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Thabet Sava Hassan

The bahavioral patterns of human beings and relationships between the two genders Expert

I was born in Egypt but I hold a Canadian Citizenship. I had published two books and the third one is coming out soon. I wrote numerous articles in various topics in Canada, USA, Egypt and China. For a year, I was writing an advice column for a major English magazine in China. Currently, I am teaching the conceptual art of English writing in China.

Thabet Sava Hassan Quick Facts
Main Areas: Relationships, the behavioral patterns of human beings, psychological studies
Career Focus: Author
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Expressions of a Pure and a Profound love

All my life, I was looking into the stars in the sky, captivated by the sight of the extremely emotional yet tranquil, peaceful soothing waves of the ocean. I was seeking the help of every creature of our great, creative and merciful God. I listened tentatively to the birds while they were singing on the trees, aspiring that they might give me a signal, which would gear me toward the light. I searched the highest and mysterious mountains to attain the profound purity of my existence. At the beginning of my day, I attempted to connect with the Sun as it conquered the darkness of the night and replaced it with an uplifting and mystic invisible power, in the form of its rays, which led all creatures into acquiring the strength that would help them accomplish their daily tasks. I was aspiring that its mystic power might touch me helping me reach within to melt the rust that had accumulated around my heart and soul. The rust that prevented me from acquiring the insight and wisdom that were necessary for complete comprehension of my deepest feelings and fears. I was inquisitive about most of the aspects of my existence, with a great deal of questions that remained unanswered despite my continuous search and meditation, defying the typical logic and rationality. I longed to know who I was! Where I came from! And to where was I going. I was curious about the reasons behind my mission in life. I was bewildered by the fact that I possessed the most intriguing and unbelievable combinations of contradictions with which I was blessed to have in my atypical and fascinating personality. I was amazed at the coexistence of harmonious nature between my heart, soul and mind. Realizing the overall control of my intelligence over my raging and boiling emotions within my vulnerable and extremely sensitive body astonished me. I continuously contemplated about my silliness that helped me tremendously to deal with my foibles and contradictions by laughing at myself and not taking life too seriously. My sensitivity had guarded me against human blindness and indifference toward the pain and suffering of others. My detachment enabled me to overcome and surpass the difficulties that were created by my inability to solve the problems that I encountered in my daily life. I felt fortunate to possess my flexible views that permitted me to see, Listen, attempt to grasp, empathize and sympathize toward the views of others. I had acquired the strength of characters that geared me to attempt to remove all the obstacles that could have impeded my path toward achieving the serenity and harmony essential for guarding my sanity. I kept going despite my bleak prospective in life. I kept wondering about the odd yet remarkable proof of God's creativity, body parts that I possess as a human being. I tried in vain to get in touch with my subconscious aspiring that it might lead me toward achieving the serenity and acceptance that would permit me to solve the mystery of my existence, which kept sleepless at night and wondering through the day. I attempted to accomplish acquiring the inner peace and harmony that would gear me toward accepting, being content with and loving myself despite my diversified and contradictory personality. Tonight, I held you tenderly while being captivated by your hypnotizing eyes. I was comforted by your enlightening, exhilarating and friendly smile. I was led and geared by the magnetic power that radiated from your warm and cuddly body toward attaining being close in heart, soul and mind with you. I was completely enveloped by the soothing tenderness that accompanied your kindred spirit. My soul became so pure, my heart achieved the profound sensuous state and my mind was totally taken by inspiration to get into the core of solving the mystery of my existence. Every aspect of being me became crystal clear. All I had to do was looking inside me to find all the answers. I was given the harmonious coexistence alignment between my heart, mind and soul to avoid any conflict that might arise between the physical, mental and spiritual love for you. I was blessed to have my silly nature to permit me the pleasure of bringing your captivating smile back to your face especially when you are feeling down. I was created with the most profound and powerful intelligence to guide me toward absolute comprehension of your precious and extraordinary unique characteristics and traits. That intelligence would lead me toward discovering new venues through which I can express my appreciation and bewilderment of being the most fortunate person to have you in my life and be the target of your bottomless treasures of tenderness, affection and love. I have acquired the detached nature to isolate myself from the whole universe and rejoice in the euphoric romantic and heavenly world of ours. Possessing the sensitivity trait would permit me the capacity of detecting your pain and suffering aspiring to ease them and comfort you. My inner strength is inspired by my profound desire to have the honor and pleasure of protecting you and being there for you whenever you might need me. I had developed and would utilize my memory capacities to be alert for registering, inscribing and cherishing every little details of our moments together. My hearing capabilities allow me the tremendous pleasure of listening and completed be captivated by your angelic sensual voice. My sense of smell would permit me the awareness of your being close physically to compliment that of the spiritual and mental closeness helping me making you the focus of my attention and complete devotion. I was blessed with an enduring and powerful sexual desire to permit me the euphoric experience of making love to you. My arms always aching to hold you tight to instigate within the feeling of being loved appreciated and needed. My feet permit me to be wherever you would be. My arteries, veins and blood help to spread your love of every cell of my body. Can't you see that you are the essence of my existence the core of my life mission and I was created especially for you!

 

Multidimensional relationships and marriages

 

Nowadays, most marriages end up in divorce. Few relationships can stand the test of time and last for more than 5 years. One may wonder about the reasons behind that phenomenon.Almost all marriages are based upon love. However, is love sufficient to keep the marriage or the relationship alive? Today, couples are facing numerous challenges in dealing with the hardships and complexity of life. We ought to pose the question: Is there a hope for human beings to be able to handle the issue of divorce efficiently and decisively? Unfortunately, the answer to that question is negative.

 

One may attribute the spread of divorce among married couples to the fact that the majority of marriages are single dimension relationships. A great number of marriages were founded on love. Some were established on friendships while others are more of business arrangements than love relationships.

I profoundly believe that if a man and a woman are meant for each other, they should attempt to establish a multi-facets or a multi-dimensional relationship. They should be lovers, husband and wife, best friends, brother and sister, soul mates and even strangers.

 

Being lovers permits them the opportunity to be erotically satisfied. They need to grasp the fact that they are a husband and a wife to honor their commitment to each other. Becoming best friends will facilitate communication between them. It is easier to talk to a friend than to converse with a lover. Perceiving each other as brother and sister instigates within them the feeling of belonging and the profound desire of never letting anything come between them.

Achieving the hard task of being soul mates will allow them the opportunity to feel that their love is eternal. From time to time, being strangers gives them the chance to relax and not to feel that they under each other’s microscopic eyes.

 

One may argue that establishing a multidimensional marriage is almost an impossible task. I must admit that their arguments are partially valid. However, with more efforts from both genders, a couple would be able to succeed in building a multi-facets relationship.

  Another question may impose itself upon our train of thoughts. Could having multidimensional marriages eliminate the need for divorce? One ought to be realistic pertinent to one’s expectations. It could minimize or at decrease its rate.

 

 

Who is more romantic, a man or a woman?The word romance is associated with the notion of being vulnerable in men's minds. They are conditioned to perceive being romantic as being feminine or being a wimp. Even the meaning of the word romance is confusing to men in general.  I took upon myself the task of asking the men whom I encountered in my daily life about their perceptions and definitions of the word romance and discovered that there was no distinct consensus to the concept of romance among men. Some told me that having a quickie in the spur of the moment is romantic. Others perceive it as a word created by women to get back at men for all those years of oppression that they went through at the hands of men. One individual contemplated for a moment and then he told me that romance signifies making women feeling good at the expense of making men uncertain about their identities. I could not believe my ears hearing an individual telling me, that he perceived romance as a group of lies that men say to get women into bed. One man came close to the general comprehension of romance by perceiving it as an attempt to court the lady in one’s life to entice her to be his wife or girlfriend. The final conclusion that I draw from my discussion with men was that they are ignorant about romance as they are about every aspect of a relationship. Watching football all afternoon means being romantic to most men. Men feel that allowing the ladies in their lives the pleasure of being their waitresses, are the ultimate romantic notions. Their women should make sure that you have enough snacks and drinks so the lazy bums wouldn't get their asses up and go to the fridge to get their own drinks and snacks for fear that they may miss few seconds of the game. Going hunting or playing ball with a group of misfits while leaving their ladies keeping the castles clean and tidy for the return of their kings from their trips, is considered romantic by some men. Cooking and cleaning after a hard day at work while the bums sitting watching television without any consideration of offering their help to their ladies, is seen in some distorted minds of men as being romantic. Spending thousands of dollars to buy bowling or golfing equipments while being absolutely stingy when it comes to buying a bouquet of flowers for a special occasion for the ladies in their lives, is conceived in some klutz of men as being romantic. Forgetting the ladies birthdays and anniversaries among other important occasions implies in the men zucchini brains as being romantic. No wonder, women have the justified notion that men are not romantic.  I perceive romance as attempting even the impossible to instigate within the lady in one’s life the secure feeling of being appreciated for enriching one’s life. A single rose on a weekly basis with a tender note attached to it stating that one feels extremely fortunate to have her in one's life. Hugs, touches and kisses given in abundance are simple ways to show appreciation toward one’s lady. A telephone call in the middle of the day to her work with a joke or a simple indication of having her in one’s thoughts would help brighten up her day and make it bearable. Leaving work early and waiting for her in front of her work with a suggestion to take her to dinner and a movie would initiate within her the feeling of being loved and appreciated. Going home early and preparing a candle lit dinner and creating anticipation by putting a note at the door inviting her to enter and not to be afraid. When she opens the door, another note is waiting for her telling her that she is close and should follow the direction written in the note which will lead her to a table with dinner and candle for two. The man dressed elegantly waiting to seat her. Seeing you taking the time and exerting the effort to create this wonderful surprise for her would transfer her and her prince, you, to the paradise of love.  Women whom I encountered expressed their perceptions of romance in a manner that one can draw a common conclusion. The majority of women to whom I posed the question concerning their definitions and their perceptions of romance indicated that they wish to be appreciated, made feel wonderful about their feminine and mental assets and not be taken for granted. Some implied that being given flowers from time to time is conceived as being romantic. Preparing a candle lit dinners for two is perceived as being romantic. Buying an expensive gift and wrapping it nicely to present it to one’s lady would be considered romantic. Walking hand in hand while absorbing the beauty of nature is another manner in which a man can display his romanticism. The problems pertinent to the question of being romantic or not are originated from the variance of the perception of what would be considered romantic among the man and the woman in a relationship.  It is very common that you encounter couples with views concerning romance as far apart as the sky and earth. One must be honest and talk about every aspect of a relationship, including romance upon meeting for the first time and continue the discussion of their expectations from one another concerning being romantic, if the circumstances arise and they become a couple. The apprehension of discussing these issues for the fear of scaring one off, will lead to a disastrous relationship in which the woman, the man or both lack fulfillment of their romantic notions. We are conditioned to be too cautious and afraid to open up which leads to being imprisoned within walls of fear and caution. We wait for the right time, in our conditioned minds to talk freely and when that time arrives for opening up, it is too late because one is too involved to risk it all by opening up. Another factor that leads to the disappointment from the women, men or both sides concerning the fulfillment of the romantic notions within them is the pretension of being romantic that is assumed by the man or the woman to entice the other during the span of their courtship. Both the man and the woman should be completely truthful and be themselves from day one to avoid the heartaches that would result from falling in love with the person the other pretending to be. 

Everything I need is you

You are everything I will ever need

You are my lover, you are my friend indeed

Everything I need is you

You are my dream comes true

You are the moon that shines my nights through

You are light that guides me to you

You are my hope for a better tomorrow

You are the cure for all my pain and sorrow

Everything I will ever need is you

You make my fantasies come true

Your face is the most beautiful sight my eyes long to see

You are the happiness I need to set feeling free

Everything I did need is you

You make my dreams came true Being on your arms, is a heaven to me

Making love to you is a wonderful as I ever imagined to be

You will always everything I need

You will always be my lover and my friend indeed

 

 

The death of love in my heart

A painful cry burst in the sky
Declaring that my love for you is going to die
Breaking the silence of the dark and gloomy night
Ending my long struggle to fight
To keep our love alive and well
Dragging myself to the bottom of hell
Stripping me from all my rights
To have peaceful days and tranquil nights
I have to accept that our love is dead
In my heart as well as in my head
There is nothing I could have done or said
To change our fate
We must accept that you never meant to be my soul-mate
I have to say goodbye
We can't revive our love even if we try
Please, let go of my hand
I am begging you to understand
I have to go my way
We must not dwell on what might or may
We have to let the resentment and hatred go away

Thoughts of a lost soul 

Questions are rushing to my mind 

Thinking hard trying to find 

Is true or just my imagination 

Your love is the source of my inspiration 

Just let me say It was never that way 

Before your love fulfilled me 

But that the way I always imagined to be 

My heart beating to love you in my chest 

My soul is in harmony and feeling at rest 

My mind is at its best 

My soul flies in the sky I hear its cry 

Her cry is loud in my ear 

She wants you my love to hear

How wonderful my life would never be 

Unless you are with me 

You fill my heart with feeling 

You gave me life new meaning 

Darling can't you see 

Our love is meant to be 

Anything I am willing to do 

To spend the rest of my life 

Loving, adoring and cherishing you

Is romance a concept or is it an actual sentiment?    

As Saint Valentine day approaches, every individual begins to contemplate about means to display his/her romantic notions toward their significant others. Most men perceive the event as just another opportunity for ladies to criticize them for their lack of romanticism while women are looking forward to have the chance to be assured of the eternal love of their partners.

 

Men complain about the fact that regardless of the significance of their gifts to their ladies, they are never satisfied because other female friends get more expensive or more extravagant present, from their boyfriends or husbands, than theirs. Did Saint Valentine, the symbolism of romance turn into a competition in which the individual who is the most capable financially will win it? What did happen to us? Did we become so greedy to ignore the significance of the romantic gesture regardless of its materialistic value? Don’t we believe anymore in the adage that states: “The thought that counts”? Do we evaluate the depth of our significant others’ love with the monetary value of their gestures?

 

Whom should we blame for turning an event, during which we should focus on permitting our romantic notions to be displayed freely, into a commercial occasion where merchants vie for our money?

 

Asking ladies about their preference pertinent to receiving tokens of appreciation from their men on Valentine day, most expressed the desire to hear the magical words “I love you”. However, the majority of women agreed that if men are too timid to utter those words, they should pay a hefty price by buying extravagant gifts for them. Most of them preferred to receive a bouquet of flowers with an attached poem written by the gentleman himself. Some ladies expressed that they despise receiving a card written by someone else and just signed by the boyfriend or the husband. Few were adamant that the men should spend time on finding an appropriate means to express their love for their ladies. Something such as a photo album containing all their photos together with comments from the gentleman about each photo in the album would be a wonderful way to display one’s love for one’s lady. Some ladies who like chocolate would love to receive a box of their favorite chocolate.

 On romantic occasions such as Saint Valentine day, I often wonder about if romance is a sentiment or it is a concept that we are conditioned to believe in and bow to the urge to apply it in our lives. I posed the question to men and women of a diverse age groups and backgrounds. The majority of women were inclined to believe that it is a sentiment that not all individuals possess it while most men perceived it as a concept that we are conditioned by the media to believe in and attempt to apply in our relationships with the opposite gender.

Regardless of your views pertinent to romance, you should attempt to condition yourself to go with the flow by displaying your romantic notions toward the lady in your life with an original gesture to achieve a harmonious coexistence with her. Otherwise, you will be the target of her wrath of anger for being insensitive to her romantic needs.

 

As for you ladies, please, attempt to be graceful in accepting your men’s gifts regardless of their monetary values or originalities. Accomplishing that task will encourage the men in your lives to continue with the tradition. Otherwise, they may believe that it would be useless to try to fulfill your romantic notions with some symbolic token of love. They could justify their negligence by the fact that they attempted and their gestures were not appreciated by their significant others.
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