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Since I have been receiving a high volume of readers who are interested in more information on Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Surviving Relationships with Narcissists, I have created a brief Youtube Video.
I have spent many hours reviewing experts on Narcissism and ... Views: 161
Anger and Our Dark Side ~ A force to be Reckoned With
In my first book, Lessons for an Urban Goddess, I describe the importance of being in touch with both the light and dark sides of our nature.
In order to live your life authentically and mindfully, it is imperative to regulate the ... Views: 202
As featured in the HUFF POST:
Learn to Reduce Your Stress in 8 Simple Steps!
Stress can make an unfortunate appearance at any time of year, but when we are challenged, tired, or going through a crisis, it can spike. Though we can’t “stop” stress from entering our lives, we can take ... Views: 210
Are you in a TOXIC Relationship? Are you questioning if you should stay or go? Empowerment Coaching can help.
Breaking away from a toxic relationship is very difficult. You may be suffering from emotional abuse, or you may be addicted to an unhealthy love relationship ... Views: 331
If you’ve found yourself in a relationship with a jealous boyfriend, it can be quite a confusing and exhausting experience as you probably know. Especially when he’s not jealous about guys in the present, but about guys in the past.
A man who gets all angry and upset about his girlfriend’s ... Views: 795
Not so long ago, I was talking to a business man in Korea. There we were negotiating a multi-million dollar deal, and neither could understand the other's language. Thanks to God for a good interpreter. Still, it required a great deal of effort on both our parts. I learned as we spoke to each ... Views: 689
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
The narcissist's True Self is introverted and dysfunctional. In healthy people, Ego functions are generated from the inside, from the Ego. In narcissists, the Ego is dormant, comatose. The narcissist needs the input of and ... Views: 724
Ever travel with children or those needing assistance? Then you are quite familiar with the instructions flight attendants give passengers to put the mask on yourself first before helping others. Makes sense right?
Perhaps Lama Yeshe said it best, “Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to ... Views: 588
The meaning of Reiki…
The word Reiki can be defined as the ‘universal life force of energy’. Any living organism including us humans are made of energy. This is not just a mere assumption, but a scientifically proven fact. Our body is composed of various streams of energy that connects ... Views: 604
The iOS systems especially the iphone and the iPads are amazing platforms for games and the like. Playing games on these platforms is a different experience altogether. Apple has always stood for quality and precision. This is what we experience while using Apple products. The glitch free ... Views: 603
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a young man whose life has fallen apart because of the girl I love so much. I slept with her but then she betrayed me by telling every body she saw and I felt so bad and walked away from her when she needed me the most. I could count all the tears that run out of ... Views: 813
Narcissists don’t really love themselves. Actually, they’re driven by shame. It’s the idealized image of themselves, which they convince themselves they embody, that they admire. But deep down, narcissists feel the gap between the façade they show the world and their shame-based self. They work ... Views: 954
Dear Dr. Romance, I just wanted to express to you how I thoroughly enjoyed your article about how there should be a tennis match type of communication. The guy I like hasn't been responding when he usually responds and though he's a busy professional, I get upset that he ... Views: 966
On March 8th, 2016, the whole planet celebrated the International Day of Women. However, one may ask about the reasons that could gear the members of the gentle gender to participate in that precious event.
Did they achieve their objectives of being treated as equals to their male ... Views: 593
Do you want your ex back in your life and free from other ladies? I have been in your shoes before so I know your feelings. My boyfriend also left me for another girl just a month before our first anniversary, but here is a secret have got for you. I got my ex back and so can you!
This is the ... Views: 813
While some men are able to break away from their mothers, there are other men who are unable to do this. When this doesn’t take place, not only is it going to cause the men to suffer; it is also going to cause the women in their life to suffer.
However, if a man has turned his back on women ... Views: 655
Dear Dr. Romance :
I'm getting worried because my husband is drinking more, and laughing less. He works too much, he has lost interest in his guy friends and sports. He's gotten more tense, and is on edge and irritable. Sometimes he even yells at me and the kids. I think maybe he needs ... Views: 425
To last long in bed is every man’s desire and as well as their partner’s desire. Every woman wants their man to be a man in bed. Low sex stamina is a curse to a man and everybody should take care of their sexual health to avoid low sex stamina. To keep your partner happy in bed or to ... Views: 736
Show your woman that she is safe with you.
Show her that she can share her inner self with you and
you have the strength to hold her up.
2. Open Book
Share things with her about your daily routine not because she may be insecure and not trust you.
This act creates ... Views: 686
Psychological ED hits men of all ages, young and old.
In younger men, psychological ED generally hits due to the newness of sex... it is all so overwhelmingly exciting, combined with the unfair pressure of being expected to know what they are doing (when deep down they know they are ... Views: 919
Fear of an uncertain future can stop us from doing great things, and it can keep us holding onto things and habits that are hurting us. Today I will share 5 steps to deal with separation and divorce anxiety.
I think it is fair to say, that the majority of us from time to time wonder what the ... Views: 669
We all have insecurities of some sort but when it takes a toll on our relationships, it becomes burdensome.
You may have finally met the man of your dreams but it seems you cannot put your fingers on.
It turns out he is always defensive or sensitive and has answers or excuses for everything ... Views: 1108
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Most narcissists enjoy an irrational and brief burst of relief after having suffered emotionally ("narcissistic injury") or after having sustained a loss. It is a sense of freedom, which comes with being unshackled. Having ... Views: 947
You know it...
That moment where you see that girl and you want to go talk to her.
Maybe it's in school, maybe it's at work, maybe it's at the gym....
Who cares where it is! You just want to go talk to her and get her to like you.
But the problem is you're too shy to do ... Views: 641
My stepfather Dick (not a pseudonym) is incredibly kind.
He is so kind it often makes others around him uncomfortable. His kindness enervates a room and can trigger others to tease or to create an opposing position.
He is regularly, persistently and unceasingly complimentary. He sees the ... Views: 546
There is no specific textbook to teach men and women how to act in a relationship, as everybody is different. That being said, it is always important to stay true to who you are and to the principles you truly believe in, and to always act as your heart dictates you to act. However, there are ... Views: 649
The thing is, there really is a difference in how you feel after you overcome shyness.
I'm not talking about overcoming shyness where you get bold for a brief moment and then anxiety creeps back in.
I'm talking about a full blown recovery where there is no going back.
A few years ago I ... Views: 650
“How do you attract women?” Tell me, what’s the answer?
I’m not talking about the politically correct answers like “Ask her out for dinners” or “Tell her how beautiful she is.” That stuff is reserved for people born in the 1920’s
More and more women are coming out and admitting that a ... Views: 673
One of my favorite shows is - America\'s Got Talent. I really enjoy watching raw talent come up from the ranks. There\'s great talent and there\'s... well, let\'s just say, less than great. Week after week acts are eliminated until one stands victorious as the winner.
The mere fact that a ... Views: 456
How often do you have someone who sends you an email with, “I have a couple of quick questions.”
As you read their questions you quickly realize it will require a fair amount of time to respond to all of them.
Wanting to be polite, the temptation is for you to respond. It’s not that you ... Views: 596
For years I “pounded the pavement” looking for opportunity. I tried just about everything; except one thing; being myself.
What I discovered was this; as long as I tried to be someone other than who I am, my success was always an arms distance away.
Are you trying to be someone you’re not? ... Views: 587
There are many “red flags about women” articles floating around on the internet. This time though, I will address the amber flags – not good, but not absolute deal breakers either. These can go both ways, but are flags to keep in check, just in case.
I was slightly confused for a ... Views: 729
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Positive feelings (about oneself or pertaining to one's accomplishments, assets, etc.) – are never gained merely through conscious endeavor. They are the outcome of insight. A cognitive component (factual knowledge regarding ... Views: 915
I grew up in the 1980's and was a teenager in the 1990's. Most of the kids of my generation were exposed to virile and resourceful representations of men. Take American mainstream media; we had movies like Terminator, where a fit male character did everything he could to protect those he loved, ... Views: 648
1. Your bubbliness and extroversion does not distract us from the fact that you are fat.
Observe a group of girls in a bar. There is always one who is louder, acts crazy and seems to dance and drink more than everyone else. She's very talkative and laughs a lot - she's the centre of attention ... Views: 907
In the world of personal development there seems to be two lines of tought with regards to personality change. On one side of the spectrum, some say yes - you can and have to change. After all, you need to change in order to become the person you want to be. On the other hand, you have those who ... Views: 555
Thoughts, Words, and FEELINGS
Emotions for me are a necessary evil. I absolutely hate the way emotions can completely blind a mind from logic. This is one of the main reasons that it takes me a long, long time to become emotionally attached to anybody. It seems that whenever I become ... Views: 617
Does this sound familiar? You go to a loud club and your friends tell you that they can’t hear you even though you’ve been talking in a louder voice. Your throat feels raw and sore or perhaps you have lost your voice after an hour or two of straining to be heard.
What you are experiencing ... Views: 690
Dr. Romance on men and biological clocks:
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Yes, a man can feel the need to grow up and have a family, especially when he finds a woman who inspires those feelings in him. The problem is, how can you be sure the match is a good one?
You’d think the positive ... Views: 794
Life can feel like a perpetual classroom. You’re constantly learning. Sometimes you make mistakes and other times you get a gold star for your achievements. Once in a while, a particular lesson alludes you, no matter how many times you experience it. When frustrations build, you might consider ... Views: 633
You know that moment when you realize you slipped up and said or did something wrong...and that feeling of dread comes over you?
Or you know you’re supposed to say something in a group but you can’t get yourself to do it...and you know others take notice of ... Views: 937
Of course the answer is make new friends right? Especially if you wished you had a more active social life and you’re not social.
The reason I’m bringing up this topic is to discuss how we sabotage ourselves when it comes to the social success we want.
When you can figure out where ... Views: 849
The problem with shyness is it feels like you’ll never overcome it.
It takes a grip over you as soon you have to meet people or introduce yourself to someone.
And it grips you until the very end of the interaction.
To many of us with shyness it feels like an enormous wall that blocks us ... Views: 983
Let’s face it.
If you have shyness working against you then making conversations can be really tough.
But did you know that many great conversations can start from canned material? Meaning its stuff you planned to talk about ahead of time.
The problem is knowing what material to talk ... Views: 1380
Yes, there is such a thing.
A meditation technique that helps you to overcome shyness.
It’s a meditation technique I’ve used for over 6 years and it’s helped me a great deal.
If you follow any of my articles or read about me then you know I’ve overcome shyness and gotten to the point ... Views: 962
When someone looks towards other people to define how valuable they are, they are going to be dependent on their approval and acceptance. And the other hand, if one was to define their value and not look towards others, the need to receive the acceptance and approval of others is not going to be ... Views: 990
In recent studies, men have been shown to suffer more than women when a relationship comes to an end. And while some people would not have been surprised to hear this, for others, it was unexpected and even dismissed.
Even though men have emotions just like women, this doesn’t always appear ... Views: 1885
“Nice guys finish last” I’m sure many shy men can relate with this statement.
I’ve seen over the years that shy men have an air of “I’ll always be nice no matter what.” They are easily forgiving of others regardless of what the situation is.
Overly NICE guys also tend to remember things ... Views: 888
Rejection is pretty hard on the soul.
It can make you feel unwanted, lonely and frustrated.
It doesn't matter if you’re the average Joe or a big shot executive. It hurts just the same; and with today’s fast paced society the world can feel extra punishing.
When you can ... Views: 885
When two people come together with the intention of having a relationship or just the desire to spend time together, it is generally going to lead to them having sex. And this could be something that both of them equally want to experience or something that one of them is more attached to than ... Views: 2782