Great Relationships in 5 Minutes or Less

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Building a great relationship with someone isn’t easy, and sometimes our romantic relationships can seem overwhelmingly complicated and difficult.

But what if there was a single root cause to all our relationship problems? And what if we could solve most of our relationship problems by addressing this one core issue?

That’s the belief of Margaret Paul, an author, speaker, and expert on love, marriage and relationships. We’ve asked her to share her wisdom on love and relationships with our audience.

Learn more about Margaret by visiting her Expert Page on SelfGrowth.com

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Nathalie Ayotte

Great reminder of taking responsibility 100% of our emotions. I like to think of emotions as jelly beans (like in the movie "What the bleep"...if I can identify my emotions as separate entities than who I am, it makes things easier. Thank you for that!

Emily Erickson (Tarot)

Overstated, if I understand what she is saying. Does she mean it is somehow wrong to feel awful, that 'blaming circumstances,' when circumstances are hideous, is somehow not permissible? Sometimes the best thing to do for oneself is to comfort oneself in the storm.

Jennifer Howard (Personal Development)

As a psychotherapist and spiritual teacher for over 20 years, I’ve seen again and again that marriages or close intimate relationships are opportunities for personal development that build towards incredible intimacy. We choose partners who are the best and worst of our mother and father. When I say this in session, often people will balk at that statement. But after a few minutes pursuit I have never seen it not to be true. Therefore, we can take the challenge on and build towards a rich full life. I invite the viewers to look at their past relationships and find the connections to the places inside that need to be processed and healed.

Ray Ferguson (Business Opportunities)

Very good advice Margaret. http://www.rayferguson.myarbonne.com

Southwest Institute of Healing Arts (Holistic Health)

Hi Margaret: I feel this is an important issue for parents to discuss with their children. If we can impart better tools to them as they are growing up, they will spend less time having experiences they regret or making choices that don't serve their highest good. Thanks for the reminder.

Kym Moore (Marketing Strategy)

You made some very good points Margaret. Thanks for sharing!

Christopher Lowry (Addiction and Recovery)

Good job!

Michael Lee (Persuasion)

Thanks for the great video, Barbara. Some people demand that other people treat them nicely. But it should really be starting from us. If we treat others well, they will reciprocate.

Charlene Murphy (Internet Marketing)

Good stuff, Margaret! You do make many good points. Thank you!

Margaret Paul (Love)

Thanks Charlene!

Barbara Henry (Personal Development)

Personal Development Expert,Published Author: Dr. Paul makes some excellent points in ways that are easily understood.I have heard these things before,but not quite like she states them. I agree with her 100%. I have finally gotten to the point where I truly love myself and feel completely responsible for my own joy /happiness in life.The relationships I have merely serve,in my opinion,as complements.

Margaret Paul (Love)

Barbara, Thanks for your support and for sharing a bit of your own journey.

Christopher Lowry (Addiction and Recovery)

Great video!

Margaret Paul (Love)

Thanks Christopher!

Michael Jibunor (Relationship Advice)

Great video Margaret. Almost everybody have problems in their relationships. "Building a great relationships demands total commitment". Secondly, you can never give what you do not have. First learn to Love yourself because it is the greatest love of all. Thereafter, you can start by loving someone.http://www.plutoscript.com

Margaret Paul (Love)

Michael, thanks for your comment. Imagine the world we would have if everyone learned how to love themselves! I hope you take a look at our website at www.innerbonding.com, as we teach a very powerful process for learning to love yourself.

jill ellis

I have never heard someone sum it up so qyick & yet get it so right.

jill ellis

I have never heard someone sum it up so qyick & yet get it so right.

Margaret Paul (Love)

Jill, thanks for your comment. I've been doing this work with relationships for over 40 years, and over and over find this to be the core issue regarding relationship problems.

Webmaster Hex

Thanks Margaret. You have really focused on the points that lead to the problems in relationships. This really has helped me out and some of my friends too. Please continue to post more such tips.

Margaret Paul (Love)

Webmaster Hex, I appreciate you letting me know that this video has been of help to you and your friends. I look forward to post more.

Carl Boniface (12 Step Programs)

Margaret Paul touches on Neuro Linguistic Programing and how we have the ability to control our emotions. Coupled with David Riklan's remarks it is clear to see that Margaret is a real authority and knows which buttons to flick in order to achieve results. She's got a dynamic winning strategy at her fingertips, so let her work them miraculously!

Margaret Paul (Love)

Carl, thanks so much for your wonderful support of my work!

Lisa Hanfileti (Acupuncture)

Thanks Margaret. Your info resonates with what a friend once told me, "healing is in the feelings". As much as we want to understand and intellectualize our behaviors, until we get at the feelings (lack of self-love, etc), we will remain repeating the same patterns. Thanks for putting it so succinctly! Lisa

Margaret Paul (Love)

Lisa, thanks for taking the time to comment - I appreciate it!

Paula Wordsmith

Dear Dr.Margaret, Thanks so much for sharing these great ideas with us and with so much conviction and sincerity. A most helpful video indeed with many pertinent points. God bless you.

Margaret Paul (Love)

Paula, thanks for letting me know that this is beneficial to you. Blessings to you, Margaret

J. Sue Gagliardi

Dear Margaret, I think your video has wonderful points especially concerning self abandonment. I think, too, that some of us may learn to self-abandon because we have suffered it through some childhood trauma. If we've learned to self-abandon as a child, we can learn to self-love as an adult, but we have to know first. You help to teach people that. Thanks!

Margaret Paul (Love)

Sue, this is so true - no matter what happened to us as children, as adults we can learn to love ourselves and share our love with others and the Inner Bonding process is a powerful way of learning this.

Margaret Bell

Margaret, I thought that your insight on your video blog was very interesting. It is human nature to have relationship but the irony is that in many cases it is these very same relationships that we lower our standards (“just this once”), to fall into negative behaviors with because the love is so blinding, or as you say self abandon. But for me process of emotional development paired with the cognitive rehabilitation after my and the self abandonment was one of the most rewarding and difficult experiences in my life as I am sure the inner bonding experience is. Thanks for the video.

Margaret Paul (Love)

Margaret, thanks for taking the time to comment and share that your experience has been challenging but so rewarding.

Cin LaCroix

As soon as I watched your video I went directly to your website and signed up for your inner Bonding course. I'm looking forward to it!

Margaret Paul (Love)

Cin, thanks for letting me know this. I hope you find the course beneficial and further explore our site.

Megha Kamra

Very well said.Perfect. I too agree that when we start taking responsibilites of our acts...most of our problems in relationships will be solved...

Margaret Paul (Love)

Megha, imagine what a wonderful world we would have if we all took responsibility for our own sense of worth and wellbeing!

angela silvester

Wow! I think she hit the nail on the head. I'm living this right now; the realization that it's my own lack of self-love, my self-abandonment, my fear of not being perfect or successful that has caused years of problems in my marriage. The realization and the self-help books have begun to change all that!

Margaret Paul (Love)

Angela, I'm glad to hear that this is helpful to you! I hope you read more about it on our website at www.innerbonding.com. Blessings, Margaret

Lori Chambers (Feng Shui)

Thank you for the powerful teachings Margaret. I think that one of the primary saboteurs in relationships is this idea that "If I'm unhappy, then someone (spouse, parent, child, friend, co-worker, etc.) isn't doing their job!" Peace, love, and happiness come from another place entirely! When we try to channel energy from others to fill ourselves up, we fall into a tailspin that has no winning solutions for anyone. Your work is important in teaching that our well being is an inside job.

Margaret Paul (Love)

Lori, I appreciate how well you have stated this issue - thanks!

Peter Hanfileti (Holistic Health)

I agree that self abandonment is a major causative factor for relationship problems. I would just add that the precursors are often laid down in childhood and as a pediatrician, one of my points of emphasis is to bring this to the attention of parents. I'm sure you address this in your other materials. Great job!

Margaret Paul (Love)

Peter, I do address it - over and over! We have a parenting section on our website. We stress that half of good parenting is being there for our children, and the other half is being a role model for personal responsibility for our own feelings and needs, so that our children learn to do this as well for themselves. I am deeply gratified that my children have learned this and are passing it on to my wonderful grandchildren!

Reverend Barbara Marie Babish (Spiritual Guides)

Yes, this makes sense to me. I need to go back and listen to it again. I first thought..oh this is good for my kids..hahaha Now I think...hmmm...I better look at it again FOR ME!!! Thanks so much for sharing your love and your information. Reverend Barbara Marie (Self Growth Expert on Spiritual Guides)

Margaret Paul (Love)

Thanks to you, Reverent Barbara Marie. I hope that both you and your children benefit from it!

Annie Lawrence (Self Help Books )

Thanks Margaret for your great video. I offer relationship retreats and EFT to work through the issues that you discussed. You are offering great tools to assist couples to deepen their heart connection change their patterns to create a happy life and relationship.

Margaret Paul (Love)

Annie, I have also found EFT to be very helpful with the work I do. I'm happy to hear about your work! Blessings, Margaret

Peg Meehan

Yes I agree 100% with Margaret.

Margaret Paul (Love)

Thanks Peg!

Lalitha Brahma (Business Consulting)

I totally agree with Margaret that lack of self love (in other words self abandonment ) is the cause of relationship problems. In Schools we are taught and trained to THINK intelligently and hence we forget to give importance to feelings. Few points that made a lot of sense to me Self abandonment means-Not taking responsibility for your own peace, happiness, self worth. Ways of showing up-Stay in their HEAD, Judge themselves, blaming others Thanks Margaret for excellent Video.

Margaret Paul (Love)

Lalitha, I really appreciate your feedback. Thanks!

Toni LaMotta (Transformation)

I'm in a new relationship. This is timely

Great Relationships in 5 Minutes or Less

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