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Get to the Roots of Your Public Speaking Fears  

If you‘re like me you've likely had an experience of getting the jitters at the thought of standing in front of an audience to do a presentation.

The experience of those jitters is often the same i.e. nervousness, anxiety, tension, sweating, feeling faint, tightness in your abdominal region, feeling confused, going blank, tripping over your words, speaking too softly, fear of making eye contact and so on.

Surprisingly however the actual cause of those jitters is not always the same from one individual to another.

So what are the underlying causes of one's public speaking fears or performance anxiety?

Well some of them are as follows:

1. The fear of making a mistake.

2. The fear of going blank.

3. The fear of rejection.

4. The fear that you will look foolish or stupid.

5. The fear that others will find your talk boring and a waste of their time.

6. The fear that others will find your talk offensive in some way.

7. The fear of having a panic attack or having a breakdown right in front of the audience.

8. The perception of the audience as hostile and unforgiving.

And so on.

At a deeper level where do these fears originate from?

Well they are related to early traumatic life experiences that are stored deep in one's unconscious mind and body and which happen to be re-triggered by the speaking situation.

It's as if, while in the speaking situation, the speaker is taken back to earlier negative experiences and starts to relive these experiences right in front of the audience.

Of course it goes without saying that not only is this inappropriate it also makes the individual quite dysfunctional.

The worst part of all of this is that each time an individual faces an audience and thus re-triggers the old emotional trauma they essentially become re-traumatized by it.

In other words their fear of speaking in crowds becomes more deeply ingrained.

It is for this reason that I do not employ nor advocate approaches to overcoming one's fears that do not help the individual first release the hidden traumatic material.

I too suffered from a public speaking phobia and severely debilitating shyness for most of my early life.

Like most people I tried many methods to help myself: meditation, hypnosis, psychotherapy, EMDR, imagery exercises, behavior modification etc.

My experience with many of these was that they were only temporarily helpful, required ongoing effort on my part, and/or were re-traumatizing to me.

In the latter years as a psychiatrist I yearned for and discovered another way which I later called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP).

MRP is a powerful tool that helps release emotionally based trauma and the negative beliefs, emotions, behaviors, perceptions, and reactions associated with them once and for all from the mind and body.

It's very much like doing what I call an "emotional detoxification".

The results are permanent and leave the individual with a renewed sense of confidence that requires no added effort to sustain.

If you suffer from a speaking phobia, shyness, performance anxiety, or some other phobia you may be interested in an Introductory Consultation.

How to End Those Sales Calling Fears Forever 

If you're in your own business and one of the major challenges you have getting clients is picking up the phone and making that important first call then you're likely struggling with what many cold callers suffer with, the fear of rejection.

This fear can manifest within as some of the following:

1. Avoidance of picking up the phone.

2. Excuses as to why doing less productive things is more important.

3. Belief that what you are offering is not wanted by anyone.

4. Fear or dread of that proverbial hangup in your ear.

5. Anxiety or nervousness while you are trying to deliver your prepared message to the callee.

6. Conveying a lack of self confidence thereby sabotaging your efforts during the call.

And so on.

What does all of this have in common? Well pure and simple it is the fact that you are in failure mode. In other words your sales are going to suffer.

One of the most destructive aspects of this is that in itself it is traumatizing to you. That means that the fear of failing again just becomes greater and more entrenched in your mind and body. If allowed to continue it ultimately undermines one's self confidence, self esteem, sense of adequacy, and one's chances of success.

It also undermines one's overall emotional and physical health in the long run. That is what trauma does to individuals you see.

I think you know that sales calls can be very stressful and therefore traumatizing. That is why so few individuals are able to persist at it for too long.

What if you could not only rid yourself of such fears but also build up a sense of resilience that would make your calls pleasurable, effective, get you the results you desire, and make you successful?

Is that too hard to believe? Well it is possible with a new modality that I developed over 10 years ago which helps individuals achieve all of that and more. It is called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP) and it is available through the web link below at no risk to you. 

Are You Afraid of Losing Weight?

Those of you who have been struggling with the weight loss issue have likely tried many different diets, exercise programs, supplements and weight loss aids but in the end still find yourselves struggling to keep the pounds off.

This can be extremely frustrating when abdominal obesity has been correlated with heart disease, diabetes mellitus, osteoporosis and several other chronic life disabling ailments. 

 The fear of having to feel some of the feelings of hurt that you are hiding in all that fat.

Rather it is tied with many other issues, many emotional, in your life.

In order to effect change in the weight problem one must start to address these issues one by one in a systematic and powerful way.

Not doing so and trying to take a simplistic approach is like throwing your money away, not to mention your time and hence your life.

Over 12 years ago I developed a powerful process called the Mind Resonance Process® (MRP) that helps individuals do just that, address and release these underlying issues simply, powerfully, painlessly and most importantly permanently!

The net result is that the weight issue takes care of itself once and for all with no more maintenance programs. Hard to believe?

Yes, but I know that deep down what has been said has likely resonated with you at a deeper level.

 If it has and you have the courage  to be free  join our ongoing "Lose Weight The Right Way" Teleconference groups.

No More Sexual Performance Anxiety!

What is sexual performance anxiety?

Well it includes but is not limited to:

1. Having trouble getting an erection.

2. Having ongoing problems with premature ejaculation.

3. Fearing that your partner will reject you if you don't please her.

4. A desperate need to please your partner while having sex.

5. Needing to work hard or be in control of foreplay and the sexual act.

6. An inability to relax while having sex.

7. Fear of deeper emotional intimacy with your partner while having sex.

For a significant percentage of men this can often lead to exactly what they fear, rejection followed by the associated trauma that only leads to further impotence and sexual performance anxiety.

What can be done about this unending and progressive spiral into impotence, loneliness and feelings of low self confidence?

Well there are a number of different isues that will need to be addressed.

First it must be recognized that often sexual performance anxiety has its roots in early childhood relationships with one's parents.

A young boy may for instance have an authoritative father who constantly undermines his son's self confidence in order to prop up his own. Often such fathers are in themselves feeling deeply impotent and unconsciously exploit their sons hoping to secure some confidence for themselves. Such fathers can often be heard saying such things as "When I was you age I ....." ( I think you can fill in the blank if you know what I'm talking about).

Such statements are often traumatic to the child and can deeply undermine their self confidence. These emotional "scars" remain embedded in one's unconscious and later can serve to block the expression of their true virility in a number of areas i.e. career success, relationships, as well as sexually.

Another example leading to sexual performance anxiety arises when a child has a demanding or needy mother who can never be emotionally satisfied and whose love is given conditionally based on the child being able to satisfy her. This is often seen in emotionally chronically depressed mothers.

The child is left feeling helpless, alone, frightened, and unloved. This imprints in them a deep sense of inadequacy and this can then later turn up in their future relationships.

Another cause, as mentioned above is the repeated trauma that ensues from being rejected by partners on the basis of the man's sexual difficulties.

What can be done about sexual performance anxiety?

Well it has been my expereince working with such men over the last 15 years that the key is to help them release the "root" of their problem from their unconscious mind and body.

By this I mean that the deep memory imprints of trauma must be uprooted and erased once and for all.

Although this may sound hard to believe it is indeed possible to do easily and quickly with a tool I developed over 15 years ago called the Mind Resonance Process(R) (MRP).

This is a process that is accessible over the telephone and is available internationally to all.

If you are suffering from sexual performance anxiety or any other emotional issues and would like some real help feel free to contact me at the web link below.

Relationships: Self Sabotage As A Way Of Feeling Safe

Now although that may sound like a strange title it is more common than you think. Let me explain.

Self sabotage is essentially when an individual engages an old conditioned habit or way of being that undermines their success, integrity, self esteem, self worth, self confidence, their happiness, their relationships, their health, their wealth, and so on.

Although such behavior to any sane person would seem totally illogical (because it is) to the person who harbors it at an unconscious level there appears to be some sort of "logic" that is driving it.

This unconscious logic is just that "unconscious" and hence the person who is engaging the behavior that it supports cannot see it clearly. It is when it, the unconscious logic, is made conscious that the negative behavior vanishes spontaneously.

Now back to the title.

Self sabotage is a pattern that is seen in individuals who have experienced some form of emotionally traumatic experience in their early life. If not properly cleared the memory of this incident sets up in them a sense of vulnerability, fear and hyper vigilance around any event or situation that resembles it in some way.

For example suppose that you experienced a very bad relationship in the past. The negative emotional imprint of this relationship will still be inside affecting you much like the software in your computer runs in the background of what you actually see on the screen.

Whenever you attempt to engage a new relationship you will be vulnerable to re-experiencing the old painful emotions again. The fear of doing so often leads one to unconsciously sabotage their current relationship so that they will avoid feeling the past trauma.

Hence the self sabotaging behavior is in an attempt to maintain a sense of internal emotional peace or harmony.

What is interesting here is that the self sabotaging behavior appears to become engaged automatically and appears to be out of the person's control. It is what many might refer to a "bad habit" and habits are thought to be out of our conscious control.

So the individual may actually feel "out of control" of themselves and may find themselves unhappy at the outcome.

So I hope that you recognize that the unconscious choice to maintain a sense of control over the emerging old negative emotions from the past wrestles control away from the individual in the present as they attempt to make another go at a relationship.

This is what some people might refer to as "living in the past" or I might refer to as "being enslaved by the past". Another methaphor might be like trying to get your computer to do one thing when it is actually pre-programmed for something else entirely.

The only way to fully live in the present as a truly empowered and successful individual is to release (actually "erase") these old painful negative emotions (what I have also termed "Emotional Landmines"; please see my article of the same name) once and for all.

This can now be done quickly, easily and permanently over the telephone employing a new modality called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP).

To arrange your introductory consultation please visit the web link below.

Emotional Intelligence: Which Emotions Can You Really Trust?

I want to dispel the notion that by simply tuning into your feelings that you are going to become a more effective individual.

This is because not all feelings are cut from the same cloth.

There are two categories of emotions that you need to become aware of. They are what I term:

1. Conditioned Emotions, and

2. Normal Human Emotions.

Conditioned emotions are such feelings as: fear, anxiety, worry, anger, envy, jealousy, defensiveness, hatred, neediness, loneliness, low self esteem, low self confidence, low self worth, guilt, hopelessness, etc.

They are the result of negative beliefs that you have chosen to buy into as the truth about your situation. Such beliefs and the associated emotions result from old traumatic life experiences that you still carry in your mind and body. Many have also been inherited through ancestral DNA in which such traumatic experiences are stored as well.

Another way of saying this is that such beliefs, emotions and memories are part of what psychologists call a post traumatic stress disorder. In other words they are abnormal and should not be there at all.

Unfortunately many of these become embedded in your mind and body from such an early age that you have likely never known your true self without them on board.

So much so that you have come to believe these emotions to be part of a normal human experience. They are anything but!

Another way of conceptualizing this might be like thinking that the limitations of the platform on your computer are actually the limitations of the computer itself. Of course you know that upgrading to a new paltform would clearly expand the performance of the old platform. 

These conditioned emotions (and beliefs) along with their traumatic roots can be released permanently employing a new modality called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP).

When they are released (actually erased) one begins to have an unfettered and pure experience of themselves without these negative and life draining toxins.

One is left feeling only true Human Emotions that are life giving and in fact are Life itself! These consist of the following: love, joy, inner peace, great resilience, self confidence, happiness, self esteem, wholeness, lightness, buoyancy, compassion, buoyancy, inner strength & wisdom and so on.

So please be wary of those individuals who try to tell you that all feelings and/or emotions are normal. Deep inside I trust that you will know the difference and heed that inner wisdom.

If you would like support in helping you achieve true emotional wisdom kindly visit the web link below for an introductory consultation.

How To Eliminate Feelings Of Inadequacy Forever

While I was presenting at a recent conference in Santa Fe, New Mexico I learned that the majority of my audience were carrying feelings of inadequacy within. As I helped them release such feelings once and for all I decided that it would be useful to also write about this issue here.

Feelings of inadequacy are believed by many to be "normal" human feelings. This is because everyone knows what the experience feels like and no one questions its presence inside of them.

As a result it’s no wonder that in spite of one's efforts to address such feelings they continue to remain deeply lodged within the person's mind and body.

Such feelings can manifest in many automatic and destructive ways that only causes the feelings to intensify. All this happens because the individual feels powerless to do anything about them.

Where do such feelings stem from? Well simply, they stem from the fact that you were once a helpless and dependent baby!

Let me elaborate. As I'm sure you can appreciate a baby is inherently a helpless and dependent being who must rely completely on its care givers for life. If the care givers are completely in tune with the baby's needs then the baby will never feel any discomfort.

So I ask you how common is that experience in any baby's life? Well I think you will agree that it is absolutely uncommon if not non existent. Now I am not here to bash parents. I am only making an obvious statement that is based on the reality in which we live.

So when a baby's needs are not met, even once the baby is left feeling deprived emotionally and physically. With these feelings are also associated feelings of helplessness, sadness, fear, dread, powerlessness and if left too long depression.

It is the baby's inability to rectify these feelings of deprivation that leave it feeling inadequate. The feelings then become imprinted in its mind and body at an emotional and physical level. It is my view that they become imprinted right in the DNA of the child and continue to lurk there through out its life.

Unfortunately, these feelings are anything but helpful to the individual at any point in their life. Many however have felt such feelings for so long they often never realize that they are destructive and limiting. What's more they never realize that something significant can be done to "reprogram" their DNA so that such imprinting can be permanently released.

I have written extensively about a new modality that I administer over the telephone called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP) that can release such feelings once and for all from the mind, body and DNA of any individual quickly, painlessly and simply.

If you'd like to know more consider an Introductory Consultation by visiting the web link below

Are You A Manager With A Controlling Personality?

If you manifest what many consider a "controlling personality" then I'm sure that there is a great deal of stress and tiredness associated with such a state.

That is because "controlling" behavior is generated by a deep anxiety that relates to you "not being in control" of others and your environment. If you think about this for just a moment, the idea that you might feel powerless and vulnerable to your situation inevitably engenders anxiety and with it a need to stem those feelings inside of yourself.

Well, what "better" way than to "control" those factors that are making you anxious, correct? Wrong!

Why wrong? Well first because it’s impossible to control everything in your environment. Just try and you'll see what I mean. No matter how much effort you put into it you'll still feel anxious and drained at the end of the day. What's more this will only feed into your feelings of powerlessness and vulnerability and make the situation worse.

Secondly, the problem is not in the uncertainty that is inherently part of your environment, it is in you!

What is that problem you ask? Well for each individual there are "emotional landmines" (please see my article on Emotional Landmines" in this ezine) that trigger inner states of unpleasant feelings such as anxiety, fear, shame, guilt, envy, jealousy, inadequacy, low self worth, low self confidence etc.

Such landmines were conditioned in you while you were growing up as a child. They are held deep in your mind and body and have a life of their own, much to your detriment.

When something happens in your life that triggers one of these landmines inside of you you will experience, at some level, one or more of these unpleasant feelings. Now because they are "unpleasant" there is a tendency, also learned from early childhood, to try to extinguish the feelings.

One of these, as I mentioned is to try to put out the "triggering" stimulus in the environment. Well that's like trying to prevent individuals from stepping on a real landmines when you don't even know where they are .

Isn't it better first to locate them and then diffuse them once and for all? Doesn't this approach leave you feeling more secure, more peaceful, with more energy, more relaxed, etc?

Well there is a new modality called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP) that can do just that with your emotional landmines.

Fear Of Letting Go Of A Bad Relationship

Do you find yourself stuck in a bad relationship?

By bad I mean one that feels empty, where there are no feelings of intimacy or love, where there is emotional or physical abuse and so on.

One of the main reasons that individuals remain caught in such unsatisfying or abusive relationships is due to the "fear of letting go".

This fear often may have many underlying roots to it. For instance there may be:

1. A fear of being alone.

2. A fear of feeling a deep sense of emptiness.

3. A fear that no one else will ever love you.

4. A fear of taking full responsibility for your life and/or looking after yourself.

5. A need to try to perpetuate some past abusive relationship in the current one.

6. A need to distract one's self from painful feelings that may emerge when the distraction of the current relationship is gone.

7. A fear that one will decompensate or fragment emotionally and/or physically.

Clearly the fact that the relationship is not working is a sign of concern. More concerning however is feeling incapable of exercising a free choice to leave it when all measures to rectify the situation have failed.

The factors mentioned above often are the result of traumatic relational experiences that you have stored in your mind/body and which originate in early childhood.

What is important for you to know is that such experiences limit your ability to have a fulfilling and satisfying life.

Many individuals seek out therapy of one sort or another to lessen the impact of such life history on their relationships but find that even after all is said and done this toxicity is still held deep inside them.

If you look at how it feels to recall any negative memory, even one that you may have worked on in therapy I think you will recognize that there are always negative feelings and/or negative feelings about yourself associated with it.

These feelings will always limit you in your relational life.

In over 20 years as a psychiatrist I trained in almost every psychotherapeutic modality known. In spite of all of this training it has been my experience that most therapies are of limited use in dealing with such past issues.

It was for that reason that I left this paradigm and developed a modality that goes beyond "therapy" which helps restore you to your true nature by helping you essentially release permanently and completely such negative history from your mind/body.

This modality called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP) has helped hundreds of individuals reclaim full control over their relational lives.

Essential Oils Shown To Alleviate Depression & Pain In Arthritis Patients

I have been a fan of essential oils for over 10 years now. I have found them personally useful for alleviating many physical and emotional issues in that time. I also especially find the aromas of many of them extremely inspiring and uplifting.

I have personally used a combination of Therapeutic Grade (an important concept in essential oils use) Frankincense and Lavender from Young Living Essential Oils for managing symptoms of depression as have some of my clients.

Here I report on a recent study done by Kim MJ, Nam ES, Paik SI.*** in Feb 2005 that employs a combination of lavender, marjoram, eucalyptus, rosemary, and peppermint in a carrier oil that looked at the effect of this combination on the symptoms of depression, pain and satisfaction in life in arthritis patients.

This study has some scientific significance as it was an unblinded study with a comparison control group. The sample consisted of 40 patients, enrolled in the Rheumatics Center, Kangnam St. Mary's Hospital, South Korea. It is important to keep in mind that there is no information about the methodology of the study provided in the abstract and that the power of the study could be increased through randomization of patients and blinding of treatment and assessment phases.

The study found that:

"Aromatherapy significantly decreased both the pain score and the depression score of the experimental group compared with the control group. However, aromatherapy didn't increase the feeling of satisfaction in life of the experimental group compared with the control group. "

Their final conclusion was:

"The result of this study clearly shows that aromatherapy has major effects on decreasing pain and depression levels. Based on our experiment's findings, we suggest that aromatherapy can be a useful nursing intervention for arthritis patients."

It is to be expected that the last parameter namely "satisfaction in life" would likely not respond as this is highly dependent on one's actual life situation and that this would in fact need to evolve or change.

It has been my experience that individuals who succumb to chronic debilitating illnesses become traumatized by the actual length of time they find themselves incapacitated.

This often imprints them with many fears of returning to a normal life. I have been helping such individuals overcome their fears with a new process (the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP)) that is used to complement the essential oils.

The use of MRP in conjunction with Essential Oils is proving to be a useful strategy to mobilize such individuals back into a state of normalcy.

Reference:

***Kim MJ, Nam ES, Paik SI., Taehan Kanho Hakhoe Chi. 2005 Feb;35(1):186-94.

Some Evidence Of How We Are Spiritually Connected

It has long been surmised that emotional trauma can lead to physical illness. It is also conceptualized that such toxic trauma fragments may exist at the level of our energy fields. Treatments such as EFT ( Emotional Freedom Technique™), TFT (Thought Field Therapy™), TT (Therapeutic Touch™) and others seek to restore the individual's energy field.

What, if any, effect might this have on others close to the client such as family members, friends, colleagues etc.?

If we are connected via a collective energy field, then it is reasonable to speculate that some, or all, of the "negative" information in this realm may be detrimental to others around the holder of such negativity through some form of "field effect".

Conversely, releasing trauma from an individual's energy field could potentially have beneficial non-local field effects, which could potentially help others heal as well. It is also reasonable to speculate that this could translate into the possibility of group non-local healing occurring spontaneously by treating only one or a small number of individuals.

A new process called the Mind Resonance Process™ (MRP) has been shown in preliminary case studies to effect rapid and lasting clearing of traumatic fragments (i.e. memories of trauma, and derivatives of trauma such as negative emotions and beliefs) by targeting them in one's thought field. Additionally a recent case using MRP, by the author, addresses non-local field effects in the case of shared traumatic memories.

In the latter, two individuals who we call John and Mary shared a traumatic experience of having had their house burglarized while they were at home asleep. Neither was harmed but Mary subsequently developed recurring nightmares and fears of falling asleep. John on the other hand began to feel angry, guilty and inadequate about his inability to confront the intruders.

MRP was used to help Mary release her memory of the trauma thereby eliminating her symptoms. Immediately after Mary's release, John, who had been sequestered and unaware of the details of my work with Mary, was interviewed about his recollection of the trauma.

Interestingly his experience of the memory was such that it never happened to him. He could recall it but it no longer felt like it was an event in his life. Additionally, his negative symptoms had also disappeared.

The health benefits accrued by both individuals were strikingly similar i.e. both experienced a complete release of the traumatic experience from consciousness. This was associated by a feeling that the memory was no longer their memory, a feeling that it had never happened to them, feelings of inner peace, joy, calmness, increased energy, revitalization, rejuvenation and resilience. An interesting consequence was that after MRP each individual felt more genuinely themselves than they had felt even before the traumatic event.

Further case studies, soon to be published, also suggest the efficacy of MRP in helping individuals release any number of traumatic memories from consciousness simultaneously in a single session. As vital energy is required to hold traumatic material out of consciousness for one to function adequately on a daily basis, it is felt that one could rapidly reclaim this energy with MRP. This hypothesis has in fact received some supporting evidence as individuals releasing multiple traumas simultaneously with MRP feel a noticeable surge of vital energy throughout their entire being.

The combined results of the MRP Shared Memory Study and the MRP Multiple Memory Study could lead to significantly new, powerful treatment modalities for groups of individuals i.e. family groups, catastrophic accident victims, victims of terrorist attacks etc. Additionally, the economic benefits of treating large groups using MRP in this way would be highly significant.

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References:

Arrizza, N., Releasing Multiple Traumatic Memories Simultaneously in a Single Session using the Mind Resonance Process, Arrizza Performance Coaching Inc., 2004 ( Recently submitted for publishing )

Arrizza, N., A Shared Memory Case Study: The Mind Resonance Process & Evidence for Non Local Consciousness, International Journal of Healing and Caring, Jan. 2005, Vol. 5, No. 1.

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