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How Your First Argument Could Last For 50 Years - By Sharon RivkinThe Most Important Argument You’ll Ever Have in Your Relationship - By Sharon RivkinA Year Without Arguments? 3 Proven Steps to Stop Fighting and Start Healing - By Sharon Rivkin- Assault on Life Is Getting Clearer To Set Us Free - please read - by Submitted on May 14, 2013 from Doreen AgostinoThe rapid unveiling of assault on Human rights, animal rights, Earth rights, food, water, air, and natural systems upon which all life depends for survival, signal every Human to expand awareness, cooperate, collaborate, end unawareness, denial, apathy, turning a blind eye, fear, judgment, ...
Views: 24 - Transcend Possible End Game Deception of Humans on Earth - please read - by Submitted on May 14, 2013 from Doreen AgostinoA world shift foretold as 2012, invites every Human to bring love, compassion, unity, well-being, prosperity, profound respect for one another, Earth, and all life back into physical reality. The following details what could possibly be the end game deception by globalists, to prevent our ...
Views: 24 - Your Primary Relationship - by Submitted on May 10, 2013 from Tina TessinaMost of us put a lot of emphasis on our relationships: family, friends and significant others. But, did you know that the relationship you have with everyone else is based on your relationship with you? That’s right, the closer you get to other people, the more you treat them the way you treat ...
Views: 68 - To Solve Societal Ills Stop Feeding Psychopaths - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Doreen AgostinoAs more and more studies demonstrating the corrosive effect of psychopathy on government, finance, and business emerge, researchers have begun to explore how our society itself has been molded in the psychopaths’ image. Now, one of those researchers, Stefan Verstappen shares his insights on ...
Views: 43(1 vote) - Assertive Anger: Tough With a Twist - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Janet PfeifferSixteen years ago, I moved to a quiet dead-end street. Imagine my dismay when I discovered that I lived near a teenage heavy metal band! As day turned to evening, my silent haven was interrupted by the sound of innocent drums and guitars being tortured! . I was angry. I phoned the police ...
Views: 76(1 vote) - Ten Tips on How to Argue With an Idiot - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2013 from Janet Pfeiffer"Idiots" are simply people like you and I who are struggling with unresolved personal issues ranging from low self-esteem to ego, insecurity to poor impulse control and more. While it is acceptable to regard the behavior as idiotic, it is never permissible to label the individual as such. People ...
Views: 139(2 votes) - Response-Ability - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaOne of the trends I dislike in our culture is the reluctance of people to take responsibility, or to respond with care to each other. In my counseling practice, I hear a lot of self-justification, mind-reading, defensiveness, blaming and complaining; which is why relationships, friendships, ...
Views: 199(4 votes) - Time to Stop The Birth Mother - Stepmom Animonsity - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2013 from Dianne MartinIsn’t it Time to Stop the Bio- Mother ~ Stepmother Animosity? Your stepchild’s Bio-Mom (BM) will always be a part of your life. Over the years you will both attend graduations, sporting events, family celebrations, marriages, births, grandchildren, illness or death of a mutually ...
Views: 152(2 votes) - Forgiveness - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2013 from Don Neviaser,Practicing forgiveness is a two tiered path to inner peace that can diminish or eliminate emotional drains that no longer have a place in your life. One level lies in the ability to completely forgive others, which allows you to move beyond lingering negative emotions that may still be clouding ...
Views: 227 - Being In Love Now by Johanna Courtleigh, MA, LPC - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2013 from Johanna Courtleigh, MA,Most of us have been taught that love is a commodity. Something someone either has for us or not. Something that can either be given or taken away, won or lost. Thus, we become dependent on an ‘other’ to make us feel happy and secure. But any dependency can be fraught with distress and ...
Views: 189(1 vote) - My Words - My Beliefs - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2012 from Mona AeyshaWe speak languages that often represent our thoughts, cultural beliefs, religious beliefs, viewpoints and serve as communication needs in all over the world. Our languages contain different words for different feelings such as being happy, grieved, cheer full, cool, indifferent, warm, hot, ...
Views: 281 - ***6 Tips for Resolving Your Thanksgiving Hassles NOW - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinHe says no…she says yes. She wants to go to her best friend’s for Thanksgiving dinner, he’s firm about going to his parents’. She wants a change…he wants the same. Suddenly you’re not feeling thankful for anything at all. Sound familiar? So, how do you put the thankful back into ...
Views: 332 - ***What’s Working and What Isn’t? 5 Ways to Get a Jump Start on a Fight-Free Holiday Season - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWith the holidays around the corner, and before the stress and panic really hit, make this a time to look at your relationship and take inventory to see what’s working and what isn’t. Begin to NURTURE your relationship NOW, in new and more effective ways, so that the holidays can ...
Views: 651 - ***Strategies to Stop Fighting and Start Loving During the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAre you tired of feeling stressed and angry during the holidays? Do you want this special time of the year to be filled with peace and joy? Do you wish for a fight-free holiday season with your loved ones? Make your Christmas wish come true by following these simple guidelines that will turn ...
Views: 374 - ***Before, During, and After: How to Declare a Truce at the Holiday Dinner Table - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWith the holidays fast approaching, our emotions seem to jump all over the place. We’re excited, anxious, stressed, because there’s so much to plan, and we want the holidays to be perfect. Yet, the thought of the holiday dinner quickly reminds us of past events that have been anything but ...
Views: 366 - ***Your First Holiday Season After A Divorce or Separation - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAfter a separation or divorce, the first holiday season can bring tremendous stress and sadness, in addition to feeling overwhelmed and frightened. Coping with loss and grief, coupled with changes in familiar patterns and traditions, can magnify your feelings about the separation or divorce ...
Views: 390 - Surround Yourself With Love - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Laurie GrayMost of us have grown up with some version of the Golden Rule that includes doing unto others as you would have them do to you and loving your neighbor as yourself. Most of us think of the rule as encouraging us to be kinder to others. Such thinking is completely backward. We already do love our ...
Views: 294 - ***5 Effective Ways to Cope with Holiday Stress During the Recession - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Sharon RivkinFor most of us, we want the holidays to be fun and exciting. But more often than not, the holiday season evokes tension and stress. By spending more money than our budgets allow, or going overboard by eating the wrong foods, or taking on too many activities…these external stressors are only a ...
Views: 1003(2 votes) - How To Break Free of Anger - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2012 from Brenda Shoshanna, Ph.d"In my mind are thoughts that can hurt or help me. I am constantly choosing the contents of my mind." --Dr. Gerald Jampolsky There are many ways of being addicted and many purposes an addiction serves. Addiction to anger ...
Views: 612(1 vote) - The Ego as an Addictive "Energy Vampire", in Contrast to How Our Real Being Functions as a Limitlessly Abundant "Energy-Giver" - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Barry HammerAlthough the ego is often the loudest voice speaking within oneself, vociferously arguing for its own viewpoint, and vehemently demanding limitless, immediate, sometimes inappropriate, recklessly impulsive, potentially addictive, gratification of its insatiable desires and cravings, it is not ...
Views: 593 - Why Forgiveness? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2012 from Amy Torres"Webster's Dictionary" defines forgiveness as "ceasing to feel resentment against someone who has offended us in some way." How do we cease to feel resentment towards someone we feel has harmed us -- especially if that person in no way acknowledges any wrong doing? And why would we want ...
Views: 446(2 votes) - ***What to Do When Your Partner Has Become Your Enemy - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWhere has all the love gone that you once felt for your partner? Do you seem to fight about everything? Has your partner become your enemy? How did it happen? These are common questions I address time and time again in my private practice. The process of “building a case against our ...
Views: 1142(1 vote) - I Don't Do Ugly - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2012 from Janet PfeifferShe's strikingly beautiful: tall, large oval-shaped eyes, full lips, dark flowing hair. Her exotic look could land her on the cover of any fashion magazine. Her personality perfectly suits her ample frame. She's outgoing and bubbly, intense and opinionated and I've enjoyed the two years she's ...
Views: 318 - ***The Downfall of Fall - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAs summer ends, we see the light changing and the days becoming shorter and shorter. That fall chill in the air seems to come out of nowhere, and we often begin to sense sadness and maybe even depression, prompting us to think, what’s that all about? Though fall is beautiful with the leaves ...
Views: 393 - ***Seven Ways to Ruin Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2012 from Sharon RivkinUnless someone is completely vicious, no one enters a marriage with the intention of destroying it, yet the divorce rate gets higher every year and couples, even if they don’t divorce, are often unhappy and in loveless marriages. By being aware of what you may be doing in your marriage that ...
Views: 566 - ***Have We Gone Too Far with List Making? 5 Reasons to Hang On or Let Go of Your Latest Love - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWe’re a cult of list makers. We make to-do lists, grocery lists, packing lists, and now a list of must-have qualities for our potential partner. She needs to be independent, yet be devoted; he needs to earn a good living, yet have enough time for her. He needs to have follow-through on his ...
Views: 551 - ***Giving Up the Fantasy of the Perfect Mate, What REAL Marriages Are All About - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWe all seem to think that we need to find our perfect mate or soul mate. But does a perfect mate even exist and, if so, does this mean that the only way to be happy is to find this perfect soul mate? What if you don’t? What if you spend your entire life looking, only to end up alone in your ...
Views: 679 - 3 Ways to Make Conflicts Healthy for Couples - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2012 from Jean CapangpanganWhen we don't understand what happened in the conflict, we always look for WHAT or WHO caused the conflict. While trying to figure things out, it's helpful that we trace and discuss things over. However, if people are quick to put a blame on people frantically, this is a problem. Blaming is ...
Views: 498(1 vote) - ***Getting Back In So You Can Finally Stay Out - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinOne of the hardest things to do is to leave a relationship. A more difficult undertaking is staying out. Maybe it wasn’t so bad. Maybe I didn’t try hard enough. Maybe she could change after all. Maybe I could put up with more than I thought; after all, I do love him. When we leave our ...
Views: 510 - ***Formula for Creating a Strong and Healthy Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThe healthiest and longest lasting relationships don’t just happen because a couple fell in love. The majority of strong and healthy marriages are created by using a formula composed of six vital elements. 1. Good/open/honest communication and a willingness to change. This happens with ...
Views: 573 - Is It Time To Stop Sleeping In? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2012 from Geoff LaughtonThree years ago, a young 22-year-old man my son knew was walking along a local overpass that is one of the busiest traffic corridors in the Boulder area. For some reasons that we’ll never really know, this young man – deeply loved by his family and his friends – made a decision; one that ...
Views: 611 - ***Can Spouses Have Friends with the Opposite Sex? The Do’s and Don’ts for Making it Work - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2012 from Sharon RivkinMale or female friendships are usually a threat to the primary relationship, but they really don’t HAVE to be. What fears us the most is the sexual aspect of this oftentimes complicated relationship. It’s difficult to keep the friendship platonic, given that 90% of the time, one of the friends ...
Views: 773(1 vote) - ***Can a Democrat Stay Happily Married to a Republican? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Sharon RivkinIn these tough times of economic and political turmoil, with a critical Presidential election right around the corner, everyone is talking politics. Hot political debate is being fueled around the dinner table, over coffee, over drinks, and at parties. The upcoming election is in the air! ...
Views: 1182(2 votes) - ***A Healthy Marriage Doesn’t Happen Out of the Blue: Five Must-Do Secrets that Really Work - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWe seem to prepare for everything in our life – jobs, exams, etc. Why then don’t we prepare for a successful marriage? According to divorce statistics, it is estimated that between 40 and 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce in the United States. Without realizing it, most couples have ...
Views: 551 - ***Has Your Spouse Become Your Enemy? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Sharon Rivkin3 Steps to Resolving Your Fights and Loving Each Other Again Months before they married, Kyle told Hilary that he wanted to dance with her at their wedding. Hilary agreed, and they signed up for dancing lessons. But when the wedding day arrived, the train on Hilary’s dress made it too ...
Views: 565 - Controlling Anger - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2012 from Edward GoodenWhat Is Anger? All of us feel anger. Some of us get angry very often. Some are able to control the anger. Some of us express our anger freely, whereas some suppress it. Why do we get angry? Is there any way to control the anger? How to do that? Causes Of Anger We get angry when we are ...
Views: 724 - What Children Need; Dealing with our anger and theirs - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2012 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.The world in which we live is violent in large part due to how we raise our children. We assume that children are small and undeveloped and without the need for freedom and personal choice. However, we traumatize them by making demands, creating unnecessary limits, not listening to them and not ...
Views: 397 - Dr. Romance (with Alex Franzen) "Do. Not. React" - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2012 from Tina TessinaDO. NOT. REACT. Tips for surviving & mastering confrontation, with grace —in business & in love. Pop quiz, people: How do you drop an atom bomb of sudden, unexpected (and quite possibly, undesirable) information on someone you care about — without behaving like a cruel, ...
Views: 403(2 votes) - Special Message for Christmas and Hanukkah (Bringing Out the Best in One Another, Co-Creating the Sweet Life Together) - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2012 from Barry HammerFestivals of light such as Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa (African American), Diwali (India), etc, symbolize the rebirth and awakening of the sacred flame of love in the hearts of individual persons, as well as in the collective heart of humanity. This living flame of love and goodness can serve ...
Views: 436 - Until you confront the person who you are upset with, you will not be able to move forward in any part of your life - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2012 from Donna LeeAs a spiritual coach, my job is to show clients how cause and effect plays into their life. Many people do not understand that their actions or lack of action can create an ongoing cycle of the same situation repeating over and over until it is dealt with. People often believe that they can just ...
Views: 1189(2 votes) - A Little Whine Can be Good for your Health - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2012 from Linda SapadinA recent article in the Wall St. Journal, “For a Nation of Whiners, Therapists Try Tough Love”, has created quite a stir in the psychological community. The author advocates that therapists should provide ‘tough love’ for their clients, firing those who can’t stop complaining. “Crybabies be ...
Views: 389 - Why We Argue - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Susan Schwartz, Ph.D.In the midst of an argument with your partner there is no time to step back and ponder why this is happening, or to evaluate what about this disagreement is upsetting you so much. You can rely on the fact that when any of us are reactive in a variety of ways it shows we have some old issues, ...
Views: 668(1 vote) - Expat Retirement Works Best When Cultural Differences Understood and Appreciated - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2012 from Susan KlopferTo survive as a stranger in a strange land – a visitor in a new land – requires education and enough personal depth to avoid unfair prejudices that result from ethnocentrism. AFTER WORKING nearly eight months months to get a special “pensionada” visa, scouting out the correct pet carriers to ...
Views: 621 - Seven Powerful Ways to Make Your Marriage Last - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinMarriage is supposed to last “forever,” isn’t it? When we decide to get married, we truly believe that forever will happen. Sometimes that’s easier said than done, because most of us don’t have realistic guidelines or tools to know how to make a marriage last. When we fall in love, we usually ...
Views: 1739(4 votes) - How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAccording to statistics, 45 or 55 percent of married women and 50 to 60 percent of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. An affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face, and nothing destroys a marriage faster than marital ...
Views: 972(3 votes) - Affairs: The Ultimate Challenge - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAn affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face. It is a powerful catalyst that can either end the relationship or take it to a greater level of intimacy. An extreme symptom of a relationship that has been in trouble for some time, affairs do not happen out of the blue. ...
Views: 873(2 votes) - Change Your Language, Change Your Relationship: How We Say Things Does Matter - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThat old phrase, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me” is not really true. Words may not inflict visible bruises like sticks and stones, but they pack a punch nonetheless. They injure our insides, our feelings, and our self-esteem. External bruises are tangible ...
Views: 916(4 votes) - Does Your Spouse Steal the Limelight? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinDoes your spouse take credit for your ideas? Or do people compliment your spouse for tasks or projects that you did? Do you get the credit where credit is due? For example, Jill herself maintains a beautiful garden and takes a lot of pride in it. One day, a neighbor comes to visit the couple ...
Views: 810(2 votes) - Five Steps for Letting Go of Hurt in Your Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinOne of the greatest desires married couples have is to stay together forever and have a happy, healthy relationship. But what about past hurts that you can’t let go of? Are they creating more pain than happiness in your relationship? When you get hurt by your partner, you lose trust and ...
Views: 949(1 vote) - Relationship Red Flags: 5 Tips for Identifying Your Negotiables and Non-Negotiables - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinYou’re in a new relationship, and you’re starting to see some red flags, warning you that the relationship may not be a good bet, but does that mean you should leave? How many red flags does it take to make that decision? How do you know if the red flags mean future disaster, or are just a ...
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