Why Children are Having Children

Because the majority of adults don´t know themselves how to avoid Unplanned Pregnancy (UP).

Our sex-taboo culture skirts around such issues, and the problems this attitude causes, pile up. Dropping out of school due to UP or abortion, for instance, would probably never occur if we – the adults – knew and shared with our children, the simple knowledge about avoiding UP using a variety of natural methods.

Instead, and now without Parental sanction, the State proposes the Pill for all teenage girls. Popping in the pill, however, puts the Responsibility for our own actions elsewhere. The subject, by right, should first be thought through as a serious family matter at home, because every so often, the natural embarrassment of talking about sex at schools just makes the subject a laughing matter, thereby trivialising it.

Some might also argue, that for young developing adults who are beginning to experience hormonal changes, it´s very difficult to simply educate them in sexual matters; and then to tell them not to actually behave sexually is ludicrous. No other subject is taught in this manner, so it´s little wonder that the rate of teenage pregnancy has risen and continues to rise alarmingly.

The natural methods advocated, are proven, simple, easy to understand, and most importantly, they work, despite the fact that the opposite, State-sponsored drug-based option is the solution of choice selected by the various Authorities involved with the children’s health and education, thereby attempting to remove such welfare and moral choices from the family’s control.

Here are only a few of the Benefits we get by knowing how to avoid UP using natural methods:

• No health implications
• No dropping out of school
• No abortion
• No abortion side effects
• No losing a job
• No losing a trained employee
• No forced marriages or relationships
• Saving thousands of $$$ on contraceptive drugs and others prescribed for the relief of their side effects annually
• Able to choose when to become parents.

In November 2008 I sent an email to a few of my friends at a Social Network with a subject, “What is More Important Education or Training? Well, to help you answer this think, would you prefer your teenage daughters to have sex training or sex education? “ (You can read the email on our YouChooseWhen Blog on WordPress at the bottom of the page, the second one up.)

We received 87 replies:

40 were for Education
4 were for Training
6 said both Education and Training
1 said neither
5 wrote “no comment”
9 didn´t understand the question
22 didn´t answer the question, but expressed their support of the Global Awareness Campaign and our approach to the subject.

Here is a sample of thought provoking replies:

A male reader wrote.

“If this is about abstinence alone, it’s not going to work. It never has throughout the past. Education can help, but it’s not going to stop the drive.”

A female reader wrote.

“Well Pett, I have 5 yr old, and i know when she does start school……….high school, I don´t want her in any sex education classes. I want to be able to talk to my daughter and take her to get the help she needs if sex becomes a part of her mind. what people fail to realize is that when the teachers talk to these students about sex, it´s a game for them just another line on their check, they tend to laugh it out with the students and when the bell ring it’s a “stop the conversation and i’ll see you later” situation. at home with me and my girls, time is all i have and i don’t want to leave them with a laugh….I can say that about the teachers because I´m 24 and i gratuated in 2003 all of the high school talk is still a little fresh in my mind. these teachers don’t care about the students, if they did half of the girls around here who look at their teachers as role models, who don’t have anyone to care for them at home won´t be having kids of their own.”

A female reader wrote:

“I’ve spoken to my little one about this and she´s very much aware of unwanted pregnancies. Luckily we have a great relationship to speak about such topics.”

A male reader wrote:

“Well for people who were the “Flower-children of the 60’s and 70’s this wasn´t a big question to answer, – it was simply “BOTH”. However then the RRR “reclaimed” the brains of the masses and made now this topic un-discussable.”

A female reader wrote:

“As parents we just need to be detailed, and honest but tactful. Better they find out from someone they love. Than from someone in lust. Nobody thinks straight when lust is involved.”

A female reader wrote:

“Having once been a teenaged daughter, and having a teenaged son, I think sex education is vital. If parents aren´t going to teach their children how to be responsible about sex, then schools need to. The thought of abstinence only is ridiculous. Teens are full of raging hormones and without proper education, they will get into trouble.”

A male reader wrote:

“I think education is best. There are so many ways to be sexually stimulated and pleased without any worry of pregnancy. Having met young men and women that have been taught these and listened to their responses. In the act of love, and gentleness that get the best response. This shows throughout all aspects of a relationship. Nice topic!”

A female reader wrote:

“I would prefer education but on the other end of possibilities I would want her to know how it feels to get out of her warm bed having to go to school and work a job she doesn’t like just so her child can eat. I would want her to know what it feels like to have a child and cannot feed them. Then she would think twice about her actions.”

A male reader wrote:

“Dear Pett Corby
My, what an Excellent Job you have done on the you-choose-when website and Your Awareness Campaign!!!! I paused when you asked the question regarding Mutual Consent. That is the basis of education, is it not? If there is no mutual yes or no communication before a man and a woman have sex, and if not only the feelings, but the thoughts, words, and actions are not mutual, well, you have created the basis for an unwanted child. So, I would agree with you; education is key.

Unfortunately in society there are usually stigmas or preconceived notions attached to sex, education, and especially sex education. To avoid this, simply, I would break down education one step further into the idea of RESPECT.

When little girls and little boys learn at a young age to respect themselves and each other, as they mature, if the level of respect is maintained, and due to the high self love and self esteem, their relationships will be healthier and happier and sex will never be used to control or to manipulate, that is, the needs and wants of both partners will be that much more clearly defined because of the high levels of Trust, Respect, and most importantly Love. Would you agree?

Society as a whole benefits Incredibly when individuals such as yourself take a stand and Create Awareness at the magnitude that you have done. Thank you from the depths of My Heart for making this issue Your Life’s Mission. Words Cannot Express Deeply Enough How Wonderful It Is and How Many Innocent Lives Will Be Saved As A Result. You Are Loved Beyond Measure“

A male reader wrote:

“Yes, I think that we need to teach the younger generation to be more responsible. Think about the results of their decisions before they make them. I believe in being responsible for ones own actions. EDUCATION definitely BEFORE training. We’ve all seen what happens during “TRAINING DAY”. (lol)”