Motivation
* Nice Guys Always Finish First
By Keith A. Shaw, President, Mind Body Spirit Central.com and SelfGrowth.com Motivation Expert
Aug 16, 2007

How many times have you heard this saying?

“Nice guys finish last”?

If this statement were true, then the world would be in a sorry state of affairs my friends.

Henry James, the 19th century author and novelist, once said “Three things in human life are important. The first is to be nice. The second is to be nice. And the third is to be nice.”

This sounds like an easy thing to do. Correct?

Well, it is not always as easy as it might seem. When we are first born into the world, our minds are innocent and our spirits pure, unblemished and open. We harbor no prejudice, no preconceived notions, no anger or fear. Over time, the opinions of others and the actions of society cloud our eyes and mind.

I want you to take the time to do the following, brief two-part exercise.

First, I want you to close your eyes and think of a time when things in your life were going well. Perhaps it is the present time. Maybe it was in the past. Be honest with yourself and look within to recall how you treated other people. Did you feel at peace with the world? Did you live by the principles of respect, brotherhood, universal love and charity towards others?

Second, think of a time when things were not going well. Perhaps your possessions were threatened (or you imagined they were threatened). You lost a promotion to someone else; or lost your job. How did you react towards people then? Did you react with selfishness, prejudice, hatred or other negative emotions?

Your interpersonal skills and actions (or lack of them) will always be a huge deciding factor in whether you succeed or not.

In my chosen career path, I get to meet many people who have “exceeded” in their chosen fields. And I always make a point to “pick their brains” to find out what helped them rise to the top. A few years ago I had the good fortune to spend a few days with Ernie Banks, who is in the Baseball Hall of Fame. Mr. Banks began his career in the Negro American League and then played for nearly twenty years with the Chicago Cubs. During his career, Mr. Banks won numerous awards and was known for his positive mental attitude. In fact, due to his positive look on life, he was given the nickname (one of many), “Mr. Sunshine”.

During his years growing up and the three years playing in the Negro Leagues, Ernie spent a great deal of time in the deep South and had to deal with racial prejudice along with laws that segregated blacks from whites in public places and on public transportation.

In my many conversations with Ernie, I wanted to know how he stayed motivated and driven to achieve a high level of success, even when he was not treated as an equal in the eyes of others. In the course of one conversation he told me this - “I told myself at an early age that in order for me to succeed in life, I was always going to treat others as I wanted to be treated in return”.

No matter what your current circumstances or what has happened to you in the past, commit today to treat other people the same way as you would like to be treated – with respect and kindness.

Be nice.

Finish first.

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