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Issue # 460, Week of July 3-4, 2007
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In this issue:
-- Quotes of the Week
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-- Article: The Missing Piece to Overeating and Why Diets Fail By Judith
Orloff, M.D.
-- Article: Pulling Yourself into a Great Relationship By Rinatta Paries
-- Book Review: The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference
By Malcolm Gladwell
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*** Quotes of the Week ***
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The harder you work, the harder it is to surrender. Vince Lombardi, 1913-1970,
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Laziness may appear attractive, but work gives satisfaction. Anne Frank,
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*** Article: The Missing Piece to Overeating and Why Diets Fail By Judith
Orloff, M.D. ***
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(Excerpted from "Positive Energy: Ten Extraordinary Prescriptions for
Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear Into Vibrance, Strength, and Love" By
Judith Orloff, M.D., Harmony Books, April 2004)
As a psychiatrist and intuitive, I know that there is more to overeating and
obesity than meets the eye. One big reason that many diets fail is that
traditional weight loss programs don't factor in how we process subtle energy,
what Chinese medicine terms life force or chi. Subtle energy penetrates and
surrounds the body. Sensitive people who I call intuitive empaths unknowingly
overeat in response to being overwhelmed by negative vibes. Empaths not only can
sense energy around them, they absorb it into their bodies. If this is you,
"Positive Energy" will teach you to center and protect yourself when the impulse
to overeat hits.
Here's the energetic premise of obesity: When empaths are thin, they have less
padding and are more vulnerable to soaking up negative vibes. For instance,
early twentieth-century faith healers were renowned for being grossly obese to
avoid absorbing their patient's symptoms--a common trap I've seen modern-day
healers also unconsciously fall into; food is a convenient grounding device.
Similarly, many of my patients pack on pounds to protect against overwhelming
vibes, massive or minute. Energy is at the root of an empath's hunger. Whether
your sensitivity to negative vibes is minimal or intense, for a diet to succeed,
it's important to develop alternative coping strategies other than overeating.
In my book, I will show you how to cope with negative vibes without abusing
food. Whether accosted by an angry colleague or global threat, apply them
immediately. Stick to those that work best for you.
8 Emergency Interventions to Halt Energetic Eating
When the impulse to overeat hits:
* Identify an addictive craving from a true need.
Addictive craving, a symptom of nutritional abuse, is a frequent response to
energetic overload. Bottom line--you eat certain foods like a drug addict. This
leads to obesity. Cravings feel intense; whenever you keep lusting after sweets
and carbs especially, be suspicious. (I've yet to see someone binge on brussel
sprouts!) For instance, chocolate turns from simple pleasure to crutch when you
gorge on it, use it to self-medicate stress, or to get a sugar high--also if you
experience mood-swings, sugar hangovers, can't control your intake, or it makes
you sick. With cravings, you eat to relieve stress, not to build energy. Try to
identify addictive foods, and limit them.
A true nutritional need lacks such sturm and drang: there's no lusting or
lunging for food to guard against negative energies. A true need comes from a
centered place, has nothing to do with soothing our emotions (comfort foods), or
obsession. Feeling healthily nurtured from food never involves mood
swings--sedation or elation--rather an even feeling of satisfaction. A true need
lets you enjoy your meal, optimizes energy, and doesn't lead to obesity.
* Quickly pinpoint energetic stressors that trigger addictive cravings.
Immediately ask yourself: Have I been exposed to bad vibes? A loud-mouth
neighbor? An ordeal to pass through airport security? A siege of overbearing
phone messages from your mother? Don't write off the "smaller" incidents which
notoriously send empaths motoring to the refrigerator. Avoid panic. Methodically
pinpoint cause and effect. You don't have to be victimized by negative energy.
The trick is to clear it as soon as possible once you've been slimed.
* Breathe negative vibes out of your system.
Take a five-minute break for damage control. Slowly inhale and exhale. As you've
learned, breath activates positive energy; it also releases negative vibes.
Notice if they get stuck in a specific part of your body. For instance, negative
vibes go straight to my gut; I feel irradiated by a toxic stun gun. Identify
your vulnerable points. Then practice this visualization: Just as your lungs
take in oxygen and expel toxic carbon dioxide, you're going to breathe in light
and clarity, breathe out stress. Breathe in vitality. Breathe out fear. I also
visualize negative vibes exiting through the spaces between the vertebrae in my
lower back. You can try this too. Breathing out toxic vibes is a proactive
cleansing process. You're in charge of the flow. Allow well-being to permeate
every inch of you. Repeat this exercise until you're free of negative residue.
* Pray to release the addictive craving.
If you're gripped by a craving, go into praying mode. For a few quiet moments,
breath slowly. Bring your awareness to your heart, and aim for self-compassion.
The craving may feel impossible to handle, but that's okay. In this calm state
ask, your higher power to lift it from you. No mental nudging needed. If you
surrender your ego-involvement, this simple, heartfelt request works like a
charm. What you're doing is calling on a cosmically influential positive energy
to supplant a material-world negative drive.
* Take a bath or shower.
A speedy way to dissolve negative vibes is to immerse yourself in water. My tub
is my refuge after a busy day; it washes away everything from bus exhaust to
long hours of air travel, to personal unpleasantness. While you relax, water
works on you. It has alchemical cleansing properties which will purify your
physical body and energy field.
* Burn sage.
Just because vibes are invisible doesn't mean you don't eat over them. Try
burning sage to counteract negative energy someone deposits in your office or
home--a strategy that has kept pounds off my patients with a lot of
people-contact in their space. Vibes accumulate and can cause stress if not
eradicated. You may not realize that leftover subtle energies trigger addictive
eating patterns, but these vibes subliminally wear at you. Sage has been used by
ancients cross-culturally to purify locations. Burn it, and the desire to eat
over lurking negative vibes will wane.
* Visualize a protective shield around you.
Visualize white light surrounding every inch of you from head to toe so that
negative energy cannot penetrate this shield and deplete your energy.
* Eat with attunement.
Develop a diet that satisfies your energetic needs. I'd like ENERGY to motivate
WHY you eat, more important than taste or any dietary dogma--a priority to
impart to children. Whatever you put in you mouth, run by your energy meter; see
what truly nourishes or depletes. Even foods you've shunned become more
attractive when your experience their energy lift.
Food is no place to be passive. The interventions offered in "Positive Energy"
will allow you to have an active stance in eating healthily. You don't have to
let poisonous energy lodge itself in you. To stay on top of your eating, do a
daily check-in. Stay alert for cravings prompted by negative vibes. Watch your
responses. I promise, your eating habits will change.
About the Author:
Judith Orloff, M.D., is a board certified psychiatrist, a practicing intuitive,
and author of "Positive Energy: Ten Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming
Fatigue, Stress, and Fear Into Vibrance, Strength, and Love" (Harmony Books).
She is also author of the bestsellers "Guide to Intuitive Healing" and "Second
Sight." She's an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA, has a
private practice in Los Angeles, and is an international workshop leader on the
interrelationship of medicine, intuition, and spirituality. Her work has been
featured on CNN, PBS, A&E, and NPR. Dr. Orloff's website is
http://www.drjudithorloff.com
Check out the Experts page for Judith Orloff, the Official SelfGrowth.com Guide
to Intuition:
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*** Article: Pulling Yourself into a Great Relationship By Rinatta Paries ***
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There are times in our lives when we feel our goals and desires pulling us
forward. Other times we feel as though we are pushing to reach our goals.
To be pulled forward by a goal makes it more likely that you will achieve it.
When you are pulled forward, serendipity happens, doors open, things seem
easier. It becomes more possible to achieve the things you want.
A goal pulls you forward when achieving it does not create an internal conflict
of interest. A goal pulls you forward when it snugly fits who you are and what
you want. A goal pulls you forward when realizing it seems likely.
If your goal, your desire, does not meet at least once of the above criteria,
you will find yourself pushing toward your goal rather than being pulled by it.
Pushing toward a goal may still make it happen. But you will be struggling,
losing faith, getting disappointed and hopeful intermittently, and expending a
lot of energy in the process. You may walk away in frustration before you
achieve what you want.
Needless to say, it is better, easier, to be pulled forward by your goal, your
desire.
So, are you being pulled toward or are you pushing for your goal of attracting
your ideal mate and creating your ideal relationship?
Many singles and people in relationships are pushing for a relationship. While
some do attract and create good relationships this way, the majority continues
struggling and getting disappointed. Those who give up the struggle and allow
themselves to be pulled attract mates more quickly and easily.
How do you allow your desire for a healthy relationship and a wonderful mate
pull you forward? Follow the three steps below.
1. Resolve the internal conflict of interest.
Say to yourself, out loud, "I want to be in a wonderful relationship," or
something similar about your goal. As you say this to yourself, notice how you
feel. Pay attention to any words or phrases that immediately come to mind. You
might hear yourself saying there are no potential partners out there; I will get
hurt; I am afraid; no one will love me. You may also feel a tightening in your
gut, or some fear.
Write down the negative comments and the emotions. Find resourceful ways to
disprove them. Understand that you cannot attract a loving partner if you think
such a partner does not exist. Dig into your emotions about getting what you
want and look at what is behind them. What makes you afraid, sad, etc.?
Get to a point where you can say what you want, out loud, and all you feel is
joy and excitement about the possibilities of it.
2. Make sure the kind of partner and relationship you are reaching for fits who
you are.
What kind of relationship do you want? What's most important to you? What kind
of a partner will fit you? You need to be clear on the character traits you are
seeking so you can recognize the person when you see him or her. Otherwise you
will be choosing partners by chemistry alone, which seldom, if ever, works out.
3. It is likely you will get the love you want.
Can you believe it is likely you will have the love you want? If you can't, then
you probably won't find that love. We don't usually try to achieve things we
think are unlikely. If you believe it's impossible, you will not take the
necessary steps to make it possible.
This one is a major shift--from resignation or searching, to having the faith
and the patience to do and learn the necessary things to attract the love of
your life.
Set your mind to having your relationship goals pull you forward, and you are
certain to realize your dream relationship. If you need help with any of these
steps, you know I am here for you.
Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries
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*** Book Review: The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference
By Malcolm Gladwell ***
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"The best way to understand the dramatic transformation of unknown books into
bestsellers, or the rise of teenage smoking, or the phenomena of word of mouth
or any number of the other mysterious changes that mark everyday life," writes
Malcolm Gladwell, "is to think of them as epidemics. Ideas and products and
messages and behaviors spread just like viruses do." Although anyone familiar
with the theory of memetics will recognize this concept, Gladwell's "The Tipping
Point" has quite a few interesting twists on the subject.
For example, Paul Revere was able to galvanize the forces of resistance so
effectively in part because he was what Gladwell calls a "Connector": he knew
just about everybody, particularly the revolutionary leaders in each of the
towns that he rode through. But Revere "wasn't just the man with the biggest
Rolodex in colonial Boston"; he was also a "Maven" who gathered extensive
information about the British. He knew what was going on, and he knew exactly
whom to tell. The phenomenon continues to this day--think of how often you've
received information in an e-mail message that had been forwarded at least half
a dozen times before reaching you.
Gladwell develops these and other concepts (such as the "stickiness" of ideas or
the effect of population size on information dispersal) through simple, clear
explanations and entertainingly illustrative anecdotes, such as comparing the
pedagogical methods of Sesame Street and Blue's Clues, or explaining why it
would be even easier to play Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon with the actor Rod
Steiger. Although some readers may find the transitional passages between
chapters hold their hands a little too tightly, and Gladwell's closing
invocation of the possibilities of social engineering sketchy, even chilling,
"The Tipping Point" is one of the most effective books on science for a general
audience in ages. It seems inevitable that "tipping point," like "future shock"
or "chaos theory," will soon become one of those ideas that everybody knows--or
at least knows by name. --Ron Hogan
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