If you think men just want to lead a bachelor life without any concern in the world while having you on the side because it's convenient to him, you are mistaken. Do realize that both men and women want to love and be loved. Both genders want a great relationship as it is our inherent need. Women in general are perhaps far more adamant and focused about this than men but there is nothing more beautiful for a man than being loved by a woman he adores.

I repeat: there is nothing more beautiful for a man than being loved by a woman he adores.

Men may say it otherwise, truth is most of them love being in relationship (or even married). It's especially true for those who have married and divorced. It may take a while for them to heal or come to that realization again, but they usually get there. Is there any other reason why some guys married and divorced more than a few times?

So if your man is divorced, it's actually a good sign. A lot of men love and miss being married and they often do it again -even against their better judgment to a wrong woman.

So don't get discouraged. It all takes relentless self-confidence and self-esteem on your part to make him see what a great catch you are.

The problem is a lot of women start up great in attracting men to fall in love with them -or to at least pursue them with zeal- but somehow a long the way she lost it. He's losing his interest, he's fading out or pulling away or just has second thoughts.

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What happened? What went wrong? Why doesn't he behave the way she expects him to behave? Why can't he find her more desirable while she's actually being very giving, nurturing and focusing all her life on him, putting his needs first before her own?

Women are at a total loss in dealing with men, in understanding their core emotional needs. Why do they act so differently to women?

I'm writing this to dilute all the mystery behind men and attraction: what made them fall in love, kept them attracted to you and finally commit to the only woman he can't live without.

You can be the Goddess that many men will give up their limbs to be with if you know the secret of pushing the right buttons with them. And it's actually not that complicated. It all starts with yourself: self-love, i.e. a woman who is so in love with herself and mesmerizes with her self-confidence, inner strength, feminine charm as well as vulnerability.

It all can be learned once the philosophy is mastered.

Our femininity is a gift to a man, that's how powerful we are by being soft.

If your relationship is somewhat rocky right now. And he goes hot and cold a lot of times, this will help you in the path of him committing to you forever.

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If he has become so distant, learn why here so you can take necessary steps to win him back and don't repeat the same mistake later.

If you have broken up (he dumped you.. Ouch!) and need the ultimate guidance on how to rekindle your broken romance, click here to learn the seven traits that a high value woman possess that will make him beg to take you back (reverse the table). It's really not too late to become that IT Girl.

Author's Bio: 

This article is one of the breakup series I write. Please check my author page for more articles on the subejct or join me in my ex-back support group and relationship forum for more tips on how to deal with your breakup and how to get yourself on the path of getting your love and your life back. Please also follow me on facebook: http://www.facebook.com/katarina.phang for my daily nuggets of reflections/insights/advice and tips on attracting and maintaining a lasting relationship and fixing a broken one.

Katarina Phang is an author, love/life coach specializing on reuniting couples and curing troubled relationship. She founded a free ex-back support group and relationship forum http://gettheloveyoudeserve.info.