By Americaâs #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
It is said that some 200 million stems of roses will be sold in the USA on Valentine's Day 2011. Imagine that! Thatâs a lot of expressions of love donât you think! We Americans love Valentineâs Day. We relish the opportunity to express our love to the one we love, and we do it through multiple venues.
People propose marriage, get engaged, express love, and give lots of flowers to the one they love on Valentineâs Day. What they are really saying is, âYou are My Valentine and I love you!â And the truth is, Valentineâs Day is romantic and sexual in its orientation for many. It is the ultimate âday of love!"
In so many ways, giving roses to the one you love is an expression of love for someone that really matters to you. Valentineâs Day is the perfect time to express your love. But think about it; are there better and less expensive ways to tell someone you love that they are the center of your universe? We think so.
We subscribe to the old adage that the best things in life are free. Valentineâs Day doesnât have to cost a dime of your hard-earned money during these trying economic times. Valentineâs Day, in the end, is all about love. It is about serving breakfast in bed to the one you love. It is about giving the gift of time instead of lavish or expensive gifts.
Donât over-emphasize the importance of giving THINGS. In the end, the greatest Valentineâs gift of all to the one you love is the gift of your time. Our research on six continents of the world and in 45 countries over these past three decades completely supports this notion.
Valentine's Day should be a time to reflect on and a time to share your love with the one you are in love with. When you truly love someone, you spend your âlove energyâ in the here and now. Valentineâs Day sometimes does often conjure up memories of lost love! Forget about that! Spend your time immersing yourself in todayâs love. Spend your time being thankful for who you love today. Hindsight is always 20-20. Love is sometimes blind, but your heart will tell you the difference. Spend time with the one you love on this highly important day. You will not regret it.
So, who is the love of your life on this Valentineâs Day? What do you plan to do to express your love to the one you love? Will it be an expensive affirmation of love? Or, will you give the gift of time to the one you love? The choice is yours.
We vote, however, for the gift of time. When you go to your grave, you cannot take material items with you. You can, however, take memories of love with you with your dying breath. Spending time with the one you love ensures your place in their heart. And you can take that kind of love with you!
Hereâs what we know. In our thousands of interviews, the most successful marriages and relationships repeatedly report this simple notion â being with their spouse is the most important part of their day. Nothing about love can replace the intimacy of being alone with your lover. Do not have any illusions when it comes to love â being with the one you love should be the nirvana of your day. If you donât feel this way, it is time to reflect on your relationship with the one you purport to love.
We are often asked this questionââDoes love exist only if you acknowledge it in front of other people?â Our answer â how ridiculous is this notion! Telling someone you love him or her should occur everywhere â in public, in private, and all around the town. People in love acknowledge their love wherever and whenever. Where they do it doesnât matter.
Always remember, every day is a day of sunshine when you are with the one you love. Valentineâs Day reminds us why our soul mate, our lover, and our best friend is the one we most want to spend our time with and to share our life with.
In the end, there is nothing more important in a loving relationship than the gift of time. Give the one you love this special gift today. You will not regret it. Make this your best Valentineâs ever!
In love and marriage the simple things matter. Love well!
By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
For hundreds of tips to enhance your relationship get the Doctorâs best-selling and multiple-award winning book Building a Love that Lasts: The Seven Surprising Secrets of Successful Marriage (Jossey-Bass/Wiley 2010) Available wherever books are sold.
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As Americaâs #1 Love and Marriage Experts and award-winning authors, Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz help international audiences answer questions about love, marriage and relationships. With 28 years of research on love and successful marriage across six continents of the world and their own 44-year marriage, the Doctors know what makes relationships work.
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