Confidence is important in every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. It's a world-wide problem that people of all ages, genders and races can have.
Our confidence is perfectly intact when we are born, but diminishes during our childhood. We lose a little of it when we make mistakes, fail, misbehave, get in trouble, feel guilty, neglect ourselves, and/or do things we are ashamed of. As we all know, kids can be mean. Many of us can relate to be bullied and picked on as kids, which chips away at our confidence too.
As an adult, we can lose more of our confidence for many reasons:
• being criticized by others
• when we have negative people in our lives
• negative self talk, demeaning yourself by saying things like, "I'm stupid," "loser" "I KNEW it!"
• negative body image because of what society dictates we "should" look like
• not achieving the goals that we set for ourselves (consciously or sub-consciously)
The most common confidence problems include:
• not believing in yourself
• not loving yourself
• fear of public speaking
• fear of meeting new people
• fear of conversation with others
• not being able to say no to others
• not being able to get what you want
• feelings of worry, guilt, anxiety, panic
• fear of leaving your comfort zone because your lack of confidence is holding you back
Our confidence has a big impact on how we enjoy life. Most people have self limiting beliefs and bad habits that hold them back from achieving optimal success and the living the life we have dreamed about. Being confident changes everything!
People who love themselves and are confident radiate strength, passion and conviction.
A confident person is not afraid to be themselves. They know all aspects of themselves. Their values, their purpose and their unique gifts.
Your confidence is NOT controlled by anyone else. That means that you have absolute control and can become confident at anytime in your life, regardless of your past life experiences!
Your confidence like an unused muscle that needs to be developed. And like any muscle, it never stays
the same for any period of time. It will either get stronger or weaker depending on how you use it. When you build your confidence it's like exercising a muscle. It relies on small, incremental improvement on a daily basis. You wouldn't work out at the gym and expect to have perfect muscles for life in just one hour. So, same idea with confidence... consistent confidence building is the only way to long-lasting, authentic confidence and happiness.
Many people will just settle with their current life and will not experience how incredibly rewarding it is to live a life filled with confidence, passion, purpose and enthusiasm because they lack the confidence and knowledge to do so. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel better about yourself and to achieve more in life. Sometimes getting there is not easy and there are things that can happen along the way to make the path a lot longer and more difficult.
Building confidence must be something that you want to do for yourself, not for anyone else in your life. It's never too late to become confident and live the life you've dreamed of! With dedication and determination confidence is an achievable skill. We all deserve to be happy and successful and that's what having confidence is all about!
Suzanne Fetting is an enthusiastic Confidence Coach for women and the founder of Absolute Confidence and High Heel Appeal.
She is an empowered, confident woman who is passionate about inspiring and empowering women of all ages, shapes and sizes to discover their authentic selves, their inner strength and to love themselves more.
Confidence is extremely important in every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. After she began to notice how a lack of confidence was affecting the women she knew and the women she was meeting, Suzanne realized how incredibly important it is to know who you are and to be able to trust, respect and love yourself unconditionally. She also realized how few women in our society have that trust and love for themselves. By nature, women are people pleasures, care-givers and nurturers. Most women are tirelessly taking care of and loving everyone else around them, except themselves, and as a result, they lose track of themselves and what’s important to them.
As a Confidence Coach, Suzanne will inspire and empower you to achieve your greatest potential with a new found purpose and a heightened sense of enthusiasm!
Suzanne has made many guest appearances on television and radio shows as well as being featured in newspapers and magazines for her success with her unique businesses.
She offers Personal Confidence Coaching, The Absolute Speaker Series, High Heel classes and DVD’s and teaches Confidence Workshops.
If you would like help boosting your confidence, please contact Absolute Confidence today!
~ Personal Confidence Coaching
~ Confidence Building Workshops
~ Absolute Speaker Series
~ High Heel Classes & DVD
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