Your Life Blueprint is programmed and indoctrinated into your mind in the first five years of your life. The experiences you have with your parents, siblings, extended family, church, school, neighbors and community sets the stage for your future relationships—friends, co-workers, husband/wife, et al.

This programming and indoctrination includes, but is not limited to such admonishments as:

• You should/n’t______.

• You have to/must/supposed to____.

• Why don’t/didn’t you____.

• What is wrong with you?

• You always_____.

• You never_____.

• If only_____.

• Try______.

• Yes, but____.

• Because I told you so.

• If you don't shape up you are going to get____.

• Who do you think you are?

• You will never amount to anything.

• Why aren't you as smart as your brother/sister.

• You are as dumb as a rock.

• A rock is smarter than you are.

All the relationship distress you have experienced since then was created from that childlike perspective: with your immature understanding, inadequate and wounded perspective, within the limited environment of your family, school, church and neighborhood. Your programming and indoctrination is then locked in your conscious and unconscious mind.

After the age of five, your ego has taken on the job of protecting this programmed and indoctrinated identity. For most people, this default system controls their lives. It is difficult to know the subtle impact this programming and indoctrination has on your current behavior and relationships.

With the benefit of hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) this programming and indoctrination can be eliminated. Once the programming and indoctrination is eliminated at the core, you can keep your ego balanced by keeping your energy and focus on; who you truly are.

Hypnosis is a dynamic and vital healing process embracing all aspects health care. Hypnosis is client-centered with its focus on the discovery of the origin of a person’s issues. Through the process of hypnosis/regression the unconscious mind goes to the original cause, which then gives the person and practitioner the opportunity to process the original feelings surrounding the original experience/cause.

These surrounding feelings can be healed, thus empowering the person to live the life they want to live. This study confirms—Hypnosis is more effective and works more quickly than traditional talk-therapy or psychoanalysis. In a hypnotic state, you are more receptive to new ideas and you can more effectively process the emotions linked to the experiences, which created pain, fear, sadness, anger, guilt, shame, humiliation and low self-esteem.

Through Hypnosis you connect with your subconscious mind, which puts YOU in control of your subconscious mind—the most powerful and empowering aspect of your brain.

American Health Magazine reported these findings from a comparison study.

• Psychoanalysis: Creates a 38% recovery after 600 sessions

Behavior Therapy: Creates a 72% recovery after 22 sessions

Hypnosis: Creates a 93% recovery after 6 sessions

NLP uses a set of strategies, axioms and beliefs about human communication, perception and subjective experience. The core principle is that an individual's thoughts, gestures and words interact to create your perception of the world. By changing your outlook, using a variety of techniques, a person can improve their attitudes and behavior.

You can discover and heal your inner relationship to reflect your inner Source, your inner male, inner female and inner child. When you heal your inner relationship, your outer relationships will shift to align with who you truly are. You will be able to create healthy, intimate, nourishing relationships you knew were possible, but did not know how to create.

Experience a new level of awareness of how and why you created your relationship blueprint in your first five years of life. When you know the how and why you can take ownership and therefore have the power to release the old blueprint and shift to the new.

Heal your inner male, inner female and inner child of all programming and indoctrination of separation, including memories and unexpressed emotions. You can shift your inner family programming and indoctrination to inner God, Goddess and Divine Child. From now on, your inner family works in Sacred Union within you and your outer relationships will shift and realign to reflect this.

You will notice that people and situations that used to trigger you—are gone. You will see through the illusions, distortions and dysfunctional thinking. You will be more present in the NOW moment and better able to make conscious choices. You will feel free to speak your truth from your heart with respect and compassion. You will experience a deeper level of trust in your Higher Self, Divine Timing and the Law of Attraction.

With this deeper trust, you are more open-hearted, and able to connect more intimately with others. The ultimate is the Sacred Marriage of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine within you.

You can transmute painful memories and unexpressed emotional pain. You can clear the body pain. You will be present, conscious and authentic. You will stop attracting and recreating painful situations. Your ego will be relieved of the burdensome job of defending you from the past pain it has been projecting. Your mind and spirit will be able connect to your Divine Human Identity and let go of the old identity.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, "101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life." Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a broad range of profound principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one's daily thoughts and feelings.