Over the past two decades Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks have worked with over twenty thousands individuals, eighty companies and three thousand couples in developing their method of transformation. Among their past clients are Motorola, Lucent Technologies, Dell Computers, KLM Airlines, and Monsanto.
Together, Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks have authored Conscious Living, The Conscious Heart and other books about relationships and conscious living. They've appeared on over 500 TV and radio programs, including Oprah, CNN, 48 Hours, Leeza, Sally Jessy and others. They are partners, along with Stephen Simon and others, in the new Spiritual Cinema Circle, which provides heartful, soulful movies that people can see without leaving home.
Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., is one of the leading theorists in the field of body-mind integration and is author of over twenty books in education, transpersonal psychology and centering, including: Conscious Living, The Corporate Mystic, The Centering Book and Learning to Love Yourself. He served as Professor of Counseling for twenty-one years in the School of Education at the University of Colorado, where he began teaching in 1974 shortly after receiving his doctorate from Stanford University.
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., is a consultant and educator in the field of body-mind and relationship transformation. She directs training programs for The Hendricks Institute in the United States and Europe and consults for business. She has explored the catalytic power of the creative arts in psychotherapy and organizational systems for thirty years, and her work has been featured in magazines, journals and books such as Transpersonal Approaches to Counseling and Psychotherapy, Chocolate for a Woman's Soul, Personal Transformation and Yoga Journal.
They are the only top relationship experts who work and appear together as a couple (so they can demonstrate and practice what they preach). They draw on wisdom learned in their own marriage of two decades.
Not only have they appeared on major talk shows such as Oprah, Sally Jessy Raphael and others, but their work has been featured on ABC News and 48 Hours, as well as in Redbook, Cosmopolitan, New Woman, Self, and others.
From The Conscious Heart:
âConscious Creating Abundance: Dealing with Money Issuesâ:
â In summary, I can see three main transformations which have generated financial abundance in my life:
1. Realizing that I could choose conscious my own relationship to money. This step involved confronting my programming and replacing it with ideas more congenial to my own values. When Kathlyn and I chose to quit fighting about money and re-channel that energy into productivity, our prosperity began to increase rapidly.
2. Clearing up incompletions from the past. This step involved much soul-searching and looking for places where we has broken agreements or had left something unsaid. The actions stepsâcompleting whatever needed to be completedâalways brought a fresh burst of life-energy and a new wave of abundance.
3. Becoming a conscious philanthropist. This step is an ongoing practice of sending money out into the world with the intention of creating harmony while prospering all concerned, including ourselves.â
From Attracting Genuine Love
âTHE NUMBER ONE RULE OF CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIPS: BE REAL:
If you tell the truth at all times, you will have clear relationships with everyone. If you do not, things will get out of control very quickly. To get back into the flow of harmony, all your have to do is look to see where you stopped telling the truth to yourself or someone else, and fix it by telling the truth.â
From Centering and the Art of Intimacy:
Many ofthe trouble we encounter in life and in relationships come from running up against upper limits in ourselves and others. A thorough understanding of theupper-limits problem can prevent many of the most irritating snags that humanshit.
Hereâs how itworks. In growing up we learn tolimit the amount of energy we feel and express. If your parents are in the mist of an argument when you come in exhilarated with a freshly caught frog, you may hit a wall when you try to communicate your enthusiasm to them. Do you remember any of these phrases from childhood?
â¢ âWhat are you so happy about.?â
â¢ âDonât count your chickens before they hatch.â
â¢ âThereâs many a slip âtwixt the cup and the lip.â
â¢ âYou think everybodyâs great now, but you just wait until later in life.â
â¢ âBe still!â
Slogans like these are often used to warn people of the dangers of getting too excited, of feelingtoo good, of getting their hopes up. Many families are precariously balanced, so that it doesnât take much energy to upset the system. As children we learn to put upper limits on howgood we can feel so that we can survive and keep the system intactâ¦
In relationships the upper-limits problem is compounded. When two people move closer to each other, the energy is multiplied and increased. Imagine that each of us has a hidden thermostat that sets off anunconscious alarm if we go past a certain setting. In a relationship the alarmsgo off even more easily than when we are alone, due to the increased energy and unpredictability of two people. When the alarms sound we often do something to bring the relationship back downâ¦
The question we needto answer is: How can we rise higher and higher without bringing ourselves down?â
From Conscious Living:
Sexual problems are seldom about sex. Sex is the canary in the coal mine. When the canary keels over, coal miners do not apply CPR to the bird. They focus on fixing the larger problem, often invisible and pervasive, that is behind the obvious and visible bird problem. In over 90 percent of the cases in which I have been consulted regarding sexual problems,the sexual issues cleared up when more fundamental problems were handled. About 10 percent of the time, there was actually something wrong with the physiology or the technical aspects of sex that needed addressing.
Sexual communication is the solution to almost every sexual problem. Again, amazingly enough, we receive little or no training in this crucial life skill in the traditional educational system.â
From Lasting Love:
ââ¦we arenât responsibility for creating all the bad things that happen to us. But we can claim responsibility for thebad things that happen and learn a lot about ourselves by doing so. It all depends on whether you think of responsibility as something you are or as something you do. For us, the onlyuseful way of thinking about responsibility is as something we do. We use an operational definition of responsibility, not a theoretical one: Responsibility is an action you take, not a quality that can be assigned. A judge and jury can assign responsibilityto a criminal for an act, but that criminalâs life will not begin to change until he or she ake a conscious choice to take responsibilityâ¦
The key point is this: There is tremendous healing power in taking responsibility for something right now in the present, but no healing value in looking back to the past to blame yourself or anyone else.â
From At The Speed of Life:
An Experiment in Love and Responsibility That You can Do Right Now:
Think of something you have struggled with in yourselfâperhaps itâs your weight or your fear of speaking in public. Let your mind settle on this one thing so that you are clear about what it is. Now think of someone or something that you know for sure that you love. Perhaps itâs a certain loved one or anaction like riding your bike in the country on a sunny day. The only requirement is that you have reliably felt love in the presence of this person or thing. Let yourself feel that love in your body and mind right now. Now take a leap: Love that thing you have struggled with just as you love the person or thing that you know for sure you love. You may say, âBut I hate it.â All right, then love yourself for hating. Then love it. Greet it with loving acceptance.
Now for the responsibility part of the experiment. Acknowledge yourself as the source and creator of the problem you have been focusing on. Letâs say you are focusing on your weight. Even if you come from thirteen generations of overweight ancestors, you can choose to take responsibilityfor your weight now. Responsibility begins the moment you take it. You donât have to wait for anything to happen before you take responsibility.â
From Conscious Loving:
â Withdrawal and projection are the natural outcomes of withholding. When you withhold, you keep inside yourself things that should be expressed. The very act of hiding these things takes you one step back from the relationship. A result of this withdrawal is that you will begin to project. In other words, you will begin to attribute to other people things that are actually issues of your own.â
âHuman beings have deep needs both for closeness and for independence. We need unity with others,and we need space for ourselves. Thwart either of these needs and we create misery beyond belief.â
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