Family
Are You Planning To Conceive?
By Ana Garcia, B Msc, CC
Apr 18, 2008

Then, you better get ready for a formidable change.

This is not to scare you. Quite the contrary: this is to help you become aware that having a baby will bring out your best and your worst. It will be a sacrifice, worth doing, in my opinion. Yet, I feel so many people get into it without fully understanding what is involved.
And… all the books in the world will not prepare you for what it is to come!

When you are thinking of conceiving a baby, I feel that the most important thing is a healthy body, a peaceful heart, a balanced mind and clear energy.
I believe that experience is your best teacher, and it is from my own that I draw the information that is to follow. If you are planning to conceive, these points do matter and should get you as ready as possible to face this wonderful but demanding challenge:

 A matter of energy and health.
Our physical body is but part of an energy system made up of a mind, a physical, a spiritual and an emotional body (there are some other layers but I will focus on these main four ones). Whatever affects one of these bodies affects the others. There must be an alignment and balance of them in order to be in harmony so that the pendulum of the emotions doesn’t swing wildly from side to side. And, believe me, you will be tried!
Preparing your body is an important step, even if you are already fit and healthy. The reason is because we all have some emotional blocks and issues that we carry forward from the past and as we clear our mind, body and emotions in order to make space for the new baby, our body naturally gets ready to hold more light and it raises the mother’s energy level; in other words, our energy becomes cleaner. Your body will naturally then guide you to the foodstuff that matches its new vibration and so it feels that rather than preparing your body by making a sacrifice, you actually carry out the enjoyable practice of going with the flow!

 A matter of age and conception.
Just because you are an older mother, or have particular health issues, or any other possible obstacles to start with, do not get put off from having a baby if you really desire to have family.
I was 40 years old when I got pregnant. I have a beautiful and perfect little girl. The doctor said that “it was a book pregnancy” and he even felt guilty because he hardly had written any notes in my chart!

We got pregnant at the first attempt and without any stress whatsoever. And this happened because I followed my intuition: I was guided to find out information on a concept known as Lunar Conception: “Scientific research has shown that the moon has a direct effect on the reproductive cycles of many living creatures on Earth”.

The most important piece of information was the concept of The Natal Lunar Fertile Phase: “Re-discovered by Czech psychiatrist Dr Eugene Jonas in the 1950's, he observed the frequent failure of the rhythm method and its damaging psychological effects first hand[…]Each month, when the moon returns to this same position (as it was at your birth), it can trigger your body to spontaneously ovulate, even if this time occurs outside your normal mid-cycle fertile time. […] You experience heightened fertility when your mid-cycle ovulation is synchronized with your natal lunar fertile phase. By synchronizing the two cycles in this way, you maximize your chances of getting pregnant”.

For more information on this matter, revert to my Ebook: “Conception and Pregnancy: Allowing and Aligning with Life” (http://www.lulu.com/content/757156):
“For me, if Spirit works with you, you know that it will happen in a natural and effortless way…”

So don’t give up!

 A matter of balance.
In the spiritual books that I am so keen on reading, it says that the baby will take it from where the mother is at. It is as if our children fit into the vibes of the parents and family they are born into.
This means that we bring to the world a generation that is one step more advanced than us; yet, they can only follow from the family karma – we can bring up a child only at the level of understanding, comprehension, compassion and awareness we are at. Then, our children take it from there and endeavour to polish what they learn from us, working to break free when our teachings are not suitable to their personalities and potentials or enhancing those areas that they love in us and take upon as part of their value system.

 A matter of fear.
Your deepest fears come up when you face the huge responsibility of looking after this tiny being which has been entrusted to you: Are you feeding her right? Are you being a good mother or father? Are you too lenient? Are you giving her the right basis to become a balanced and happy individual later on in life? Are you missing signs that you shouldn’t? Babies come without instruction manuals and all your inadequacies magnify when another human being’s life is in your hands.

From my Ebook: “Conception and Pregnancy: Allowing and Aligning with Life”:
“I felt I had lost grip of my life; I am not even talking about the frustration of not being able to do all which was needed to be done in the house, but I had had to let go of every form of control that I had known all through my life. This required breaking all my old patterns and expectations of what is like to be a mother, to bring up a baby.
I had to totally go with the flow, totally trust what was happening to me and take one day at a time.


I didn’t have help at home with the baby or with the house, so it was my fiancée and me alone, working solidly as a team, managing everything. I would wait for him to come home at lunch time so that I could have a quick shower and then again after work so that he would help me with the baby. He would cook dinner, do the shopping and clean the house because all my time was consumed by this little being, who demanded and needed my attention all day, every day!”

Although this doesn’t seem an enticing scenario, I promise that it does get better. Yet, parents who intend to go back to business as usual only a short while after the baby comes home may find themselves in a series of situations where decisions that will affect the rest of our life need to be made… and none of them are going to be easy!

I chose not to compromise the love for the baby and put my life on hold. It was worth the sacrifice.

 A matter of birth.
From Birth Without Violence, by Frédérick Leboyer.
“One day labour starts. The delivery has begun.
Now the child is in the grip of a huge, frenzied, intransigent force.
Curling up is no longer the answer.
Helpless, it huddles up even more tightly. With its head tucked in and its shoulders hunched, it is a compact ball of fright.
The prison has gone berserk and seems bent on its inmate’s destruction. The walls close in still further. The cell narrows hatefully, and becomes a funnel.
Its heart bursting, the child is thrust into this hell”.
“[…] Yet all this force, this monstrous unremitting pressure that is crushing the baby, pushing it out towards the world, and this blind, blank wall, which is holding it back, confining it – these things are all one: the mother!
She is driving her baby out.
At the same time, she is holding it in, blocking its passage”.

From my Ebook: “Conception and Pregnancy: Allowing and Aligning with Life”:
“What a horrendous account of being born! For the first time I realised that all the nagging little pains and aches that I had endured were a breeze if I took into account the baby’s epic journey!”
“Indeed, when the baby was born I had just not words. All I could do is cry: of relief, of happiness that everything had gone well, that the ordeal was over. I could not comprehend yet what had happened, yet, when they placed my baby on my chest, warm, slippery, small, crying… the feeling of touch was doing all the talking. I placed my two hands around her and simply held her there. I knew that this would make up for the loss of the previous environment only a little bit, but I instinctively wanted to make her feel secure and wanted to surround her like a cocoon”


“There are many words that could be written regarding a baby’s birth, let alone your own baby’s birth. But sometimes feelings can’t be described when they are many, deep and complex. I allowed nature to ultimately take charge of a natural process albeit dramatic, energetic, painful, cataclysmic… and I am happy I did because, truly, all the books in the world can’t prepare you for what giving birth is. But let’s try to see it through the perspective of the baby and let’s spare her any unnecessary suffering so that her future will mirror her entrance in this world in an empowered and positive way”.

Research and enquiry on the different possibilities for giving birth, but be realistic. All the birth plans that you may write, all the preparations that you may make, when the day arrives, you may very possibly put all that to the side and choose to simply go with the flow and allow the professionals to do their work.
I was scared for such a long time and feared the moment of birth. Do not worry – you will be in perfect hands in the hospital. Go within, find your centre, follow your in and out breath consciously and hold your partner’s hand. Ask for what you need and listen to the guidance and suggestions from your doctors: I wanted a water birth and ended up having an epidural and a birth on the old and reliable hospital bed!

 A matter of feeding.
Decide in advance if you want to breastfeed your baby. It will be demanding and maybe challenging, especially at the beginning. It may require perseverance and sacrifice because it will hold you down to the baby’s feeding times… but I thought, in integrity, that for me there was no other alternative.

In an article of an old Odyssey magazine, the benefits of breast milk are listed as:
“Like a magic elixir, the milk promotes the nursing infant’s general health, growth and development, while significantly decreasing the risk of infection. Breast –feeding has also been related to possible enhancement of cognitive development. It protects the nursing infant against a slew of disease, including diarrhoea, lower respiratory infection, otitis media, bacteraemia, bacterial meningitis, botulism, urinary-tract infection, necrotizing enterocolitis, sudden infant death syndrome, insulin-dependent diabetes mellitus, Crohn’s disease, ulcerative colitis and allergic diseases. And, of course, there is evidence that mothers’ milk protects against lymphoma and carcinomas”.
“Breast-feeding may induce an infant’s immune system to mature more quickly than that of a formula-fed child. For example, breast-fed babies produce higher levels of antibodies in response to immunizations. And animal studies indicate that the intestines develop faster in newborns that nurse on mother’s milk”.

From my Ebook: “Conception and Pregnancy: Allowing and Aligning with Life”:
“I was determined to breastfeed my baby. I wanted to do it so badly because I knew it would mean to give her the best beginning in life. Yet, the challenges were many.


Some people were dubious that breast-milk alone would be sufficient nourishment for the baby. They said that I would need to alternate it with formula in order to keep the baby fully satisfied. And since she was so small at birth (2.5 kilos), they were suggesting that I would put the breast-milk in a bottle in order to learn the amounts that she was taking, at least this would give me some kind of control over the process.
I felt this is the kind of attitude that our fear-based society is based on, no longer trusting nature’s work alone but feeling that we need to interfere in order to make it better or at least, make some adjustments”.

 A matter of love.

From my Ebook: “Conception and Pregnancy: Allowing and Aligning with Life”:
“And we took her home.
All the conversations and text books in the world could not have prepared us for what was to come.
It was The Initiation.
The Initiation of unconditional love.
Like the eagle’s maiden voyage.

It is said that eagles live up to 80 years. But at the age of 40, when their claws, feathers and beak have hardened so much that it makes it very difficult for them to hunt efficiently, they fly to a high and lonely, safe spot in the mountain and they pull their feathers and nails, then they hit their beak repeatedly against the rock until it falls off. Then, they wait for it all to grow again, fresh, thus giving themselves another 40 years of life and hope.
So it is with humans.
Somebody said to me: You must make the baby fit your life, not the other way round.
Well, I can tell you that I tried but I failed miserably.
If anybody can tell me how to stop a baby crying when he or she is hungry, tired or unwell, then I will tell you how to make them fit into your life. In fact, it is only when I gave up trying to do so that some kind of flow started to develop.
When a baby comes, we have the opportunity to let go of all our comfort zones, all our hardened, solidified patterns. We can become anew, more flexible in our routines, without expectations of what is coming next. Yet, this is incredibly difficult to do and it takes a huge amount of self-awareness and willingness to do so. The alternative is an aging eagle, taking what life has to offer with old claws and beak, not flying as high and as fast as one can, not being able to ride the winds as well as we could because our equipment is outmoded. Not being able to hunt so successfully.
Yes, I chose the hardest road. Yes, I had to look for strength inside where I didn’t know it existed because the level of self-sacrifice required was like something that I had never experienced before. I had to totally cancel myself and tend to this little being that only asked for what she needed… but her needs were so great!


I decided to take it one day at a time. There were better days when I would sit and read an interesting book and meditate, and there were other days when I would feel that the world was moving on without me, buried in our home, by myself, all day every day! Yet, something inside me tells me that this will pass, that for the rest of my life I will feel that I did the best I could for our little girl. And that will never be undone!”

“So in its pain, the eagle found its freedom”.


By Ana Garcia
August ’2007


You can find all this information and more in my Ebook: “Conception and Pregnancy: Allowing and Aligning with Life”.
“I believe this book to be magical. It describes some of the different stages from conception to birth and early childhood from a spiritual perspective. It doesn’t just include my feelings, thoughts and emotions but those of Spirit that has guided me all along, some special friends who were there when I needed them, Itsaso and my partner. The task: that of bringing up this baby of light in order to carry out one of the biggest and most honourable of all jobs: bringing and anchoring love and peace to the world”.
Purchase at: http://www.lulu.com/content/757156