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Issue # 458, Week of June 19-20, 2007
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In this issue:
-- Quotes of the Week
-- Personal Growth Products and Services
-- Article: How to Get the Most Out of Self Hypnosis By Barrie St John
-- Article: Love, Anger and Forgiveness: How to Let Go and Be Emotionally Free
Once and For All By William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
-- Book Review: Why Your Life Sucks...And What You Can Do About It By Alan
Cohen
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*** Article: How to Get the Most Out of Self Hypnosis By Barrie St John ***
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There are many benefits to using self hypnosis. It can be used to overcome
fears, fight addictions such as smoking, improve confidence and self esteem, and
improve sports performance, to name just a few. In fact, self hypnosis can be
used to improve just about anything you want in your life.
For some people, self hypnosis is extremely easy and requires very little
effort. Some take to it like a duck to water, while other people may need to
experiment a bit more to reap the wonderful benefits it can bring. This article
intends to help you get the most out of self hypnosis.
Self hypnosis can involve a little bit of trial and error at the beginning until
you start to identify the conditions that best suit you as an individual.
Variables such as the ideal body position or the most opportune time of day are
truly yours to determine based on your particular situation, schedule, and
individuality. It's important to remember that there are no fixed rules that
apply to everyone. Everyone is unique, and it is left to you to identify what
works and how you can most effectively reach that desired state.
There are, however, a few elements which will help increase your degree of
success with self hypnosis, regardless of individual needs. Some of the points I
will address are based on listening to a recorded self hypnosis CD or download.
However, I'll start with the issues which should be addressed regardless of
whether you're listening to a recording or not.
A fairly obvious requirement is total relaxation, which usually requires reduced
distractions. So it is very important to try and find a quiet place that limits
or completely obliterates outside sources and choose a time when you are certain
you won't be interrupted. Ensure that if you have people at home, tell them to
not disturb you for however long you want, unless of course there is an
emergency.
Knowing that hypnosis is in fact an altered state on consciousness, it bears
noting that the early morning may not be the best time. You may find you're
extremely alert and hyper-sensitive to distractions at that time. Instead, pick
a time of day when you're slowing down, or typically starting to feel fatigued.
For most people, self hypnosis is best in the evening time, preferably more
bedtime.
The most useful bit of advice I can give to a beginner is try not to try too
hard. Self hypnosis requires concentration, but being overly focused on being
hypnotized will impair the process. Part of the self hypnosis process is being
able to just let go and let it happen to you. Rather than focusing on achieving
hypnosis, focus on nothing, and let the message make its way clearly and
seamlessly, effortlessly, whether it's a recording or your own words.
Using a recording is great for self hypnosis. One key factor in getting the most
out of a recorded self hypnosis session is regular listening. Repetition is the
key to successful suggestion, and the more you subject your mind to the message,
the more it will penetrate and impact.
Another important factor in getting the most out of a recorded self hypnosis
session is to wear headphones. Not only are headphones great if you're easily
distracted, but they also promote an intimacy between you and the voice on the
recording, closing off outside noises, and facilitating a more direct route to
your mind.
Like anything else, you will only get out of self hypnosis what you're willing
to put into it. If you're determined to find ways to fight hypnosis and disprove
its effectiveness, you're unlikely to succeed. This is essentially true of
anything we do in life. But if you go into it with a clear open mind, and you're
willing to invest the time to find your ideal hypnosis conditions, you can
literally reap the benefits of self hypnosis on a fairly regular basis, even
daily.
About the Author:
Barrie St John is a leading figure in the field of hypnotherapy and personal
change. He is the author of HypnoShop.com's best selling self hypnosis CDs and
downloads and is also SelfGrowth.com's Official Guide to Hypnosis.
http://www.HypnoShop.com
Check out the Experts page for Barrie St John, the Official Guide to Hypnosis:
http://www.selfgrowth.com/experts/barrie_stjohn.html
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*** Article: Love, Anger and Forgiveness: How to Let Go and Be Emotionally Free
Once and For All By William G. DeFoore, Ph.D. ***
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Anger and forgiveness seem to be opposites, and in many ways they are. You may
be surprised to learn, however, that they have a lot in common. If you make
anger the "bad guy," you just won't get to the forgiving part. Anger has to be
fully understood and released before you get to move on to the freedom of
forgiveness. Forgiveness has to be fully understood before you can let go of
resentments and be emotionally whole and free.
It all starts with love. We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no
one, even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly. Therefore, we all feel
hurt as a natural part of life. And of course, there are those hurts that are
inflicted by abuse, abandonment, and neglect, in some cases extreme.
From this pain, fear and anger naturally emerge. It makes perfect sense to be
angry when you're hurt. Anger is an important place to visit; you just don't
want to live there. Here is where forgiveness comes in. Forgiveness is the
process of letting go of anger and resentment so that you can go on with your
life. Forgiveness is for you, not for the forgiven. That is essential to
understand.
Anger and forgiveness seem opposite, in the sense that anger involves an intense
focus on the "wrongdoer," and forgiveness involves shifting focus off of that
person and moving on with your life. Yet there are some ways that anger and
forgiveness are the same.
* How Anger and Forgiveness Are The Same
Unhealthy anger and premature forgiveness both include:
-Judgment.
-The "one-up" position.
-Dishonoring to yourself.
When you are angry at someone and blaming them, you are definitely judging them
and putting yourself in a "one-up" position. The way you are dishonoring
yourself here is that you are failing to look at your own creative
responsibility in the situation. This is the hazard of the "blame game." When
you are into blaming others for your feelings, situation, or plight, you are
making yourself a victim and denying your own power and responsibility.
Premature forgiveness is forgiving someone when you're not through being angry.
You are still judging them, and therefore you're seeing yourself as "one-up."
You are dishonoring yourself by pretending to forgive in your mind, when your
heart and gut are still carrying anger and resentment.
Here are some important truths to remember when you're angry:
-The other person is responsible for his/her actions that triggered your anger.
You are not responsible for their behavior.
-You are responsible for your emotional reaction and for your actions that
result from your emotional reaction. They are not responsible for your emotional
reactions or your behavior that results.
Here are some other ways that anger and forgiveness are the same. When anger is
healthy, and forgiveness is authentic, both involve:
-Power.
-Release.
-Letting go.
-No more victim position.
-Operating in a container of love.
Both healthy anger and true forgiveness involve the power of healthy release and
letting go, which takes you out of the victim position. This can only occur in a
container of love. Anger can only be healthy when accompanied by some degree of
love and wisdom, and forgiveness can only be true when it is based on love for
yourself and/or another person.
* Understanding Anger
Anger is the most misunderstood emotion. Most people just think it is bad. Here
are some common misconceptions:
-Anger is a bad emotion and should always be controlled.
-It is possible to be without anger completely.
-It is wrong to be angry.
-To be angry means to be out of control.
-Anger is the same thing as aggression.
-When a person is angry, that means they are not safe to be around.
These misconceptions result from the lack of understanding of healthy anger.
Healthy anger is:
-A feeling you have when you're threatened or opposed.
-A protective emotion.
-Powerful energy that can be used for positive outcomes.
-Fuel for effective action.
Have you ever taken action about something that made you angry? Think about MADD,
Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. They got mad, and took action in healthy,
appropriate ways to resolve the problem leading to their pain and anger. Here's
the bottom line on healthy anger:
Healthy anger fuels effective action!
* Understanding True Forgiveness
True forgiveness is something that only your body can do. Surprised by that?
Here's the deal. Anger and resentments are held in the body as well as the mind,
and your mind can decide to forgive long before your body is ready. Literally,
your body has a mind of its own. Here are some things to understand about
forgiveness:
-Forgiveness is not just a decision that you can make in your mind.
-Forgiveness requires an emotional and physical release to be complete.
-Your body is capable of holding onto anger long after your mind thinks it has
forgiven.
-Forgiveness does not absolve the wrongdoer--you don't have that kind of power.
-Withholding forgiveness does not hold the wrongdoer accountable--everyone is
accountable whether you forgive or not.
-Forgiving doesn't mean you have decided that what the wrongdoer did is okay.
-You don't have to wait for the wrongdoer to change for you to forgive.
-You won't be able to forgive until you have fully examined the depth and extent
of your wounds.
-You won't be able to forgive until you have acknowledged the full depths of
your anger.
-Forgiveness is for you.
-Forgiveness is good for your health.
-Forgiveness allows you to be more loving and joyful.
You will know that you have forgiven when your body is relaxed and your
breathing is deep and easy--while you visualize the wrongdoer and say, "I accept
you for who you are, with all of your best and worst. I no longer need you to
change. I forgive you for myself, so that I can be free. I forgive you so that I
can let go of resentments and feel love and joy in my heart, mind, and body."
Your body will tell you if the forgiveness is complete.
* Keys to Emotional Health and Freedom
-Take responsibility for your actions and emotions.
-Do not accept blame for anything.
-Place responsibility for others' actions and emotions on them.
-Do not blame anybody for anything.
Here are some thoughts to consider about love:
-Love can be intoxicating, and therefore can lead to unhealthy decisions.
-The need to love and be loved is the most powerful force in human nature.
-Love is who you are in your spiritual essence.
-Conditional love is not really love--it is more about control.
-The only real love is unconditional love.
-You will always remember those people in your life who have loved you
unconditionally.
-You are at your very best when you are experiencing unconditional love.
Life starts with love. Anger is an inevitable emotion, which can temporarily or
permanently take us away from love. When we work through our anger, we can
forgive. Forgiveness is a return to love.
The greatest of these is love.
About the Author:
William G. DeFoore is a counselor, executive coach, speaker, and president of
the Institute for Personal and Professional Development . He has 34 years of
experience in helping people achieve healthy, happy relationships. Get free
information, watch videos ,and purchase books, CDs, and downloads at
http://www.defoore.com. Contact Dr.
DeFoore at ippd4@aol.com
Check out the Experts page for William G. DeFoore at
http://www.selfgrowth.com/experts/william_defoore.html
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*** Book Review: Why Your Life Sucks...And What You Can Do About It By Alan
Cohen ***
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The in-your-face, no-hype guide to getting happy...
Your life sucks if...
* You routinely make someone or something more important than you.
* The life you are living on the outside doesn't match who you are on the
inside.
* You say yes when you mean no.
* You try to fix other people.
* You've forgotten to enjoy the ride.
When your life sucks, it's a wake-up call. Now self-help guru and best-selling
author Alan Cohen invites you to answer that call, change your course, and enjoy
the life you were meant to live. In ten compelling chapters, Cohen shows you how
to stop wasting your energy on people and things that deaden you--and use it for
things you love.
With great humor, great examples, and exhilarating directness, "Why Your Life
Sucks" doesn't just spell out the ways in which you undermine your power,
purpose, and creativity--it shows you how to reverse the damage. Here is an
encouraging but loud-and-clear reminder that in every moment we generate our own
experience by the choices we make, and that today is the best day to begin your
new life.
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