If it was raining and one didn’t wear jacket or something to keep them dry, they would soon be soaked. Their jacket or an umbrella for instance, is then something that protects them from the rain.
However, even if it was not raining one still needs to protect themselves. Their personal space ... Views: 13
I was coaching a little boy today … he is 47 years old.
‘Peter’ is a brilliant man having achieved a very senior level in his organization and pretty much destined for the very top job. So why did I refer to him as a ‘little boy’?
While Peter has an IQ score which is off the charts, ... Views: 5
To have needs is part of being human and this means it is not possible for one to remove their needs. But regardless of this fact, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs or that they’re able to get their needs met.
Some people are going to view their needs with disdain ... Views: 33
As soon as something ends, there is the chance for something to begin; just as when something begins, there is the chance for something to end. This is the cycle of life, and something that will continue until the time that one passes on.
However, this is not something that always takes ... Views: 36
There are pros and cons to most things in life and social media is no different in that respect. It has allowed people to connect to the people they know and are close to and it no longer matters where in the world they are.
One no longer needs to remain out of contact with someone for too ... Views: 34
There is often said to be a false self and a true self, and if one is into psychology or self development, they’re likely to have heard about these terms. If one hasn’t, they might sound a bit mysterious and something that one can’t relate to.
But if these descriptions are put to one side ... Views: 36
When it comes to what one needs to do to get into physical shape or what they need to eat in order to be healthy, there is plenty of advice available. In fact, it is not so much about getting the advice that is the problem, nowadays, it is often more about what advice to follow and what advice ... Views: 36
There are some people who are able to be themselves, and while they can adapt, this is not something that always takes place. Not only do they have a sense of themselves, but more importantly, they will feel that it is safe for them to be themselves.
At times, they’re going to understand the ... Views: 60
When it comes to how people feel, the mainstream media can play a vital role. This is because so many people are plugged into the media and how their views of reality are defined by it.
However, it is not just someone’s perception of reality that will be created for them, how they view ... Views: 48
It is often said that abuse is passed down from one generation to another and it can be hard for people to understand why this happens. However, the next generation are not the only ones who can end up being abused; it is also something that can affect the people who the abuser comes into ... Views: 37
When it comes to how human beings communicate with each other, there are many different aspects involved. During those moments where one is face to face with another, it is not just what comes out of their mouth that matters.
If one was talking to someone through text, email or via social ... Views: 64
Human beings have an inherent need to belong and when this need is not fulfilled, it can lead to all kinds of problems. Many years ago, if one wasn’t part of the tribe, their time on this earth would soon come to an end.
In some parts of the world this is still going to be the case, however, ... Views: 83
If someone had to choose between feeling happy or feeling sad, they’re likely to choose the second option; being happy feels good and being sad feels bad. Based on this outlook, one feeling is seen as being better than the other. But just because feeling happy feels better than feeling sad, it ... Views: 70
No matter where one is from on this planet, what colour their skin is or their social standing, they’re likely to listen to music. Very few things have the power to bring people together and this is one of the reasons why music is so powerful.
The fact that there are different styles can ... Views: 66
It is not uncommon to hear how important it is to be kind to others and while this is important, it is also important for people to be kind to themselves. In fact, if one is kind to themselves, they‘re more likely to be kind to other people.
The reason there is a greater focus on how someone ... Views: 62
When it comes to bad behaviour, there are some people who put up with it and then there are others who have a very low tolerance for it. This is not to say that this is always black and white; as there are going people who alternate between the two.
Ideally, one will be in a position where ... Views: 68
If an alien came to planet earth and asked someone who they are, one is likely to say that they’re a human being. But without needing an alien to land on the earth, this is the description that one could use.
However, although one is a human being, it doesn’t mean that one acts like one. ... Views: 50
When you want to grow as a person in any aspect of your life, you need to first focus on boosting your self-confidence. Without a high self-worth, you won’t be able to motivate yourself properly or even feel as if you are capable of achieving any goal that you may set.
And garnering a greater ... Views: 85
Are we becoming a society of angry people? Most days my answer would be a resounding “yes!” Between shouting matches at school sports events, road rage, hateful comments via social media, and other popular displays of aggression, it seems that we are allowing our anger and frustration to rule us ... Views: 93
It could be said that we live in the age of self improvement and this is not limited to one area of life. In America for instance, the self help industry takes in billions of dollars every year. So there is the chance for one to ‘improve’ their mind, body, physical appearance, relationships and ... Views: 43
THREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE
“We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it ... Views: 65
There are certain things that can be passed on from one generation to another that are beneficial and life affirming. This could relate manners, values and etiquette. These aspects will not only affect how one lives their life, the lives of others are also going to be affected.
Through being ... Views: 61
Brain and Heart Management for Better Success
The lion’s share of success and failure is mostly due to how well we manage our brains and hearts—specifically how we learn, grow and improve the thinking and feeling which drives our behavior. Psychologists have never ... Views: 88
While the ideal might be for one to experience a balanced sense of self worth, this is not always what takes place. Instead, one might experience life in such a way that they feel up one moment and down the next.
This is not to say that one won’t have moments where they don’t feel up or ... Views: 76
It is a challenge for some people to put their needs first and this is going to mean that they have a pattern of putting the needs of others first. This may mean that one takes care of their needs after, but it could also mean that one’s needs are not met.
And while being selfless is often ... Views: 73
For some people, their day is not complete unless they’re kept up to date by the news. And this can come about through listening to the radio, watching TV or reading a newspaper. These options can also be put to one side with how far technology has come and one only needs to use their phone. ... Views: 51
While one has inherent worth, it doesn’t mean that they’re able to realise this. And when this is the case, it is likely to be due to the toxic shame that they’re carrying within them. As all the time one is carrying this within them, it is going to make it more or less impossible for them to ... Views: 67
The Power of Commitment
Few things in life have as much power as commitment. Commitment turns average or inactive people into what the military calls a full metal jacket (a bullet that can penetrate great obstacles). The character trait of commitment does that. It gives our ... Views: 107
In recent times, people have become more aware of how powerful their thoughts are and while the power of one’s thoughts is nothing new, it was not something that was as well known in the past. And the reason more people are aware of the power of their thoughts is partly down to the internet.
... Views: 67
Through the introduction of social media, people have been able to express themselves in ways that were not available in the past. People can share how they feel, where they are and where they are going, amongst others things.
But one is not limited to words when comes to what is taking ... Views: 71
While some areas of the planet are far from safe, there are other areas on the planet that are the complete opposite. And due to what the media covers, one can end up coming to the conclusion that the whole world is unsafe.
Now, this doesn’t mean that one’s safety will be guaranteed if they ... Views: 66
While one may find it easy to take care of other people’s needs, they might find it hard to take care of their own needs. Putting other people’s needs first and being ‘selfless’ is often glorified; whereas if one puts their needs first, they can end up being portrayed as ‘selfish’.
But to ... Views: 72
Part of being human means that one has feelings and these are an important part of who they are. And when one is in tune with how they feel, their life is going to be radically different to how it would be if they were unaware of how they felt.
Ones feelings not only connect them to ... Views: 100
Although emotions are meant to flow, this is not something that always happens. This is not to say that one should always express how they feel; as this is not always going to be appropriate. What it will involve, is for one to accept how they feel and then to contain their emotional ... Views: 96
Five Questions We All Have At Work
“All good work has magic in it, and addresses the mind in a subtle way.” ~Duane Michals.
There are five questions we all have at work which need reasonable answers to, as guided by effective management. These questions were ... Views: 132
There are some people who are in touch with who they are, and then there are some people who are not. But while some people are going to be aware of the fact that they are out of touch with themselves, there are going to be other people who are not aware
However, when one is in touch with ... Views: 71
Each experience that one has in life is going to play a part in how they feel. In some cases, how one feels will reflect what has taken place and at other times, it won’t. And this is because what has happened externally has triggered feelings from the past.
This inner experience could ... Views: 74
When one is unable to let go, they’re going to end up using their energy to hold onto what they no longer need. And as they no longer need what they’re holding onto, it is not going to affect their ability to receive anything new.
What one is holding onto no longer has a purpose and it is ... Views: 84
While it is relatively easy to notice what is taking place in the outside world, the same can’t be said when to comes to what is taking place within ones inner world. From the moment one is born, they’re going to pick up information about the world and this is likely to continue until the day ... Views: 80
Part of being human means that one has needs and this is not something that can be changed. It is possible for one to deny that they have needs, but this won’t cause their needs to simply disappear.
Ideally, one will be in touch with their needs and it will then be possible for their needs ... Views: 77
If one is in a position where they’re pleasing other people from time to time, it is unlikely to have a negative effect on their life. However, when one pleases other people as a way of life it is going to have a negative effect on their life.
And while it is harming their life and stopping ... Views: 85
The narcissist constructs a narrative of his life that is partly confabulated and whose purpose is to buttress, demonstrate, and prove the veracity of the fantastically grandiose and often impossible claims made by the False Self. This narrative allocates roles to significant others in the ... Views: 120
When it comes to the conflict that is taking place in the external world, one only needs to look or to listen and they will soon be aware of what is taking place. Now this could relate to something that is taking place in front of them or something that is happening on the other side of the ... Views: 82
While there are some people who express how they feel, there are other people who don’t. And when one is not only in touch with how they feel but expresses how they feel, they’re going to experience life differently to someone who doesn’t.
This is because emotions are important and not ... Views: 111
When one experiences pain and it is not possible for them to face the pain that they’re experiencing, they’re going to end up using a number of defence mechanisms. This could be due to how traumatising the experience is or because it would be too much for them to face how they feel.
A ... Views: 89
While people often do everything they can to protect their property, the same can’t always be said about themselves. In the collective consciousness, there is a general understanding that one needs to protect their property.
And this is not because people can’t be trusted or that everyone ... Views: 96
When one knows exactly what they want to achieve or to experience, there will be clarity. And as result of this, one will be able to take the steps that they need to take to make their goal a reality.
This doesn’t mean that it will be a straight forward process though; as there are likely to ... Views: 139
Certain emotions are often seen as positive and others are often seen as negative, and this can cause people to embrace some and to deny others. But regardless of the label they’re given, they all have a purpose.
What matters is: how one responds to how they feel and not how they feel. If ... Views: 73
When it comes to pleasing others, ideally, this will be a choice and not something one feels they have no control over. If one feels that they always need to please others, it is going to interfere with their ability to listen to their own needs and emotions.
And when one feels the need to ... Views: 136
While some things have stayed the same over the years, there are other things that have radically changed. For instance, it could be said that today’s world is far more permissive than it used to be.
And this can be seen with how children are raised and how sex is generally viewed. It wasn’t ... Views: 97