The Answer Was Right There
I quickly realized that who I surrounded myself with I became! My environment had a massive impact on how I thought, felt and even acted. The more I hung around and practiced with better tennis players than me, the faster I improved my own tennis game. The more ... Views: 13
On the 6th doctor I visited to look deeper into what these agonizing symptoms I was experiencing could be, I got some interesting advice. The advice I was given was unlike what anyone had ever told me before, and in time it showed me a natural path to overcoming my generalized anxiety disorder. ... Views: 6
You are unable to reach your weight loss or fitness goals. You try every diet. You register for gym membership. You buy the best equipment. Yet you procrastinate. You lose the same 10 pounds over and over again. You are too tired or too busy to shop for healthy foods and you order pizza. ... Views: 14
Do you know that a broken heart from a previously failed relationship is one of the greatest impediments to a) having another relationship and b) having a successful relationship? Do you know this is because the pain associated with the broken heart never actually goes away it only gets buried ... Views: 14
While I was presenting at a recent conference in Santa Fe, New Mexico I learned that the majority of my audience were carrying feelings of inadequacy within. As I helped them release such feelings once and for all I decided that it would be useful to also write about this issue here.
Feelings ... Views: 14
Do feelings of inadequacy make you feel deficient and defective, do they undermine your self confidence, self esteem, and self worth and block you from being everything you know you are in your Heart? Well if so I want you to know that there is a way to liberate your SELF permanently from this ... Views: 13
It has been shown that carrying the scars of parental divorce can significantly increase the probability of you experiencing a divorce in your life. Does this make you feel frustrated or limited? If so I want you to know that there is a way to not only beat the odds but actually change ... Views: 18
While one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious.
It is a time that plays a ... Views: 13
Do you know that any negative memory from your past can be completely and permanently erased leaving you feeling renewed, free, empowered and able to create your life from an entirely new starting point? Do you know that by doing so you will literally feel reborn and like you're starting the ... Views: 23
Do you know that there is a way to completely and permanently erase negative memories from the unconscious mind? Do you know that this process is accessible to anyone who is able to read and write? Do you know that it requires no hypnosis, drugs, psychotherapy, EMDR, EFT, or invasive procedure? ... Views: 15
Liking feels good, plus it encourages us to approach and engage the world rather than withdraw from it.
Your brain continually tracks whether something is pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. In essence, is it a carrot, a stick, or safely ignored? Naturally, we like - we enjoy - what's pleasant, ... Views: 14
We must remember that we will always come across inevitable factors that cause pressure and anxiety on us. What we do not know is that it is not really the problems that are difficult to deal with, but our attitude towards the problems. Basically, the cause of stress is your attitude toward ... Views: 30
Entering a substance abuse treatment program is the best way to overcome your drug or alcohol addiction. There are a variety of programs available and understanding the differences is the key in finding the program that is best suited for you.
Do You Need Detox?
The first step is ... Views: 26
Do you know many individuals feel like needy, dependent, weak, vulnerable, helpless, frightened children inside? Do you know this "personality state" robs them of their self confidence, inner strength, courage, ability to trust and assert themselves, and ultimately of any real success or ... Views: 20
Do you know that many "so called" adults actually feel emotionally more like dependent immature children inside? Do you know this makes those individuals, who, having to go out into an adult world and having to assume adult responsibilities feel highly stressed, anxious, weak, overwhelmed, like ... Views: 22
Do you know that all self sabotage is driven by negative beliefs about and self loathing towards one's self stored in the subconscious mind? Do you know that negative beliefs such as: I'm weak, I'm useless, I'm worthless, I'm inadequate, There is something wrong with me, I'm defective, I'm needy ... Views: 20
Do you know that all needy behaviors have an underlying cause that can immediately and easily be discerned, unearthed and deleted from your life? Do you know that such behaviors are based in old negative memories from your past that are stored in your subconscious mind and which serve as ... Views: 19
Do you know that the main reasons individuals have trouble with relationship breakups is because they interpret such events as rejection, abandonment, being unlovable, unwanted, inadequate, worthless, unattractive, and as the harbinger of perpetual loneliness?
Do you know that all of these ... Views: 28
Do you know that even the most emotionally confident individuals harbor, somewhere deep down, a fear of rejection? Do you know this fear has a life of its own and often hijacks individuals into behaviors that appear needy, weak, desperate, manipulative, self destructive, self negating, self ... Views: 38
Ten Things You Should Know About Thinking
You are what you think. So doesn’t it make sense to learn how to choose carefully the thoughts you entertain.
Once you choose to monitor and select your thinking, your life will never be the same.
Why not start today?
Learn how to monitor and choose ... Views: 24
Do you know that neediness hijacks the mind and causes one to make choices based on feelings of insecurity, fears of being abandoned or rejected, jealousy, etc.? Do you know this not only makes one feel and appear unattractive it also leaves them feeling out of control and unable to discern ... Views: 40
Do you know that subconscious negative mind programming works behind the scenes of your awareness to limit you with such beliefs as: I'm inadequate, I'm deficient, I'm unlovable, I'm unworthy, I'm unattractive, I'm a loser, I'm useless, I'm unwanted, I'm weak and so on?
Do you know that few ... Views: 24
Do you know that the ability to reverse, even permanently stop, self sabotaging behaviors is rooted in the ability to go from self hatred to respecting and loving one's self? Do you know the main reason why anyone would hate and therefore choose to undermine themselves is because they have ... Views: 20
Do you know that the fundamental unconsciously buried feeling that drives self sabotage is self hatred? Do you know that self hatred was not something you were born with rather was programmed into you through early negative life experiences of abuse, failure, neglect, humiliation, abandonment, ... Views: 16
In today's day-to-day lifestyle, depression is a very familiar disorder. It affects every eighth man and every fourth woman (scary I know). Many of us are actually unaware of the symptoms of depression which include feelings of desperation, compulsive negative thinking, increased or decreased ... Views: 35
Emilia was a jazz pianist who wanted to break into the Bay Area performing scene. Her roadblock was performance anxiety.
A small technical mistake would get her wondering whether anyone in the band, or the audience, noticed the mistake. The resulting physical tension made it harder to ... Views: 25
Universal Law is immutable, which means that debris from this world age must be purified before a new world age cycle begins [renewal].
Rather than fear, each of us can choose to stay in our heart, trust the Spirit element that gives us breath, freewill, and primordial Power to clear inner ... Views: 36
I've spoken many times about the importance of all feelings, anger included. With every emotion we experience, we have the ability to learn much about ourselves. No feeling is inherently wrong. It's how we choose to express and use them that determines their value.
In The Secret Side of ... Views: 29
Paranormal phenomena like the near death experience and the out-of-body experience have brought to light the connectivity of all living beings and the feeling of oneness at their essence. Can we move towards that holistic awareness?
Among the many important messages from near death ... Views: 32
People often celebrate as many as three or four holidays during this time of the year. Unfortunately, each can be filled with stress wrapped in many shapes, sizes and packages that can far overshadow the potential for joy.
The biggest stressor for many is having too much to do in the limited ... Views: 38
Why does Co-dependence arise? Well because two or more individuals make an unconscious contract with each other to try to satisfy the unmet needs of the other. Initially, especially in the case of a couple, this contract is defined as "love". For instance, how many times have you heard yourself ... Views: 43
Perhaps you recall as a child feeling whole, alive, genuinely present, playful, happy, passionate, motivated, purposeful, joyful, and like your True Authentic Self but as you became an adult this experience of Self faded and dimmed to the point that you've wondered at times whether you're even ... Views: 27
Are you one of those individuals who "lives in the past"? Do you continually find yourself rehashing past events all the while wishing they could have been different, better, more satisfying or fulfilling? Do you continually use the past as a way of licking your wounds and as justification for ... Views: 19
If you were truly honest with yourself behind all of those things you do to distract yourself i.e. sex, work, drugs, recreational pursuits, relationships, and so on there is lurking a deep sense of emptiness within that many would characterize as part of the human condition. In fact it is this ... Views: 25
Poor Self Control feeds low Self Confidence and low Self Confidence also leads to poor Self Control. So where did this merry go round start and how does one get off? The answer will not only surprise you it will permanently begin to transform you.
Suppose you are attempting to walk a straight ... Views: 34
The criticisms of others can do you a great service! Yes, I said service not the disservice you’ve come to feel it is. How can the criticisms of others serve you? By destroying your ego. This sounds awful, doesn’t it? Of course, it does. Most of us have falsely identified with our egos. We ... Views: 29
When you suffer from performance anxiety, you know it by your immediate physical reactions and symptoms which include (but are not limited to) feeling sweaty and faint, fear of losing absolute control, trembling, hyperventilating, shaky voice, diarrhea, weakness in the knees, dry mouth, a desire ... Views: 28
Do you know that the only cause of low self esteem is old emotional baggage that remains stored in the subconscious mind weighing you down? Do you know that old negative memories at the core of this negative emotional programming leave you feeling bad about yourself, inadequate, weak, defective, ... Views: 33
Are you one of those people who still carry old emotional baggage that undermines your sense of adequacy in your relationships or career? Do you know that it is no longer necessary for you to remain at the mercy of this old outdated programming and that it can now be easily, effortlessly, ... Views: 22
What is the source of positive successful thoughts? Wrong, it is not your mind; rather it is your Heart. If you want to know why and how you can tap into this well spring of positive energy then this will interest you.
In spite of all of the hype given to the Law of Attraction and the use of ... Views: 23
Is it really possible to permanently conquer the Fear of Failure? Absolutely! This can be done is such a way that the entire concept and experience of that negative limiting fear will seem foreign and alien to you after the fact. Want to learn more?
In order to get a sneak preview of what ... Views: 30
Do you know that the fear of abandonment is a major impediment to ever having or sustaining a successful and healthy relationship? Do you know most people who find themselves unconsciously sabotaging their relationships harbor this fear deep within them? Do you know that this fear often arises ... Views: 28
Do you know that being a needy and dependent person can make one feel defective, deficient, weak, inadequate, worthless, insecure, vulnerable, anxious, depressed, jealous, unattractive, and can lead to negative controlling and manipulative behaviours that can make one repulsive to others thereby ... Views: 22
Do you know that many people harbor an addictive needy inner child inside that is responsible for feelings of loneliness, the inability to be alone, feelings of immaturity, feelings of low self worth and self esteem, poor self confidence, manipulative and controlling behaviour patterns, envy, ... Views: 39
1) Get Movin And Groovin!
Movement creates momentum, positive momentum. Do you like to go dancing and feel that nightclubs and bars are a thing of the past for you? Schedule dance time at home to your favorite songs rather then sitting in front of the tube! Take a walk in nature and observe ... Views: 42
Each time you affirm your true, authentic self, every cell in your body cheers “Yes!” When you negate yourself, it has negative biological consequences. To build self-esteem and affirm your true self, try this:
Take action to meet your needs.
Express who you really are.
Think good thoughts ... Views: 47
Are you haunted by that "I don't feel good enough feeling"? Has this feeling got you working hard at trying to improve yourself and indeed to "prove" to your self and others that you are adequate, OK, whole, complete, and good enough? Are you feeling tired of all of this and wishing that you ... Views: 32
Take a journey with me to the other side of the fear of rejection.
I'm sure you are aware of what this does to you and to your relationships. It leads to an inability to be truly honest with your partner, to be unable to be spontaneously your self, to have to hide behind a mask that will ... Views: 38
In a recent article I mention that the second most important factor that feeds the need to rescue others is fixed by early emotional trauma that gets re-evoked in the rescuer by their partner's self sabotaging behavior.
Let me elaborate on how this works so that it is clearly ... Views: 55
So here you are, in a new relationship and you unconsciously hold many expectations of your new partner that you hope will be met. How wise is it to have expectations at all? Some would say that expectations are their way of assessing whether the relationship is on track and right for them. That ... Views: 35