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Is gift-giving stressful at your house? Do you try to find things that your child would like, hoping to surprise her, but then learn that it was not what she had in mind at all? Gift giving for children who are inflexible in their thinking can be a disappointing exercise in miscommunication. ... Views: 2
If defence mechanisms were mentioned, it is likely that regression would be spoken about and this is because it is one of the more common ones. But no matter what defence mechanism is used, they all have the same purpose. With the purpose being that they allow one’s mind to avoid the emotional ... Views: 24
Physically men and women are very different; with a woman being an example of the feminine and a man being an example the masculine. But while this much is true, on the inside they are both made of masculine and feminine traits.
And for a long time, men generally behaved in ways that were ... Views: 30
When there is an absence of trust in a relationship there is inevitably going to be certain problems that arise. Whereas although there is still going to be problems when trust does exist, there is less chance of jealousy appearing or if it does exist, then its effects will be minimal.
As ... Views: 32
One can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends.
There ... Views: 44
When it comes to being a human being, there are certain needs that each one of us has. And while there can be certain differences between people, these are ones that apply to more or less everyone.
But while needs are something that each one of us have, it doesn’t mean that one always feels ... Views: 56
Although one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right.
What feels right is for them to stay away from ... Views: 57
When one is a baby and then a child, they are completely dependent on their parent’s responses to them. Through their caregivers responding, one will be able to have their need for food and nurturing to be met.
And this also goes on to include one’s self image and how they view themselves. ... Views: 47
To be human means that one has needs and these cover a wide range of different areas. For instance, one has: physical, mental and emotional needs. And although each of these are important when it comes to experiencing a level of wellbeing and a sense of fulfilment, it doesn’t mean that one will ... Views: 61
When it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to ... Views: 144
Although emotions and feelings are something each one of us has, it doesn’t mean that they are easy to handle or manage. For some people, they generally don’t cause too many problems, unless there is a major challenge in their life.
And then there are other people who find it incredibly ... Views: 82
When it comes to what one attracts and doesn’t attract into their life, thoughts are often the primary focus. And when someone has this point of view, they are seen as the key to one attracting what they want and repelling what they don’t want.
So here, one needs to become hyper vigilant ... Views: 76
When it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ... Views: 99
While we talk to other people in the external world, we are also talking to ourselves in what could be described as the internal world. And this is a dialogue that takes place from the moment one wakes up and until they go to sleep at night.
But in many ways it doesn’t stop there, as one can ... Views: 86
While emotions are often seen as a distraction and an inconvenience, they are a vital part of being human. Without them, life would be pretty meaningless and while there wouldn’t be any lows, there also wouldn’t be any highs either.
It would lead to a life that is very empty and although one ... Views: 132
by Dr. Tali Shenfield, Clinical Psychologist
Every parent wants to protect their children, teach them to protect themselves, and help them redirect their own outbursts before they become dangerous and aggressive. We want to know that when our children become angry, we can discipline them ... Views: 114
To be human means that we are emotional beings and there are many emotions that we can have. Shame is one of them and this can stop one from acting in ways that are inappropriate for example. And yet this emotion can also end up taking over one’s life. It is then no longer something that is ... Views: 94
To have needs is part of being human and this is something that cannot be changed. One might pretend that they don’t have any and yet this is nothing more than a facade and an act of self denial.
And then there can be other people who come across as extremely needy and there is no confusion ... Views: 91
There are many different things that make someone human and therefore allow them to have a human experience and one of these things is empathy. This is something one can have for themselves and something that can extend outwards and towards other human beings.
It enables one to mirror ... Views: 98
When it comes to how someone behaves and sees themselves for instance, childhood development is often cited as a primary factor. This will include how ones father and mother treated them during their formative years as a child and a baby and even ones time in the womb.
And while the ... Views: 129
To have a balanced sense of worth is healthy and conducive to someone realising that they deserve to receive and to achieve in life. The problem is that not everyone has this experience and this can cause them to believe that they are worthless and therefore deserve very little, if anything, ... Views: 114
One of the common challenges in relationships and a challenge that has existed throughout time is that of control. This can be something that is fairly subtle and anything but overwhelming. And then it can be so extreme, that one’s whole life is taken over by another person’s control.
So ... Views: 92
Although everyone has their own truth on this planet, it doesn’t mean that each one of them finds it easy to express their truth. And this includes what one says to others and what one says to themselves. There will be things that one needs to say to another or others and there will also be ... Views: 85
While what is going on externally can be easy to see and describe, the same is not always true for what is taking place on the inside. And this can relate to ones: thoughts, emotions, feelings and sensations.
This has the potential to lead to all kinds of challenges and these can depend on ... Views: 98
There are all kinds of reasons as to why someone would want to be a relationship with another person. And yet for some people, they will do everything they can to avoid having one. This can be due to them being fiercely independent and not wanting to rely on another person; having trust issues ... Views: 88
Flash games are a source of big fun for people of all ages. Since online games don't require expensive software they are particularly attractive in today's down-trending economy. Free computer flash games are easy to find on a wide range of interests from fishing to fashion or ... Views: 160
Teaching our kids certain skills and personal habits just isn’t good enough. We need to lead by example and live the skills and traits we teach.
Not only when it is convenient, but all the time.
Here is a list of what I believe to be the seven most important characteristics and skills we ... Views: 206
In today’s world, it is not uncommon for women to be in positions of great power and responsibility. They often have more control in their career and relationships and are not as limited as previous generations were. This is not to say that this sense of inner empowerment has become the norm for ... Views: 139
Information can be empowering and disempowering and what one person finds useful might not be seen in the same way by another. But with personal opinion aside, information is vital for the growth of an individual and for humanity as a whole. Without it, very little would change and regression, ... Views: 156
In the area of self development and recovery the term co-dependency have been used for many years. And this generally describes someone who is not interdependent or independent; they are completely dependent on others or on certain substances.
This is something that can relate to every need ... Views: 163
There is wide spread exposure when it comes to people who are attention seekers and these people can be labelled as having certain unhealthy narcissistic traits. One can come into contact with people who are like this in their local area and as well as in the mainstream media.
It is only ... Views: 125
The little girl with no needs. The little boy who takes care of mom. Premature maturity, is in fact, no escape from having needs or needing to be taken care of. It is not an escape from being a child, and it is in fact, not often maturity at all. Premature maturity is something else more ... Views: 205
Many times a year parents come to me for guidance about dealing with their child’s lying. Usually the situation is that the child has been involved in some activity that she knows her parents disapprove of. It could be sampling the frosting on a birthday cake before the occasion, or talking to ... Views: 140
It is often said that human beings are either independent or dependent and while it can look this way, ultimately we are all interdependent. No one is their own island and each one of us is reliant on others in some way.
This is not to say that everyone has this outlook: Some people can ... Views: 166
From the moment one is born, one is exposed to different people. And at the beginning of their life, these people are typically caregivers. So in the majority of cases, ones first role models are their parents. This can then go on to include siblings, other family members and family friends.
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While a woman can say to herself and others that she wants to be in a relationship with a man who is healthy and functional, it doesn’t mean that she will be attracted to a man who is like this. This can relate to woman who can’t seem to attract a guy that is healthy and for women who do attract ... Views: 179
When it comes to what a woman is going to be like, a man will have a set of expectations. And sometimes these can be consciously known and at other times, they can be completely unconscious.
However, no matter whether these are conscious or unconscious, they will still have a massive impact ... Views: 220
When someone has a relationship with another person, ideally, the body, heart and mind will be shared. This means there will be a physical connection, an emotional sharing and an intellectual exchange.
But this doesn’t always take place and this means that one could have a relationship with ... Views: 228
Each one of us has wants and needs and yet that doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with their wants and needs. It is also possible for someone to have wants and needs that are second hand and have nothing to do with what actually matters to them.
It could be that one actually believes ... Views: 148
Unfortunately, lots of kids and teenagers fall victim to low self-esteem. But did you know YOU play a huge role in how they view themselves? Even though they don't like to admit it, most of the opinions kids have about themselves comes from what their parents do and say!
Just how important is ... Views: 175
There are numerous challenges in the world today and some of these challenges are to do with emotions; from depression, to suicide and a whole myriad of other things. And emotions cannot simply be ignored or dismissed.
They deserve and need as much attention as ones diet or physical health. ... Views: 270
When a man and a woman first get together it can be going along nicely and as soon as things start to become a little more serious, a man can begin to pull away. This is naturally going to be confusing for the woman and may make no sense whatsoever.
And it can depend on how connected the ... Views: 279
All these years later, I still think about what kind of mother I used to
be. It took me three years to become a real one after the birth of my
daughter. Motherhood is much harder than most will tell you or admit
to. I couldn’t understand why people said that it was so worth it. I was
32, ... Views: 210
Here’s a scenario I see often in my work. Parents are having difficulty with their child over Problem X (doing homework, getting up in the morning, getting ready for school, or managing time on electronics). Parents join me and the child for a meeting about this, and the parents have been ... Views: 168
There are certain behaviours that are going to cause problems in a relationship and could even sabotage one from taking place, and one of those behaviours is when someone is clingy. This can appear at the start of a relationship or it can appear as a relationship develops.
For the person on ... Views: 270
When people think of a relationship, they often think about not only receiving, but also giving. These two parts come together to form a relationship and while it is not always possible to give and receive in each moment, this doesn’t mean that one of these aspects will then be ignored ... Views: 318
"At the moment of birth we are imprinted with a genetic blueprint that is a unique expression of ourselves and like no other." Carolyn Ford
According to Human Design, beginning in 2027, a new species of human will begin to arrive on Earth. The Solar Plexus (or emotional) center of these ... Views: 147
When the idea of worshipping a woman is mentioned it can trigger all kinds of meanings in one’s mind. And what these meanings are can depend on is where one was brought up. To worship the feminine, which is what women physically represent, can be seen as sacred. The earth itself is often ... Views: 327
Parenting Logic: Over Indulgence
Parents are very busy these days, working full time jobs and sometimes even two jobs just to make ends meet. All too often they feel pressured and overwhelmed and end up parenting from moment to moment. The feeling of helplessness in managing their children’s ... Views: 203
It's summer now, and you are going on a summer vacation with your children (do not forget them:D). The question is what is necessary to take with you. Of course, resting with the child, it is not the same as resting with a company of adults. It is necessary to think over everything, nothing must ... Views: 260