Anger Management
Definition: Healing Anger
By Wikihow.com
Oct 10, 2007

Have you ever wanted to tear something up just because you're really mad? Can you stop yourself from punching a hole in the wall? Sometimes you just can't hold your anger inside yourself and you just have to take it out on something. Soon after though, you get into trouble for it. Here are some tips for releasing it more productively.

Steps

Try meditating. Do this every day to calm your nerves and you won't get so angry to begin with. Meditating calms the mind and helps you with your problems. You may be able to think more clearly too. Sometimes meditating can make you emotionless for the rest of the day. It removes a lot of stress and gives you a better outlook on the world.

Clinch up your hand. Don't make it in the shape of a fist; rather, try bending your fingers instead of your whole hand to release anger. If you put your hand into a fist, then you'll set yourself to hurt someone by punching them. That may get you into trouble. Some people get so mad that they sue and look at just how long that trouble will last!

Get a stress ball. Squeeze this to make anger release more fun! You can squeeze these balls a lot; pop it into your bag or pocket and squeeze it as you walk, catch the bus, sit at your desk or in front of the TV. It is just a creative way to do step 2.

Take deep breaths. It always calms nerves down. It is just a small meditation that releases a little stress at a time. It doesn't have as much effect as real meditation does but it does buy you calm-down time.

See a therapist. A therapist can help you work out the underlying feelings and motivations behind your anger. This is especially helpful if your feelings are messy, fuzzy and unclear to you but you just feel a huge ball of anger before you. Don't get so angry that you hurt the therapist physically though. If you seriously think this might be an issue, forewarn the therapist who will ensure someone else is in the room with you or suggest alternatives.

Start going to anger management class. Such a class can help you more than a therapist can and may be best done in conjunction with therapy.These classes are very important if your anger happens to be really serious, unless you want to deal with your problems for the rest of your life.

Tips

Think about something you like or do something you enjoy. For example, listen to music. Even "brutal" music will help if you like the genre.

Avoid anything that makes you mad (i.e., don't talk, email or chat to anyone that will occasionally or constantly makes you mad). If you feel that anger starting to take control, simply drop the subject whether it is a game or a fight. Do some of the steps above to release the anger if it helps. Instead of yelling at everyone, try a witty comment instead. If none of these solutions work, seek psychological help. These steps are guaranteed to stop all that anger.

Psychologists can be your best friends!

Warnings

If your anger is really serious, don't see a therapist because it may sometimes end badly. Or tell the therapist that you are frightened of lashing out and hurting the therapist physically; that way, the therapist can suggest alternatives.

The suggestions in this article will only stop anger for that one moment but not the rest of your life. For this, you need to be dedicated at finding the core of the anger and dealing with it permanently.

Source: Source: WikiHow