemical cortisol, the prefrontal cortex (the CEO of the brain), and the hippocampus (houses long term memory) actually shrink in size. ...
Views: 77 - Your Success “Blind Spot” - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2012 from Judy WidenerSuccess is a quality, not a quantity. The quality you call success is a feeling. Totally separate from the stuff you accumulate. You could have 10 cars and a great title, but if the feeling of success is missing, you're not successful. You feel successful when you attain anything you deem ...
Views: 101 - Your Brain Is Nuts! - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2012 from Judy WidenerAs my never-ending quest continues for more understanding of how the human brain works, I'm sharing my discoveries with you. This week, the topic is two brain structures that are, well, a little nutty. • The amygdala is actually a pair (amygdalae) of tiny, almond-shaped structures perched on ...
Views: 108 - Why You'll Never Be Successful: A Biological Approach - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Judy WidenerAs a human being, you're a walking contradiction. Sure, success sounds good. But you're pulled between the opposing forces of security and stimulation. Freedom and commitment. However, you don't know how to balance them. And your brain fights your attempts to make your life better. So you ...
Views: 84 - Another Critical Life Skill You Aren’t Leveraging - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2012 from Judy WidenerHuman beings have survived for 2.5 million years because we are the most highly adaptable species on the planet. We adapt to both subtle and extreme shifts in our environment quickly. And for the most part, I believe, gracefully. When I used to visit my grandmother in Indiana, I’d fly in and ...
Views: 146(1 vote) - Six Things Your Life Coach Doesn't Want You To Know - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Judy WidenerThere are many confusing and false messages bouncing around in cyberspace about life coaching. After coaching 600 people over the past 13 years, talking with dozens of coaches and surfing the websites of about 100 more, I'm sharing my take on what coaching is—and isn't. I'd like to say upfront ...
Views: 92 - The Politics of Appreciation - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2011 from Judy WidenerWe all like to be appreciated. Everyone understands the value of acknowledging others, too. And yet, I observe others passing up hundreds of opportunities to appreciate every day. At this point in my life, I actively look for and pounce on chances to groove on others. But I wasn’t always so ...
Views: 95 - The Creativity Bone’s Connected to the Confidence Bone - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2011 from Judy WidenerHow was your day? We utter this question blithely every day, not realizing how monumental it is. Indeed, it’s the single most important question you’ll ever ask. We talk about life being short, but 80 years is really a long time. Life’s too long to fight evolution. When you have the ...
Views: 200 - The 4 Fundamental “Powers” of Life - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2011 from Judy WidenerOver the past 12 years, as I have been coaching more than 600 people, I’ve discovered that there are 4 fundamental Powers that lead to a fulfilling, balanced life. When you have fully developed all of these powers, you’ll have the greatest opportunity to experience life as joyful, free and ...
Views: 183 - Do You Know the Difference Between Boundaries and Walls? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Judy WidenerMy growing-up experience was common in our society. I learned to put up walls as the only way to keep others from taking too much from me too often. The implication is that I can’t trust you, so I have to protect myself from you. The downside is, walls keep everyone out all the time. The ...
Views: 296 - 5 Steps to Making Your Own Magic In A Down Economy - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2011 from Judy WidenerA commenter on my blog recently wrote: With my partner's layoff and my salary reductions at work, our household income is down 80%! I feel like I'm getting no where at work, and my remaining income after expenses is now supporting my partners start up business and her share of our bills....How ...
Views: 94 - Love is a Many Scary Thing - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Judy WidenerAs human beings, one of our primary needs is to cultivate healthy self-love. But at the same time, we have a strong drive to connect with others. Relating and loving are innate. The more people we have who love us, the more secure we feel, and the sweeter our lives are. The pleasures we ...
Views: 306 - Rethinking The Purpose Of Your Career - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerWhile you’re on this earth, you have the opportunity to express your distinctive passion and talents in a way that you find worthwhile. Your career is one mode for expressing your passion. While the rest of you evolves, your career will, too. Your choices will naturally shift over time as ...
Views: 106 - Debunking The Myth of Genius - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerUntil recently, IQ tests were considered the Holy Grail for predicting career success. But the traditional definition of intelligence is just too narrow to reflect all of the ways we think, learn and express our talents and skills. It’s inaccurate to state that mastering science is more ...
Views: 198(1 vote) - I Can’t Get No Satisfaction - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerYour emotional needs must be filled in order for you to feel truly fulfilled. But do you know what an emotional need is? Some emotional needs have a physical component. For instance, your need for physical shelter contributes to your need to feel safe. Other emotional needs require an ...
Views: 143 - I Give Intuition A Big Thumbs Up! - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerWhen you want something, your imagination will show you five dozen ways you can get it. The next thing your fertile creativity does is open up a clear, wide channel to your intuitive gut feelings—your built-in guide to choosing the best option. Here’s where things get tricky. You may have ...
Views: 145 - Life, Liberty and The Pursuit Of Happiness - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerIt’s interesting that the Founding Fathers didn’t describe our inalienable rights as life, liberty and happiness, but the pursuit of happiness. They were onto something. It’s while you’re in the process of getting what you want that you have the most profound experience of life flowing ...
Views: 95 - Gimme That Cookie! - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerThe key to fulfilling your heart’s desires is to recognize that your brain is hardwired to focus on what you want until you get it. You’re not wired to quit. In fact, giving up goes against human nature. And you possess the key skills needed to attain any desire. Skeptical? Here’s the proof: ...
Views: 113 - Your Success is Defined by Your Definition of Success - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerIt's common to watch as others become successful, then beat ourselves up because we're not getting as far as fast as they are. It's hard not to fall into the trap comparing ourselves to others. So how do we avoid it? First, let's explore the concept of success. What does the word success mean ...
Views: 80 - Cracking the Int-egg-rity Egg - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerTwo of the issues I often hear from my clients are: what’s the process for figuring out what values I feel accurately reflect what’s most important to me, and how can I pass them along to my children in a way that will make them more powerful? Our values define our character—the code of ...
Views: 340 - The Formula for Making Good on Your New Year’s Resolutions - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerWell, it's been a month since you made your New Year’s resolutions. How's it going? Are you making steady progress? Or, like most of us, have you given up on them? When you made your New Year’s resolutions for this year, you might have used the formula that is very popular these days among ...
Views: 146(4 votes) - The Formula for Making Good on Your New Year’s Resolutions - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerWell, it's been a month since you made your New Year’s resolutions. How's it going? Are you making steady progress? Or, like most of us, have you given up on them? When you made your New Year’s resolutions for this year, you might have used the formula that is very popular these days among ...
Views: 146(4 votes) - 6 Steps for Getting Un-Trapped by the Trappings of Modern Life - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerThe pace of change in today’s world can leave us all feeling a bit shell-shocked, insecure and fearful of losing what we’ve worked so hard to accumulate. If you’re feeling trapped by the trappings of modern life, forced to choose between spending precious time with the people you love or earning ...
Views: 353(1 vote) - The 10 Universal Laws of Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerYou may have heard about the Law of Attraction, also known as Karma, one of the universal laws that govern the human experience. Here’s my take on the universal laws that govern relationships. The Master Law: Cause and Effect, or Flash Karma This law poignantly plays out in your ...
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