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Relationship Advice
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Laura Monzo
Joined: Feb 25 2008
Points: 66634
Relationship Advice

Hello,

What advice would you share to someone who just got out of a serious relationship or divorce? Feel free to share your thoughts and ideas about getting through difficult relationship situations.

Thanks!

-Laura

declan carberry
Joined: May 26 2012
Points: 10
Find Your Inner Strength
Relationships in today's world are not easy to be maintained; instead they must be taken care of very delicately. People from both the sides must contribute equally, only then it can be continued for a longer period of time. When an imbalance occurs in the contribution, then problems start in the bonding. However, if you have faced problems with your loved one and have the desire to get your ex back, then we can be of quite help to you.For more info see the blog. http://declan117.sitemoxie.com/
Jamal Hossain Shuvo
Joined: Mar 21 2012
Points: 5
How to
I like a girl called lipy, but I cannot tell her about that. How can I say that I lover her?
kinza malik
Joined: Feb 29 2012
Points: 0
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such nice sharing with us here so thanks for it
J Rocks
Joined: May 9 2009
Points: 202
Single in This Valentines day?
You are single in this valentine's day? Then this post is for you- http://bit.ly/xzquWY
Todd J
Joined: Sep 3 2011
Points: 65
Relationships
No easy answer for this one. But, you have to just go on with life if that means cry, mourn, laugh, jump up and down or whatever it is that you need to do to progress and move to that next stage of your life. Life is a journey. People come in and out of our lives for a reason. We are meant to spend 1 day with some or 70 + years with other people. Maybe, you can think about the lesson that was brought to you out of the relationship? You can think about the happy times, sad times and just be thankful that you came out ok. If you start to feel down, smile for 1 minute. Reflect on all the beauty around you and know that you are a wonderful person.
Dallas Eddington
Joined: Jun 15 2011
Points: 115
Re-learn About You
During relationships we change and because there is another person in the picture, we might not always fully notice the changes we go through. I would suggest taking at least two years to come to your conclusions about the relationship including things you liked, things you didn't like, and things you never feel like you gained enough closure on. With the minimum of two years to yourself, you can re-learn about who you are and what you really want and you might be surprised by what you learn.
dave williams
Joined: Jun 9 2011
Points: 10
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verna una
Joined: Apr 10 2011
Points: 0
This too shall pass
I think it's best to just remember, that everythig will pass, and so will the pain. If you really want to feel better, you will, sooner than you think.
jef bawden
Joined: Jun 2 2010
Points: 10
life
2011 is achallenging year, singles are having ahard time, as we all change and movement is so fast we hardley have time for anyone , at the same time there is to much time is ironic, marriages are challenged we spend to much time with one person,love jeff bawden
Mariah Shipp
Joined: Dec 21 2010
Points: 835
Divorce
I would say be kind to yourself. Do things you love to do even if you have to do them alone. Don't sit home and ruminate about the relationship! Most of my suggestions are on my latest MP3 download http://journeysinwardhypnotherapy.com/self-hypnosis-mp3/love-relationshi...
Chris Reynolds
Joined: Mar 8 2011
Points: 536
Relaionship Advice
Hey, Just thought I'd add to this discission by saying 'with every experience in life we have the opportunity to gain knowledge'. The Fabulous experiences, neither good or bad ones, and of corse those tragic or very painful ones! So ... take your hurt and your opportunity to LEARN from it - and your gaining not loosing! Chris - Relationship Help
Rod Ang Lee
Joined: Mar 26 2011
Points: 0
Maybe your stars can help
The Chinese have a way of looking into one's horoscope for any incompatibility between your partner. and statistics shows that it is true. To find your partner and prevent this from happening again, maybe you should consult the Chinese oracle to find out if you are compatible according to the force that governs us all. ***** http://www.seoconsultants.com/web-design-service-quotes-from-best-web-de...
Rod Ang Lee
Joined: Mar 26 2011
Points: 0
Maybe your stars can help
btw, I was born on 1976 and my wife was born 1980. we had to consult the oracle and I'm happy to say that I live a life that is blessed.
Gerry Savage
Joined: Apr 12 2009
Points: 121
Breaking Up
The reasons for the breakup are important to understand in knowing what to do next. Intimate and loving relationships rarely break down. Usually the realtionships that break down are the ones that are already broken. Understand this and the next step becomes clearer. See my FREE eBook at http://changing-me.com for more tips and advice.
Buffy Carney
Joined: Feb 12 2010
Points: 386
I feel your pain
Separating yourself from someone you love can be one of the hardest things to do sometimes. You may feel like you hate that person, but there is love there, somewhere...that's what got you together in the first place. Missing them makes it easy for you to forget yourself, which is the worst thing you can do right now. Consider your 'break up' to be the perfect time for you to get back in touch with the real you. Dig deep and take plenty of time to know exactly what you want your next relationship to look like. As always, Love yourself even more. http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/4-ways-to-help-you-deal-with-a-break-up
Paul Charles
Joined: Jan 22 2011
Points: 50
At the end of any
At the end of any relationship most people can only look back and see all the bad episodes and forget that all the good ones, this can only leave emotional pain and suffering. allow yourself the time to be grateful for the happier times and allow the relationship to dissolve peacefully. the end of another journey and greater experience to begin another.
charlotte craig
Joined: Dec 24 2010
Points: 2833
free relationship advice
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Robin Scott
Joined: Feb 13 2011
Points: 5
Married for 14 yrs & lost myself because of it
I am 48 yrs old and have been married 14 yrs to a man who I helped become sober many years ago in spite of his abuse to me. He is no longer sober and his verbal abuse is at his highest level There is not a day that goes by he does not tell me how useless I am how ugly I am how I need him! I lost myself I once was pretty confident now I have heath issues he no longer ill support me i have been disabled for over 16 years. I want out of this marriage yet financially I cannot . I am stuck, I cannot afford a Lawyer or to leave to be on my own . My disability check is only $475. a month I am forced to give it to him for my share of bills. I cannot get SSI for i must be on my own for 306 months .( how can I do that when I have an income that cannot even pay rent any place, ) I need to find myself again so I can free myself!
ldyfi reinert
Joined: Feb 13 2011
Points: 240
just getting out of a relationship
take time to find yourself again what your wants and desires are what was lacking in the relationship what made you happy what made you sad and most important allow your self time to grieve every time a relationship ends we must go through separation anxiety no matter how it ended we need time to heal before starting a new relationship I offer readings if you would like one feel free to contact me and remember do not compare what happened in last relationship with the new found one when its time www.psychicsldyfi.com
Sheelah Elliott
Joined: Feb 14 2011
Points: 5
Help!!!
I am looking for information on relationships formed while in treatment, maybe a guideline for new sober people.
Sheelah Elliott
Joined: Feb 14 2011
Points: 5
Help!!!
I am looking for information on relationships formed while in treatment, maybe a guideline for new sober people.
George Lee
Joined: Feb 10 2011
Points: 30
Man in the mirror
Often times, it takes two for a fight, argument or 'walk-out' to happen. Being human, we cannot deny that most of us, either well-learned or not, have personalities which differ from one another. Couples who wed either could accept one another's 'untold personality secret' or just couldn't which will eventually end up in fights leading to break-ups or divorces. To the one who got out of the relationship, or divorce, you can now probably sit back, think of yourself and him/her personality. From there, you could see the real stand and well, too late to blame yourself or him/her. Since you're out, unless you want in again, it is best that you follow Michael Jackson's hit, "Man in the Mirror"...it tells of how we all can make things and the world a better place if we look at ourselves and make that change! Godspeed!
charlotte craig
Joined: Dec 24 2010
Points: 2833
Advice
The advice I would give a client coming out of a relationship would depend very much on what she has to offer a future partner, how resilient and capable and strong she is, what happened etc. as no two are ever the same. Take ownership of where you went wrong too, even if it was only that you chose the wrong person. You can get a lot more free relationship advice from an expert at http://www.askagonyaunt.com
Jude Gilford
Joined: Dec 31 2010
Points: 500
Relationship or any adversity...
I think the underlying question for any situation that looks different than what we expected is: "What's my lesson here?" When we can look for that perspective, it's possible to grow instead of wither!
Shelley Harris
Joined: Jan 30 2011
Points: 385
Relationship Advice
I would work on building up my self esteem and confidence, seek help on finding out what went wrong. Only going into another relationship when you 'love' yourself, you are a whole person. Take time to find out who your are. You are not a half of a relationship but rather a whole person who is in a relationship. There is a difference
Carol Miller
Joined: Jun 12 2008
Points: 861
Just getting out of a serious relationship.
Take time to travel, Do things that make you happy. Don't date again too soon, wait at least a year.
Carol Miller
Joined: Jun 12 2008
Points: 861
Just getting out of a serious relationship.
Take time to travel, Do things that make you happy. Don't date again too soon, wait at least a year.
Carol Miller
Joined: Jun 12 2008
Points: 861
Just getting out of a serious relationship.
Take time to travel, Do things that make you happy. Don't date again too soon, wait at least a year.
Maida de Windt
Joined: Dec 27 2010
Points: 126
I think the first thing you
I think the first thing you must ask yourself is, what was the lesson I had to learn in this relationship
Kerrith (Kerry) King
Joined: Jan 28 2006
Points: 285
Hi Ajitesh, Your questions,
Hi Ajitesh, Your questions, "how can one maintain positive balance between personal and professional relationships ?" and "if the relationship between husband and wife starts deteriorating due to extra-marital affairs, what needs to be done to restore it ?" are rhetorical. You don't appear to be asking about your own problems. To get a meaningful answer, as applies to your own problem(s), state your question in first person singular. For example: "I've cheated on my spouse..." or, "I've caused my spouse to cheat on me, is it possible to restore trust between us?" Kerrith H. (Kerry) King SelfGrowth Expert Leadership-Relationship Communication-Skills Coach
Kerrith (Kerry) King
Joined: Jan 28 2006
Points: 285
Hi Jamie, I asked much the
Hi Jamie, Quite a while ago I asked much the same questions to a pretty smart person. His reply? You just haven't found/created your purpose in life. The person you're looking for, your ideal partner, is looking for someone who's making a positive difference. A person who is on purpose with his/her purpose in life doesn't have such problems. If you don't have a purpose go back to school. In the meantime, find someone who is doing something you admire and serve that person and his/her purpose, in so doing, through service, you will come to know yourself; you'll either adopt their purpose or create your own. Kerrith H. (Kerry) King Self Growth Expert Leadership-Relationship Communication-Skills Coach
Jamie Jones
Joined: Dec 30 2010
Points: 0
Relationships
Why is it that no matter what you do you still will never be the one in guys eyes . how the hell am i supose to take that kind of rejection and still be in the relationship, am i just a sucker for punishment or what
Olu Moti
Joined: Dec 30 2010
Points: 5
Interesting website on relationships
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Lewisa Denise Thomas
Joined: Dec 21 2010
Points: 351
Emotional Punishment
Excerpt from book: Women Cheat Up? – Men Cheat Down¿ http://www.ldtbooks.yolasite.com Sometimes when we feel as if life has barraged us with deep disappointments, we end up obsessing about the things we've lost. Particularly when that obsession is a person we thought was the love of our life. That kind of pain can blind us to a future and robs us of our self-esteem. People who have been deeply hurt by love often dwell on the past. They will cling to things that might magically connect them to their lost relationship. Everyone needs time to cope with the loss of an ex no matter how traumatic the relationship was. Take the time necessary to realize that your previous relationship is over and take what value you can from it. Detach yourself from the ex. If your break-up left you with lots of memories, create new scenes. Accentuate your assets to look as good on the outside as you feel on the inside and always love the skin you’re in!
fazlul kabir
Joined: Dec 22 2010
Points: 0
emotional Blackmen
my friend always try to emotional Blackmen fo890r her problem. he always want i live with her.but i dont way how i solve this problem
KC Childs
Joined: Dec 22 2010
Points: 5
Anxiety in Possible Relationship
The past few weeks I have been spending a lot of time getting to know another person. We can talk hours and hours all night on the phone. We just have tons in common and enjoy each others company. I have had those butterfly twitter patted feelings several times. Then all of a sudden I wake up today with these feelings of I'm not sure if I want this. I don't like him. Run away. Not provoked by anything. It just feels like I don't care. Just strong anxious feelings, knots in my stomach, all kinds of doubts and worries. This is a common thing I feel with me. I start to like someone then I get all these feelings of running. Any ideas why this is? Is it my body telling me this isn't right or is something else? He is a great guy, lots of wonderful qualities and I am attracted have no issues with him, but I feel that I should just run and not talk to him and it will make my anxiety go away. Any thoughts or feelings of similar stories out there. It would be greatly appreciated!!
Kerrith (Kerry) King
Joined: Jan 28 2006
Points: 285
Hi KC Childs, Re: “Any ideas
Hi KC Childs, Re: “Any ideas why this is? Is it my body telling me this isn't right or is something else?” Good questions. Yes, it’s your integrity telling you that if you keep communicating with your friend as you have you will destroy the relationship; at best it will result in mediocrity. Part of why this happens is that you are not in communication with anyone. How do we know? We know because you haven’t shared these thoughts with your friend, or anyone. When communication takes place problems disappear. When you become stuck doing your imitation of communication problems (considerations) persist. What you’ve been doing is deceiving him, that’s abusive. You’ve withheld thoughts that keep him from knowing the real you. BTW: He is withholding equally as many thoughts from you; withholders always always attract withholders. There are no exceptions to this phenomenon. Kerrith H. (Kerry) King Self Growth Expert Leadership-Relationship Communication-Skills Coach
muzna khan
Joined: Dec 16 2010
Points: 0
need help
hey can anybody help me to improve ma relation plzz..ma boyfriend always use to ignore me he dont give attention to me. he used to say that i m very slim and i must gain some weight. few months back he became intrested in my friend. he always used to talk with other girls my riends usually judge that he is not sensior with me he is flirty guy.. but i want him to be sensior with i dont want to share him with any1. whenever i call him he dont recieve the call and make excuses that i was busy with faimly. he is also having a very big issue that i m not so stylish m not fashionable i m pakistani so i m not so good with english he is also having a problem with that. i wnt your help guys to make him sensior with me to make him crazzyyy for me i want him to get marry with me please give me advise how i can atrract him..
Kerrith (Kerry) King
Joined: Jan 28 2006
Points: 285
Hi muzna, You don’t say your
Hi muzna, You don’t say your age or where you’re living now. A usable answer depends upon the predominant culture. For example, Pakistani men and women treat each other differently than do the majority here in America. Most Americans would advise you to stay away from such a boy, however, it appears that you are addicted to such abuse, to both abusing and being abused, in which case, there’s no answer that will satisfy you. The most valuable advice I have (advice I know you can take) is for you to keep doing what you’re doing until it doesn’t work anymore. I recommend more schooling. Kerrith H. (Kerry) King SelfGrowth Expert Leadership-Relationship Communication Skills Coach Communication Breakdowns —in support of communication mastery
Peter Lilly
Joined: Dec 16 2010
Points: 585
Tips..
When you have been dumped, you may think of all the ways to shed the familiarity of your ex. The first thing that usually goes is your appearance. Yet, you don't have to do something drastic to improve your self-esteem. Instead, make a list of things you want to change (not have to change). If you need to lose weight, join a gym or start working out. Take care of your physical appearance if it makes you feel lousy. Do what it takes to make you happy. By improving your looks, it makes your ex take a second look at you.
Donna Marie Thompson
Joined: Apr 21 2009
Points: 2449
Bouncing Back From A Relationship Break Up
The best comment I can share is to take some time to grieve, then go over the whole relationship to look for valuable lessons that you can use going forward. I would steer clear of friends and family if they are trying to give unsolicited advice while you are trying to heal. Seek out people who will simply listen. If you'd like some help, find a coach or check into faith-based resources. Rest assured there is hope and there is help. http://www.BouncingBackNow.com
Nir Rosenbaum
Joined: Dec 5 2010
Points: 75
Never pay for dating sites
As i can see dating sites and in my case Gay dating sites most be FREE of charge this sites use the member as a content provider and as a member that pay that is wrong this sites most be free and thy to earn from other services that they can offer check at http://www.mycrusing.com this site is totally FREE
Stan Harris
Joined: Oct 13 2010
Points: 50
Well, you will naturally feel
Well, you will naturally feel miserable for sometime, but avoid jumping into another relationship just because you are feeling miserable. Instead, get busy with things you have been neglecting because of your old relationship-pets, friends, hobbies, work, home, and so on. You will feel better soon; but if you don't feel better even after a year, it is time to take therapy.
Tom Adams
Joined: Oct 8 2010
Points: 890
Relationship
As humans, we were made for relationship but never really taught how to create excellent relationships with one another. Many learned thru parental relationships that were dysfunctional or abusive. After many failed relationships myself, I turned to God and asked if he would tell me how to develop relationships that would satisfy the deep desire to love and be loved we all have in our hearts. Today, I have an amazing wife, 2 young children who I adore and a third child that I am about to meet for the first time in December. So my advice is to seek the truth because it will set you free in all areas of your life especially in your relationships with others. Tom www.premium-quality-nutritional-supplements.com
simon aderson
Joined: Sep 30 2010
Points: 30
Re: Advice to know from you.
hi.................. I want to know that why our wife is always crazy with our husband is there any magnetic relationships. thanks
Brianna Martinez
Joined: Sep 10 2010
Points: 10
It happened again! i am truly impossible!
Every relationship i encounter it ends with tears and a broken heart. I thought that i had the most amazing relationship ever, we had no flaws or fights. We were basically in love... or so i thought. For no reason, he broke up with me. My world crashed and i burned... I had a nervous break-down. I am on the verge of giving up on EVERYTHING! Please try and help me before something bad happens..
Tom Adams
Joined: Oct 8 2010
Points: 890
help
Hi Brianna, Please contact me or someone before you make a decision that could harm you. There is hope even if you can't see that right now. I have been in some really bad life situations and been pulled out by someone who cares enough to reach out and offer hope and encouragement. You can call or email me anytime. Tom 303-552-1114 rightwhey@gmail.com
muzna khan
Joined: Dec 16 2010
Points: 0
hi
hey tom i need ur help to improve ma relation can u plzz give me sum advices...
kinza malik
Joined: Feb 29 2012
Points: 0
for the serious relationship
for the serious relationship you have to adopt few good tips by adopting them you can create a good relationship with your partner. latest fashion this link can provide you all tips of making serious relationship with other
Jo Richards
Joined: May 5 2010
Points: 385
True Love is always possible
Breakup is always difficult because of all the emotions involved in it but remember that no feeling lasts forever. Although you may be hurting a lot right now, over time you will heal. However, it’s better that your healing starts sooner than later. You see, nobody else is responsible for our happiness and we cannot place the responsibility of love and being loved on someone else’s shoulder. You need to heal from past hurts before you can enjoy a wholesome, passionate relationship. Healing your emotional health takes the form of forgiveness and find & follow something you are passionate about outside of yourself and give it all your attention, including some charity work. Raise your standards– how you see and value yourself in order to attract similar people to yourself – do not settle for less. But above all, love yourself and remember that yesterday and tomorrow do not exist; live for the moment. Regards Jo http://www.selfgrowthhub.com

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