Do the Promises come true?
When I first heard the Promises mentioned in a 12-step meeting over twenty years ago my first thought was "yeah, right." Over the years, with a lot of soul-searching and hard work both in and out of the program, I've come to believe that they can be realised .... certainly my life bears little relation to the one I bore all those years ago.
Along the way of my own recovery I chose to become trained to work with others, determined to help alleviate the suffering I saw all around. I became licensed in California as a Marriage and Family Therapist in 1991 and have specialised in addiction ever since. I became fascinated with the role trauma (on a continuum from trauma to TRAUMA) plays in the self-medicating aspects of addiction and have undertaken significant training in the Generative Somatics model of Staci Haines. This is a body-centred approach designed to focus on building resilience and competencies in every-day circumstances including those tricky relationships before tackling the disturbing events one bite at a time. I've found this approach enormously helpful, empowering and often the last piece in the puzzle for survivors or people in recovery.
Dr. Richard Strozzi-Heckler invited me to submit a chapter to his book "Being Human At Work: Bringing Somatic Intelligence Into Your Professional Life" which is entitled "The Power of Somatics in Sobriety" (under my maiden name J. Clare Bowen-Davies). My own book "Unwinding the Trauma-Addiction Bind" is currently undergoing a re-write to incorporate the latest in neuroscience research.
“I believe we are spiritual beings having a human experience, peppered with lessons and challenges, and that we are fundamentally whole, talented and satisfiable. I believe clients hire coaches and therapists to navigate those lessons and challenges for the sake of living their best life – setting and meeting goals, expanding their vision of what’s possible, increasing self-awareness, managing mood, experiencing a wide range of emotions such as success, self-acceptance and love. I also believe if we do the same things we’ve always done, we get the same results – creating change requires new action and a coach is your best ally in the collaborative process of designing that new action.”