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Do you know that a broken heart from a previously failed relationship is one of the greatest impediments to a) having another relationship and b) having a successful relationship? Do you know this is because the pain associated with the broken heart never actually goes away it only gets buried ... Views: 29
The funeral was lovely. It was packed with friends paying their respects. But once everyone else has gone back to normal routines, close family and dear friends still grieve for the lost loved one. They may feel that the world has passed them by and feel very alone.
Now is a perfect moment to ... Views: 45
Do you know that one of the major impediments to starting a new relationship is the emotional pain and vulnerability that lingers from the experience of past infidelities?
Do you know this emotional baggage contributes to such things as fears of commitment, fears of intimacy, patterns of ... Views: 59
Survivor guilt is the guilt that is carried by individuals who survive the death of loved ones or other members of a cultural, national, religious or other group that they belong to.
It is felt along with feelings of unworthiness, a sense of being undeserving, an unconscious need to join ... Views: 78
After a significant loss most individuals go through a period of grief that many consider normal and part of the human condition. For many this period is painfully debilitating affecting their energy, health, ability to be present and productive and most importantly their ability to remember and ... Views: 58
We cringe as we hear of the latest mass tragedy whether it's another shooting, a hurricane, tornado, fire, or flood. It's just one more horrific event that fills our daily thoughts and hearts. Yet, we never believe that something so awful could ever happen to us or to anyone close to ... Views: 165
I recently attended my uncle’s memorial service and it was wonderful to watch 4 of his 6 children talk about him. There is no doubt that all were experiencing butterflies as they stood at the lectern but they did an excellent job controlling their nervousness. The expression of their emotions, ... Views: 134
When you meet someone for the first time and get to know them, you're sending them some of your energy. That energy carries information about you. Sending it to them is your way of letting them know who you are. They receive it, absorb it, and send you some of their energy as well. This back and ... Views: 107
If you have experienced miscarriage, you know that feeling that keeps nagging you - what did I do wrong? Why did my baby have to die inside me? Unfortunately, there is no reason and yet we upset ourselves, looking for the one alcoholic drink we had before we knew we were pregnant or if life ... Views: 181
The greatest truth about being happy is that happiness is a choice and a decision. It's just a thought away! Every day you wake up and get to make the decision about how you want to feel.
Ask yourself, "Do I want to be happy today?" Isn't that the choice most of us would want? And yet, we ... Views: 222
Your role has changed… no longer are you the care giver. Your loved one has died and things are now different. You may be feeling a whole host of emotions ranging from relief, to anger, to disbelief and sadness. You may be responding by questioning who you are now, and how you go on. Welcome to ... Views: 140
I recently read some rather depressing medical news – and that is that anti-depressants don’t work. What’s worse is that we have all been conned by the FDA and the pharmaceutical industry telling us how much they DO work. We all know what a common problem depression is in mental health care. ... Views: 223
Death, no matter what the cause, is always unexpected and a shock. I know this, and as a death care professional and grief coach, I teach this. Working over 12 years in the death care industry, I’ve seen the emotions of death and grief. I’ve assisted hundreds of families with prearrangements, ... Views: 267
Capture Your Memories
Sherry Joiner –Living A Life With Schizo-Affective Disorder - Lecturer in the Psyche Ward and In Our Own Voice Speaker for NAMI
When I was having trouble with mom’s suicide in my 40’s I dealt with my insecurities by sewing. I began with stitchery kits of flowers, ... Views: 215
When a relationship comes to an end, it can often lead to pain. For some people the end of a relationship will be experienced solely as a loss and for others, although there is a sense of loss, it will also be coupled with a sense of freedom and that the time had come.
This will of course ... Views: 385
“Grief can destroy you --or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for ... Views: 282
This is something that can affect someone in many ways and as a result of many things. Some losses can simply be ignored and forgotten about and then there are others can are harder to forget.
One can also lose something and never forget the loss; regardless of how much times goes by or what ... Views: 308
Dear Dr. Romance:
What Is The Grieving Process?
What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage?
If you've had a personal ... Views: 300
When someone advises you to "take a deep breath" what do you actually do? How does it feel in your body? Try it right now, paying close attention to the front of your body. Where does the movement of the breath come in?
I'm guessing you probably felt it most in your chest. You also probably ... Views: 316
The Butterfly in all its glory is a symbol of transformation, hope, faith, and love. Its most important role however is the remarkable gift it gives to us, in understanding death and rebirth unveiling the process of re-incarnation.
Another extraordinary example of the butterfly is its ability ... Views: 412
The Power of Love
A number of years ago, while attending the Trauma Recovery Certification training, a teacher who worked with troubled youth remarked that by the end of the year she wanted all the children to know that God loves them. In response, I invited her to ponder if a better ... Views: 488
Irishman Walking is about my walking the coastal roads of Japan through a series of summer, winter, spring, and autumn stages. Stage 2 began in the city of Noshiro, Akita Prefecture in the winter of 2009, and ended in Tsuruoka City, Yamagata four weeks later in January 2010. Last summer (2012), ... Views: 575
Healing our heart is a multifaceted process that takes patience. The first step is to acknowledge that our heart is broken. Whether it is through the death of a loved one, a relationship ending or a betrayal in a close relationship the broken heart will heal.
Once we accept the pain and ... Views: 503
We all have a story to tell that makes us who we are today. We ask people to tell their transformational stories in this magazine; therefore, I am going to share my story here this month. Through this letter to my brother, I will share how our enlightened relationship transformed my ... Views: 544
Did you know Happiness is a choice? You are the one in control of making that decision every single day. It's hard to fathom when it feels like the whole world and the economy are in chaos. However, I learned through tragedy and ultimately triumph, I could choose "happy," no matter ... Views: 623
A school’s complete body of students will be impacted upon when the sudden death of a student’s parent becomes known.
Come morning, usually, the school’s administration has been notified allowing them to brief their staff before the school’s day starts. The school board’s psychologist will ... Views: 499
The holidays are supposed to be a happy time of the year. We have time off, we get to see our families, our kids are excited about this magical time of the year, etc. But for many people the holidays only mean stress, anxiety, and grief. If you have lost a loved one, you may be experiencing this ... Views: 577
There are many facts about Near Death Experiences that have come to light through the research in that field over the last 30 years. The more we look into them, the more we receive wonderful messages about the wider truths.
The near death experiences (NDEs) that occur following an accident ... Views: 700
I know I'm not alone in the fact that I've lost someone very special to breast cancer, and I'm sure I'm not alone in the fact that it still hurts after nearly twenty years. My mom passed away in 1993, a victim of this horrible disease, and getting over her death has taken most of my adult life. ... Views: 994
Recently a phrase popped into my head, "Inexplicably predictably happy." That's one way I experience God--words come to me and I can tell they are not mine (some people call this "channeling").
I was actually grieving at the time I "heard" those words, but even though I was grieving, I ... Views: 776
Just before Christmas when I was 7 years old my dad died and I experienced a life altering paradigm shift. It was as if the curtains closed at the end of an act on the stage of my life and when they reopened, the scenery had completely changed leaving me feeling unsafe and bewildered. As a ... Views: 556
You experienced a horrible loss. The grief has nearly destroyed you.
Although you are aware grief has no schedule or timetable, you are a year into your extended mourning session and want it to stop. In fact, you have become nearly paralyzed with sadness and know this can’t go on. What can ... Views: 715
Recently I made a trip to the supermarket, and was delighted to be able to help an elderly couple with some of shopping’s little snags such as pulling the trolley out and reaching for higher goods. They reminded me of my parents, and I so wanted to go home with them. As we chatted, the woman ... Views: 694
I was listening to the weather guy last night saying he knows that many of us are upset that summer is gone, but then reminded listeners that fall that is quite spectacular. I have to agree with him. Of course, it depends where you live. In the Northeast, we get to see all those incredible fall ... Views: 612
We all long for a peaceful life. We search for peace through the mediums that our culture sells: through spending, watching television, searching the Internet, finding the “perfect” partner, having a baby, and a variety of other misguided methods. We even meditate, practice yoga, and attend ... Views: 787
There IS light at the end of the tunnel!
Feel like you are suffocating in the darkness of your pain? Don’t think there’s any hope?
When you are in the midst of despair, I want you to know there IS light at the end of your tunnel. You may not think so right now, but it’s there. Many have ... Views: 767
Has Your Pain Turned into Anguish and Despair?
Today, I want to talk about something that is very painful and deep inside some of us. Something that eats at you and gnaws away at your very being. It seems like it never gets better, but only worse.
What I am talking about is our pain, but ... Views: 890
Are you someone who has experienced loss? Do you find yourself grieving alone or suppressing your feelings altogether? If so, you may be afraid of burdening friends and family with your grief. Or, perhaps you feel like no one understands what you are going through, so you hide your deepest ... Views: 664
Each day that we awaken is a new day to take our lives forward. It is an opportunity to create something new, something fresh. No matter what you have gone thru, no matter how painful, how heart-wrenching, you don’t have to be in that situation forever. You do not have to be in pain forever. ... Views: 604
Living in the Bottom of a Well
By Sheri N Hall
You look up, you see a small circle of light- no it is not ‘Gods light’ but it is the way out. It is seemingly far away but closer than you think. It is very small; sometimes non-existent sometimes you cannot see it because you don’t want to ... Views: 999
Unpredictable circumstances in life can make us feel as though the results of our actions are beyond our immediate influence. Events including job loss, death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or even a car accident can leave us feeling helpless: as though the reigns have slipped away ... Views: 971
Loss causes us to ask the tough questions, “Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose? It sends us on a journey of self exploration and discovery. It causes us to question the nature of reality. Who we thought we were is no longer. All that we knew to be true, all of our assumptions about ... Views: 1177
A friend of mine recently said to me, “Suzane, you are the only person I know who shows your garden to everyone from your Blackberry.” I just looked at her and thought, “In this day and age of electronic wizardry, is it so strange that a girl from farming stock on both sides her family is ... Views: 955
We are all connected. A tragedy such as this is proof that though we may not know any of those who have passed personally (or their family members and friends), the experience nonetheless hits a core in all of us.
Death — especially one of this magnitude — awakens the fragility of life. Most ... Views: 1131
How to heal a broken heart is a multifaceted process that takes patience. The first step is to accept that our heart is broken. Whether it is through the death of a loved one, a relationship ending or a betrayal in a close relationship the broken heart will heal when we focus on that ... Views: 917
"...when you fully understand that each day you awaken could be the last you have, you take the time that day to grow, to become more of who you really are, to reach out to other human beings."
-- Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, Death The Final Stage of Growth
I wrote the following piece after a ... Views: 1035
The Grieving of America
We plan our lives according to a dream that came to us in childhood, and we find that life alters our plans.
We have seen and heard of job losses within our economy. As a result, individuals have lost their homes, status/lifestyle, dreams, and ... Views: 1124
When you are going through a rough time the last thing you think about is the light at the end of the tunnel. Regardless of what the situation is, you are drowning in it. Your emotions are running rapid and you can’t quite get a grip on things. You have tunnel vision at this point and the ... Views: 1457
I’ve lost many things in my life. Jobs. Grandparents. Pets. Money. A house. A business. Even my identity at one point.
I’ve watched my parents lose their parents, my husband lose his father, my daughter lose teenage friends.
I’ve seen that in the moment these losses feel insurmountable. ... Views: 930
I am a hospice social worker and grief therapist. Before I used Emotional Freedom Techniques I spent a lot of hours hoping I was making a difference providing grief support. It’s a proven fact that people who are grieving need to tell their stories so that they can process their grief, but ... Views: 825