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Issue # 457, June 12-13, 2007
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* Self Improvement and Personal Growth Weekly Newsletter
* Issue # 457, Week of June 12-13, 2007
Publisher: David Riklan -
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In this issue:
-- Quotes of the Week
-- Personal Growth Products and Services
-- Article: How to Become Super-Positive! - By Karl Moore
-- Article: The Rehearsal that Makes a Lifetime Difference - By Eldon Taylor
-- Book Review: Choices and Illusions: How Did I Get Where I Am, and How Do I
Get Where I Want to Be? - By Eldon Taylor
-- Brief News of the World
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*** Quotes of the Week ***
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Many believe that self-help and self-improvement is about rags to riches,
failure to success, and so forth, when indeed it is the beginning of a journey
into self-discovery. Inside every human being is an eternal truth and a life
purpose. Using our mind power is simply starting the engine on that journey of
self-discovery and highest self-actualization. - Eldon Taylor, author of
"Choices and Illusions,"
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When you make a world tolerable for yourself, you make a world tolerable for
others. - Anais Nin, 1903-1977, French-born Author and Diarist
Happiness is a direction, not a place. - Sydney J. Harris, 1917-1986, American
Journalist
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*** Article: How to Become Super-Positive! - By Karl Moore ***
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If your get-up and go has gotten up and gone, then it's time to start stirring
up those positive vibes...
It's a well-known fact that positive-minded people are more likely to achieve
their life's goals. When you're upbeat, everything looks different; your day is
brighter and full of potential. What's more, opportunities more readily come
your way, and you're able to face challenges with a sense of ease. In fact,
being in an optimistic frame of mind can help you gain success and greater
levels of happiness.
However, not everyone finds it easy to be super-positive. It requires a change
in perspective and focused intentions to break away from redundant beliefs and
negativity, but once you start changing your outlook, you'll feel motivated,
energized, and empowered.
To become super-positive so that you can achieve your goals and enjoy a
fulfilling life, try the following:
1. When you get up in the morning, don't allow any negative thoughts to surface
-- no matter your situation or circumstances. Stretch, breathe-in, and believe
that you can make good things happen. Affirm to yourself, "I am happy and
positive, and I'm going to have a wonderful day." Believe it!
2. Have your own mantra to help you achieve your goals -- it can be anything
relevant to your needs and ambitions, such as "I can do it!" or "I will
succeed!" If you're feeling slightly out of kilter, repeat your mantra, either
silently or out loud to yourself. Believe in the words.
Trust in your mantra. You really can achieve your goals.
3. Smile even if you're down and laugh at yourself and the world. Life is
wonderful and multi-faceted. Whatever the problem, a little bit of humor will
make everything seem easier to cope with. Besides, a little bit of laughter on a
daily basis is good for your health and well-being.
When you laugh, your internal organs gain a workout, and laughter drives fresh
oxygen around your body. So, take some time out to see the funny side of your
world. Often, it's never as bad as you think. Seek out the positive in every
situation.
4. Reflect on all your achievements so far. You've come further than you think!
Make a list of what you have gained in your life. Don't just notch up the career
or money successes. Think about the experiences that you have accumulated and
the personal qualities that you have acquired.
By focusing on these achievements, it will boost your self-esteem.
5. Remind yourself about what you're trying to achieve. Are your goals still
relevant? Sometimes, we have to reassess our direction because things change in
our lives... we change too. What you once wanted and would give anything for
might not be what you really want now. When you're on the wrong path, you'll
have a vague sense of being out of kilter with everything. Trust your inner
wisdom and intuition. Note how your current circumstances make you feel. Be
prepared to change your life or jump out of your current comfort zones. Once
you're on the right path, you'll start feeling more positive.
6. Walk out on a regular basis and get some fresh oxygen circulating through
your blood. Take a stroll through the park. Climb a mountain!
Awake those feel-good vibes. Regular exercise will enhance your mood and make
you feel super-positive.
7. Make sure your glass is always half-full rather than half-empty. To be
super-positive, you must think on the positive side of everything.
Eliminate any negative dialogue. Listen to your internal voice as well as your
external one. If you catch yourself saying or thinking something that is
negative, stop, rewind and replace those words with a positive statement. It
takes practice, time, and determination, but after a while, you'll start
eliminating those pesky negative vibes.
8. Create abundance in your life... believe in your ability to make things
happen. Your positive state of mind will act like a magnet by attracting
positive experiences. Focus on what you want; be optimistic and be more
abundant. You really can have the life you most desire!
9. Devote a bit of your time and energy to a good cause. If you're able, always
give something back! The world needs super-positive people like you to make it
even better than what it is. You can inject some of your positive energy into
charitable ventures or simply by showing your kindness on a daily basis.
10. Don't stress about the things you cannot change. Work on the things you can.
By being positive about life and focusing on the things that you can transform,
you'll discover a world full of opportunities and potential waiting for you to
explore.
Whether good or bad, you have choices in how you react to whatever comes your
way.
Why be miserable when you can smile? Why dwell on sadness when you can choose
happiness?
Life will always have its ups and downs, but if you focus on the positive and
become super-positive, you will experience greater happiness and contentment.
So, don't just sit around; make a decision to become that super-positive person
that you have always wanted to be and make sure you live an astounding life!
About the Author:
Karl Moore is a best-selling author and the main interviewer behind Self Dev
Radio at http://www.selfdevradio.com/.
Every day, Karl posts inspirational self-growth messages to his blog online at
http://www.karlblog.com/. Learn
more about Karl online at Karl Moore.com or learn about Karl's radio work at
http://www.karlradio.com/
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*** Article: The Rehearsal that Makes a Lifetime Difference - By Eldon Taylor
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(Excerpt from "Choices and Illusions" - By Eldon Taylor)
Within every human being exists a propensity for greatness. The gifts may vary,
and the greatness may live out in a vast array of alternatives--say from
carpentry to rocket science--but the gift that gives one true self-respect,
lifts the spirit from "same old, same old,"
resides within. It is our ability to do our very best with our talents in every
thing we do. This potential resides within each one of us--but if so, then why
is it so often denied?
Every individual essentially has a self-representation that is rehearsed and
eventually actualized. The process begins by fantasizing at a very early age. We
fantasize a script, perhaps one of those from some Hollywood production. We
begin rehearsing it, and we either abandon it to take up a new one or practice
it until we role-play that script as who we are. Practicing the script sooner or
later automates the behavior. Our imprinting environment plays a significant
role in the alternative scripts available to us. If the parents are uncaring and
abusive, so are the children, and so forth. If warmth and friendliness lead to
embarrassment, then cold and aloof compensate. If honesty gets us into trouble,
then deception becomes a defense strategy, and so forth.
It is much more complicated than expressed here, but simply, it is also just
this way. In fact, every one of us divides ourselves among four essential views
of ourselves. These four faces include the following:
Our actual self.
Our ideal self.
Our ought-to-be self.
Our desired self.
These categories were originally developed by P. A. D. Singer to show how the
different selves conflict with each other. I will use it differently.
Most of us are aware of a so-called actual self. This is the self that has
failed in ways we often will not share with others. This is the private self.
This self holds the thoughts we wish we did not have, the acts we wish we had
not done, our beliefs about our worth, our attractiveness, and so forth. It is
the self of our secrets and our ambitions. It is the self that most try to
change in some way or another at some time in their life--perhaps even
perpetually.
The actual self pales by comparison to our ideal self. The ideal self is often a
construct built by our culture. This self would live a perfect life--without
error and therefore without room for growth.
Then there is our "ought-to-be self." This is the self full of all our learned "shoulds"
and "oughts." This self differs from our ideal self in the sense that many of
the oughts are not ours--they are the oughts of our culture, our society--but
deep down inside they are not ours.
Sometimes these oughts are the result of rules that make little or no sense to
us; sometimes the oughts are of codependent negotiations such as those implied
when Mom said things like, "If you loved me, you would not behave that way," or
"If you loved me, you would do what I said,"
and so forth. Still, even when one recognizes the source and the nature of the
ought relationship from which the oughts themselves arise, they often persist.
Finally, there is the desired self. Somewhere among all of our other selves is a
self that we believe we could be. This is the self we long for, especially when
we are young and planning our future. It is also the source of much discontent
in our later life if the desires have not been fulfilled--and they rarely, if
ever, are.
The ought-to-be self, desired self, and ideal self share certain commonalities,
but they also differ remarkably. There is psychic tension among them and in
their totality, substantial tension between them and our so-called actual self.
Now, there's one more thing I wish to add before continuing. The actual self is
seldom the true actual self. The actual self is the self of self-perception and
therefore is complete with every believed limitation that accompanies one's
private self-perception together with every defense adjustment our mechanisms
have created to protect our self image or ego.
Okay, all of this is accomplished while we are still very young. In time we gain
the wisdom and insight to become familiar with this maturation process and a
myriad of other operations that function in our culture, our homes, etc. to
produce socially acceptable membership and behavior. Using one of Shakespeare's
metaphors, life is a stage where we play our various parts; perhaps it's time
for a new rehearsal.
Indeed, change, improvement, true self-actualization, and so forth, all require
that we create a new character. Using our power of imagination and consciously
choosing the role playing model we will rehearse, will greatly assist and
facilitate any change.
Therefore, it literally behooves all of us to watch those conversation exchanges
that take place in our head as well as every other aspect of our "rehearsing"
behavior. To experience our best, we must practice/rehearse our best at all
levels of our being. It works--but it can also be much easier said than done.
Still, life's cornucopia of joy awaits those willing to make the effort.
About the Author:
Eldon Taylor has made a lifelong study of the human mind and has earned doctoral
degrees in psychology and metaphysics. He is president of Progressive Awareness
Research, an organization dedicated to researching techniques for accessing the
immense powers of the mind. For more than 20 years, he has approached personal
empowerment from the cornerstone perspective of forgiveness, gratitude, service,
and respect for all life. To contact Eldon in response to the story, you can
reach him via his website:
http://www.innertalk.com
To get a copy of his new book "Choices and Illusions," go to
http://www.amazon.com/Choices-Illusions-How-Where-Want/dp/1401918530/
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*** Book Review: Choices and Illusions: How Did I Get Where I Am, and How Do I
Get Where I Want to Be? - By Eldon Taylor ***
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This fascinating book holds an important key. Whether you're interested in the
science of thinking and beliefs, how your own mind works, how others control
your thoughts, why things just don't work out in your life, how you can create
the life you've always wanted, or on a grander scale, how you can help make the
world a better place, "Choices and Illusions" provides insights for all. Simply
reading this book will open your eyes to new worlds of possibilities. Once
exposed to the illusions most live under and by, you will change, and putting
into practice any of these very simple teachings will open the door for you to
achieve your highest potential.
"Choices and Illusions" tells the story of one man's journey into the workings
of the human mind and our reason for being. The adventure is every bit as
exciting as the best of scientific discoveries. Eldon Taylor's approach is
scientific and pragmatic, and his conclusions are inspirational and soul
enhancing. Along the journey you'll hear
fantastic stories of divine intervention, learn why you think and do what you do
not wish to do, and understand the very clear message that it's never too late
to be happy and succeed, regardless of your past actions.
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