More and more, the number one complaint I hear from women, whether in the business or in general, is that they don’t have enough confidence in themselves to do the things they want to do. So, I asked myself, “Why do so many women suffer from lack of self confidence”? I believe it is the main reason so many women get into abusive relationships, don’t step out and reach their goals for themselves, in business, in their homes, and in ministry, and why so many women are hurting and lonely today.
What is the cause of low self esteem and lack of confidence?
I believe low self esteem and lack of confidence go hand in hand. When you don’t feel good about the way you look, the job you’re in, how you handle finances, or about your relationships and how you relate to others, you tend to hide and shrink back from being all you can be. Not liking yourself leaks into other areas of your life causing you to miss out on promotions because you were too afraid to ask, or developing a relationship with other females because you were jealous of the way they look or dressed, or position they held. Does this sound familiar? If you’re like most women it probably does.
So, where does all this lack of self confidence come from? Often it stems from childhood, or perhaps a bad relationship. Most often, the way someone else has treated us or words that were said once or a thousand times, have been engrained into our minds, causing us to think lowly of ourselves.
Media is another confidence killer, if we allow it. Movie and TV stars who appear to have perfect bodies, teach us that we’re supposed to look like that and if we don’t then no man will ever love us and we’ll never get a good paying job. I want you to know right now, that is a lie from the pit of hell. Most of the women on TV and in the movies have personal trainers and nutritionists that regulate what they eat and when and how much they exercise. I know most of us in the United States can’t afford to hire personal trainers and nutritionists, nor do we have the desire to live that kind of lifestyle. And the women you see on the covers of magazines are air brushed and photo-shopped to look the way they do…not to mention all the Botox and facelifts celebrities have these days.
But even still, other people and the media are not the cause of our low self esteem and lack of confidence. They are not the root of the problem. The root is much deeper and within ourselves and we can overcome these feelings. You can retrain your brain to think good thoughts about yourself no matter how low your self esteem is or bad you lack confidence. You can be taught how not to let yourself think bad thoughts about yourself, not be jealous of others and how to forgive yourself when you make mistakes. You can learn how to exude confidence and hold your head high and you can learn how to relate well to others no matter their social status or yours.
“How do I do this”, you’re probably asking? With the help of a life coach. A life coach can help you see why you’re suffering from low self esteem, help you get to the root of it, and help you overcome it. Get started on the road to a confident new you today and start living the life you’ve always dreamed of.
Aurelia Williams, certified Personal Life Coach and owner of Real Life Coaching invites you to take advantage of a free consultation today.