It has been said that one’s life can be an expression of their own needs or it can be an expression of other people’s needs. When it comes to the former, one is pleasing themselves; whereas when it comes to the latter, they are pleasing others.
In order for one to live a ... Views: 17
How to get your energy, focus and performance back when tapped out?
This is the second in a series of exploring the main diversions and distractions that keep us from being our best leaders.
How are we captured and detained from being our best leaders, truly developing others and having ... Views: 10
It has been said that depression is one of the most common mental and emotional problems in today’s world, and while some people might experience it from time to time, there are others who are more familiar with it. This is then not going to be something that affects everyone is the same ... Views: 12
In 1995, author, psychologist, and science journalist, Daniel Goleman, wrote a book entitled, Emotional Intelligence which made its way to The New York Times bestseller list for a year-and-a-half. It was a relatively new concept designed to assist companies in determining which characteristics ... Views: 12
In 1995, author, psychologist, and science journalist, Daniel Goleman, wrote a book entitled, Emotional Intelligence which made its way to The New York Times bestseller list for a year-and-a-half. It was a relatively new concept designed to assist companies in determining which characteristics ... Views: 11
The Manager Misstep is explained and the VIVID Tool is highlighted.
Are you guilty of the Manager Misstep?
When your direct reports or team come to you do you step in too soon without fully hearing what they want?
Do you step in the wrong direction, suggesting something they already ... Views: 11
While some people end up with people who on a similar level, there are others who end up with people who are not. As a result of this, not everyone is going to be drawn to people who are as developed as they are.
When it comes to the former, it could be said that one’s relationships ... Views: 30
When someone gets on a plain to go home after they have been on holiday, it could be said that they are leaving the country behind. Once they get home, they can carry on with the rest of their life.
Now, this is not to say that they won’t have moments when they will think about what took ... Views: 20
While there are some people who can change their behaviour if they need to, there are others who are unable to do so. When this happens, they can come across as the same no matter what is taking place.
This is not to say that they won’t have moments where their behaviour will change, but ... Views: 33
If one was to come into contact with someone they know, they could end up receiving a smile and then a few words. At the same time, they might not offer them a smile and only a few words could be spoken.
When the former takes place, it is likely to be a sign that one is close to the other ... Views: 21
If one was to go shopping and they were to speak to someone who works in a store, it is highly unlikely that they will expect them to treat them like a close friend would. In fact, they might not know what to expect from them.
This is something that can all depend on how they are treated by ... Views: 34
Thinking of selling your house? Well, take a good look at it. Try to visualize how it will look without the furnishings that lend it a lived in look. It will look desolate right? So, get to work. Decorate your house to show case how beautiful it will look if well furnished. That’s stage managing ... Views: 22
While one could have the tendency to take responsibility for what happens in their life, they could also have the tendency to blame others. Based on this, it could be said that one can either behave like an adult, or they can behave like a child.
When one doesn’t take responsibility, it ... Views: 25
If one is in a position where their life is not going as they would like it to go, they could end up looking for a therapist to work with. This could mean that they will go and see their doctor or they may do an internet search, for instance.
At the same time, one might ask a friend or a ... Views: 27
Dear Dr. Romance:
Your article on "Fair Fight Guidelines" is wonderful!!! My major issue is that I cry upon a disagreement. This prevents me to think clearly, act maturely and interact directly. Would you please address this issue?
Thank you for the ... Views: 27
It has often been said that some people require more attention than others, and this is something that can be seen in all areas of life. For example, one could think about what it was like when they were at school or college, and they might soon see how different people are in this regard.
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Most people are familiar with the heart-aching pain of grief. Most people can identify the empty thud of loneliness. Most people know when they've been pricked by the green-eyed monster of jealousy, or taken under the thick, gray blanket of shame. But how often do we talk about longing?
In ... Views: 66
If one was to take their car to a garage, it could be due to a number of reasons. On one hand, it could be due to something minor, and on the other hand, it could be due to something major.
However, regardless of why they have taken their car there, the main thing is that they have taken ... Views: 56
When some people use social media, it is a way for them to stay in contact with their friends and family. Some of the people they know could live down the road or a few hundred miles away, and others could live in another country, for instance.
This is not to say that they won’t share things ... Views: 61
If someone was to come across two people who want to be in a relationship, it would be easy for them to assume that they are both in the same position. On one level, it could be said that this is the case; however, if they were to look a little deeper, they might find that there is more to ... Views: 92
When one is harmed in some way by another person, it has been said that they can hold onto how they feel or they can forgive them. If one holds onto how they feel, it could be said they will continue to suffer.
Not only will they have gone through a tough time as a result of the other ... Views: 76
When office politics prevail in a work environment, trust levels are usually low. This is because office politicians are perceived as willing to do whatever it takes to get what they want, and this can include deception, threats, attack and a myriad of other undesirable activities.
Office ... Views: 55
Have you ever experienced moments of feeling 'stuck' in life? Or perhaps moments where you're not sure whether you're coming or going? Moments of indecision? Moments where it seems that nothing you do appears to work or change things?
Many at one time or another go through these experiences, ... Views: 73
If one was in a position where they have something wrong with their phone, for instance, there is a strong chance that they would get the right assistance. This could be a time where they will ask a friend what they should do, or they could simply take it to a phone shop.
However, even if ... Views: 83
If one had something on their mind in the past, they may have kept it to themselves or they might have spoken to someone. Nowadays, one has another option, and this is to share what is taking place for them on social media.
As a result of this, not only can one share the kinds of things they ... Views: 85
When someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done.
If one had a piece of furniture that needed to be ... Views: 81
If one was to think about being in a relationship, they might focus on what it would be like to be with someone who they can share their life with. This can then mean that they will experience positive feelings.
The reason that one has this experience could be because it reminds them of what ... Views: 146
Mastering the Moment for Exceptional Performance:
Part One Self-Development
In the last blog I wrote about why you need Emotional Intelligence. In this multi part series we will look at the main strategies and actions to raise your Emotional Intelligence and propel you to be a top ... Views: 58
Managers account for 70% variance in employee engagement surveys.
What are the top reasons you need to develop and enhance your Emotional Intelligence (EI)? After working with thousands of executives and leaders and focusing on helping them raise their Emotional Intelligence for the last 20 ... Views: 76
If a wasp started to chase someone and they didn’t want to be stung, they might end up running away. This could be a sign that they have been stung before and don’t want to go through the same experience all over again.
If they were to run away, it might only be a matter of time before ... Views: 95
The importance of self defense
You cannot always expect outside help in cases where you may be under attack. It is at times like these when having some form of training in self-defense become necessary. You may be living in the most elite of neighborhoods, but the chances of a lone mugger ... Views: 86
When someone’s car runs smoothly, there is going to be no reason for them to take a deeper look into how it works. And the same could be said when it comes to others areas of their life.
For example, if their body is not causing them any problems, there is also going to be no need for them ... Views: 91
There are a number of things that will make it easier to have fulfilling relationships with others, and having boundaries is one of them. The primary reason for this is that they will allow someone to maintain their sense of self.
As when one is unable to do this, it is going to be a ... Views: 121
If someone spent a lot of time on their appearance in the past, there is the chance that it wouldn’t have been possible for them to go out without looking a certain way. And while they might have been able to let go when they were at home, this might not have been the case.
As a result of ... Views: 116
If one was to think about the kinds of experiences that they have had so far this year, they may find that there have been a number of moments that have had a negative effect on their life. This could relate to what has taken place in the real world, as well as what has occurred online.
And ... Views: 97
When one feels as though they have control over their life, it will have a positive effect on their well-being. This is because it will be possible for them to fulfil their needs and this will allow them to grow.
Alternatively, when one feels as though they don’t have control over their ... Views: 114
A Manager recently exclaimed in a discussion, “Leadership theory is fallacious!” Based on her experience, it seems to be impossible to be a leader in her organization which she characterized as dishonest, abusive and highly controlling. From her perspective, her attempts at being an effective ... Views: 86
On one hand, there are people that take responsibility for just about everything, and on the other hand, there are others that avoid taking responsibility for just about everything. And while it could be said that the first option is better than the second option, they are both going to lead to ... Views: 122
When one’s life isn’t going as they would like it to go, there is the chance that this will cause them to experience pain. On one hand, one could end up feeling like a victim and not do anything about it, and on the other hand, they could get in touch with their anger and end up taking ... Views: 127
If someone was to lose a family member or a close friend, it can be seen as something that will have a bigger impact on them than if they were to lose a pet. Based on this, if they were to experience life differently it could be said that something isn’t right.
Thus, if one was to ... Views: 107
Everyone on this planet will have experienced physical pain at one point or another, and there is also the chance that they have suffered mentally and emotionally. And although it could be said that there is a greater awareness around the former than the latter, it doesn’t mean that this is ... Views: 138
Low self-esteem is something you can overcome. It does require a plan though; courage too. These 10 actions make it possible.
Quick tip - Start gradually. Don’t do everything all at once but do try at least one thing every day.
1. Be aware of your gremlin
If you’re struggling to ... Views: 121
If one is going through an emotionally challenging time in their life, they may find that they have started to shut down. Their engine will still be running, but it won’t be running on all cylinders, so to speak.
During this time, it is not going to be their intention for this to take place; ... Views: 158
If one was go shopping, they could end up trying a number of different things on, and while some of these items may be a good fit; there could be others that are not. When something fits them, they are going to feel comfortable; whereas when this is not the case, they are going to feel ... Views: 154
If someone was to take a dog for a walk and they were told to keep it under control, they are unlikely to think that there is anything wrong with what they are being told. However, if they were in a relationship and one their friends told them to control their partner, this might not be the ... Views: 159
There can be times when someone has too much of something and times when they don’t have enough. It is often said that when one wants something it is never there and yet when they don’t want it, it ends up appearing.
However, while this can relate to something physical, it is also something ... Views: 187
Yes, of course you can quit…
Of course, you can call it all a lost cause…
Of course, you can settle into your boring old existence doing things that you do not want to do forever…
Living beneath your potential and living with the dissatisfaction that arises from living like a ‘norm’ when you ... Views: 135
While there are some people who find it easy to empathise with others, there others who are not in the same position. What this shows is that although everyone is a human being, it doesn’t mean that they operate in the same way.
Still, it could be said that this is not the only difference, ... Views: 165
It has been said that everyone on this planet is a teacher on one hand and student on the other. Based on this, it is a two way process, and if one doesn’t have this outlook, they are likely to be out of balance.
In this case, one could believe that other people are here to learn from them ... Views: 180
You hear the words team, teamwork or team building at the office, some of us more than others. But do authentic teams really exist? Or are you a part of a disconnected group of people who happen to work for the same employer, all with different agendas? Sometimes employees are lured into ... Views: 128