Over the last decade of working in the field of Psychotherapy and Coaching, I've met many clients who had a rather negative experience or no results at all (which is beyond frustrating) as they worked with some of my colleagues. The situation is not limited to specific countries or branches of ... Views: 3
Which statement rings truer for you?
1) Feeling good makes me happy.
2) Being happy makes me feel good.
At first glance, I felt the two were reciprocal, but after thinking it through, I discovered a missing link.
When I’m feeling good, happiness abounds… joy arises in everything I see ... Views: 11
Many years ago, I was in a significant relationship in which the other person started doing things that surprised and hurt me. I'll preserve the privacy here so I won't be concrete, but it was pretty intense. After going through the first wave of reactions - What?! How could you? Are you kidding ... Views: 2
Clinical Hypnotherapy is a powerful form of Psychotherapy combining cognitive therapeutic counselling with subconscious healing techniques. Hypnosis is commonly described as a natural treatment that uses guided relaxation, intense concentration, and focused attention to achieve a heightened ... Views: 1
Do you know the inner voice of self criticism is an unwelcome intruder that lives in the unconscious part of your mind and is constantly attempting to undermine your self confidence, self esteem, self worth, sense of personal adequacy, ability to succeed and create a fulfilling life? Do you know ... Views: 16
I find it interesting and puzzling that most individuals fail to recognize how not repairing traumatic memories of one's emotional past (which we all have plenty of by the way) can severely undermine all aspects of their life.
I say that because to ignore such emotionally traumatic material ... Views: 8
Do you continually undermine your own success financially, in your career, in your relationships, in the manner in which you make daily choices etc.? Have you ever wondered why you have been cursed with such an impediment? Did you know that don't have to be or feel like a slave to this pattern ... Views: 27
Do you know how self doubt creeps into your decisions and puts the brakes on your motivation and enthusiasm to take action? Do you know how much of your life gets wasted by this unnecessary negative emotion? Do you know however that self doubt can be easily, rapidly and permanently deactivated ... Views: 6
Have you ever felt so unhappy in a relationship but could not muster up the courage to discuss your feelings with your partner? So instead, in order to rectify things, although you may not have felt this was what you were actually doing at the time, you chose to use self sabotage as a way ... Views: 7
I have had a lot of trouble with the idea of criminalization of drug addiction for a very long time.
I am only one of a lot of folks who say “addiction is a real disease.” People feel every bit as sick as people with other diseases, sometimes more.
The patients are certainly able to die ... Views: 29
Summary: Not two sides to a coin—there's also an edge, and there's a third, not easily seen option to fighting the New World Order and dying versus selling out to it and the false worship (Rev 13:14-17). God who “declares the end from the beginning” (Isaiah 46:10) has provided a way to escape ... Views: 9
I'M ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN.
WHO WE ARE ON THE INSIDE, GOVERNS WHO WE ARE ON THE OUTSIDE.
Change is hard—especially internal change. Here is some insight on how to grow spiritually.
Have you noticed that it’s just plain hard to make changes in your life? Losing ... Views: 35
It may surprise you when I say that Worry is not a normal human emotion. Yes, it is a common experience but it is not normal. Here's why and also how you can become permanently Worry Free!
Worry is something many have been programmed to do as a way of compensating for those times when they ... Views: 13
Why do most relationships fail? Is it because of a fear of commitment, a fear of being honest, a fear of intimacy, the result of co-dependent neediness, etc.? Well would you be surprised that many of these are only the surface veneer to a much deeper problem that each individual presents with ... Views: 32
Do you know the main reasons individuals remain trapped in bad relationships is because they are: Afraid of being alone, Afraid they won't be able to take care of themselves and Afraid of being responsible for their own lives? Do you know that such fears leave them vulnerable to exploitation and ... Views: 14
Do you harbor the fear of failure? Do feel like it's time to let it go so that you can liberate yourself and take charge of your destiny? If so then you may wish to work through this short but powerful exercise that will take you a significant step forward to this goal.
Reflect on all of the ... Views: 7
When the behaviors of a Type A are out of control, we can take responsibility for situations and outcomes, for the feelings and experience or others, and for absolutely everything around us. We think everything is our responsibility, and thus, within our control to affect. We fear if we don’t ... Views: 15
Negative thinking takes a huge toll on our energy. It prevents us from enjoying every moment that life has to offer (good and bad) and from reaching our goals. We work a job that we really don’t care for instead of making our vocation a vacation (the act of enjoying what you do for a living). I ... Views: 11
When one is unable to let go, they’re going to end up using their energy to hold onto what they no longer need. And as they no longer need what they’re holding onto, it is not going to affect their ability to receive anything new.
What one is holding onto no longer has a purpose and it is ... Views: 18
Following the tragedy of Robin Williams’ death from suicide, I was struck to hear how many people were affected by his death. Clients, who I was seeing for depression, told me how they thought maybe suicide was a good idea and they seemed to be considering it more seriously since the comedian’s ... Views: 10
I recently read an article that described depression as "a psychological reaction to the violent deformities of the modern world." I found that statement deeply provocative and began to ponder it's meaning. "Anger turned inward" doesn't satisfy me anymore. I do not subscribe to the belief that ... Views: 11
A major problem impairing an executive's performance are his Emotional Blind Spots. Emotions, whether we like them or not, have a significant impact on one's decisions. An example is the Enron case where executives ran into severe ethical and legal consequences after falling prey to the ... Views: 25
The heartbreak of a breakup can leave painful scars on the Heart that often must be defended at all costs. Unfortunately this undermines one's courage to open themselves up again to a new potential lover in the same unbridled and authentic way. Sadly this leads to inauthentic or falsely ... Views: 8
Do you know that all relationship conflicts arise because of unconsciously held co-dependent patterns held by each partner? Do you know such patterns are rooted in early negative relationship experiences stored in the subconscious mind as negative memories or rejection, abuse, abandonment, ... Views: 13
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a 70-yr old man who has been married more than forty years. I read your article "Autonomy and Dependency" I feel like I've been in a codependency relationship the last fifteen years and havedeveloped anxiety & depression. My wife is a ... Views: 32
My wife and kids tease me that the title of this practice is corny - and it is. Still, I like it. If you don't nourish the things that nourish you, they wither away like a plant in dry stony ground.
I'm writing this on New Year's Eve. Looking to the year ahead for you - a year that can begin ... Views: 10
Our coming and following it presence and activities in society can be very much likened to a movie production.
Immediately after arrival in this organic world, we then (without being asked) get downloaded into one of the various social structures with their made up and continuously imposed ... Views: 41
Do you know that neediness hijacks the mind and causes one to make choices based on feelings of insecurity, fears of being abandoned or rejected, jealousy, etc.? Do you know this not only makes one feel and appear unattractive it also leaves them feeling out of control and unable to discern ... Views: 20
Do you know that feelings of jealousy are a) not a sign of how much you love someone b) make you a potentially controlling, needy, unattractive person and c) has the tendency to destroy your relationships?
Do you also know that these negative feelings were actually imprinted "into" you as a ... Views: 18
Do you know the main reason one continues to feel like a failure after having endured a negative event is that they harbor within the negative memory of that event? Do you know that memory serves as the incontrovertible evidence for the belief that they are a failure?
Finally do you know ... Views: 14
Do you know that all negative thoughts and feelings are generated by the sum total of all negative memories stored within your subconscious mind that behave like a waking nightmare? Do you know that unless you are able to completely and permanently erase or delete those memories (i.e. shut down ... Views: 18
The concept of a Type A personality has not been around for long. It was actually identified in the 1950s by two cardiologists, Drs. Meyer Friedman and Ray Rosenman, who were studying coronary heart disease. They found a link between personality types and heart disease. According to their ... Views: 14
FAILURES NOT AN OPTION:
NEVER GIVE UP!
So often we miss out on God’s best because we give up too soon.
As you all know, I'm going through a very difficult time in my life right now. Not a day goes by when I don't feel like throwing in the towel and just giving up. But when I sit still ... Views: 29
If I spend time thinking about the various issues specific to addicted clients I come up with a few central themes. Many people need to find a sense of purpose, some need to find a sober place to live, and others need to find a way to earn income or repair family relationships. However, what is ... Views: 39
Do you know that early experiences of abandonment behave like a curse worse than death when one is trying to establish a successful and healthy relationship in their adult life? Do you know that the negative memories of abandonment remain stored deep in the subconscious mind and from there ... Views: 19
Do you know that many people sabotage their relationships because of a fear of commitment, fear of intimacy, fear of being rejected or abandoned, feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness, and neediness just to name a few?
Do you know all this negativity is generated by old emotional baggage ... Views: 26
Do you know that most people only have a vague recollection of who they truly are? Do you know that this Authentic Self has become progressively buried under many layers of early life conditioning that is collectively referred to as old emotional baggage?
Do you know that this baggage ... Views: 31
The narcissist constructs a narrative of his life that is partly confabulated and whose purpose is to buttress, demonstrate, and prove the veracity of the fantastically grandiose and often impossible claims made by the False Self. This narrative allocates roles to significant others in the ... Views: 53
Attics and basements were a staple of most houses on the East Coast, where I was brought up. The attic was often stifling hot, cramped and suffocating. You would ascend a steep, narrow stairway, a storage box held precariously in hand, and deposit it in the nearest empty space, relieved to get ... Views: 32
It could be argued that stress management is a lot like time management. Everyone has the same amount of time in a day, but the individuals who are most productive tend to be those who are very careful about how they spend their time.
In terms of tackling stress, the same principle applies. ... Views: 23
Many of us are taught that self-praise is selfish and immodest. Some have even been taught that it was wrong. Or perhaps it was indirectly inferred that it was wrong. For example, we may as children have heard our mother, father or teacher say "look at her, she's so full of herself" or look at ... Views: 46
Are you one of those individuals who craves to have friends around you all or most of the time? If so have you ever wondered what motivates your craving? Have you ever wondered how discriminating you are when it comes to the types of people you choose to invite into your life and into your ... Views: 35
Regardless of how many tragedies occur in this country due to mental health issues, for many Americans there is still a stigma attached to those who suffer. Few are willing to openly address the issue. Tragedies such as Adam Lanza's mass murder of over twenty innocent elementary school children ... Views: 15
Surely there can never be personal growth without someone having a Memory. Perhaps one of the key physical ingredient to personal development is having a good memory. We use it in our daily lives but often we take it for granted. Imagine life without memory. You would not even remember your own ... Views: 19
"There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds." Laurell K Hamilton Mistral's Kiss
From the outside looking in, it is easy to say, but he had so much why couldn't he find the help he needed. From the inside looking out, a lot of the ... Views: 19
Start Doing This Immediately to Train Your Brain for Success!
What I’m about to share with you in this article cannot be ignored. It has literally made the difference in my clients’ ability to gain control over their lives in remarkable ways.
You may have heard of visualization or maybe ... Views: 39
We are all in a time of high stress, and
national disasters often bring up fear. If these fears are not
dealt with, they can lead to acting out behavior,
such as drinking too much or creating relationship, work or money
problems as a distraction. To avoid ... Views: 29
Do you got to?
Enjoy the freedom not to.
We're pulled and prodded by financial pressures, commuter traffic, corporate policies, technology, advertising, politics, and the people we work with and live with. As well, internal forces yank the proverbial chains, ... Views: 17
Do you know how much of your time and energy is wasted by the constant flow of negative thoughts through your conscious mind? Do you know those thoughts behave like "friction" in the mind slowing you down and making life feel difficult and effortful?
Do you know those thoughts undermine your ... Views: 21
Do you know negative thoughts consume huge amounts of mental energy thus seriously blocking the flow of your life? Do you know this means you are being robbed of your life by this seemingly uncontrollable negativity? Do you know this abnormal but also completely unnecessary?
Do you know most ... Views: 23