Negative thinking takes a huge toll on our energy. It prevents us from enjoying every moment that life has to offer (good and bad) and from reaching our goals. We work a job that we really don’t care for instead of making our vocation a vacation (the act of enjoying what you do for a living). I ... Views: 3
When one is unable to let go, they’re going to end up using their energy to hold onto what they no longer need. And as they no longer need what they’re holding onto, it is not going to affect their ability to receive anything new.
What one is holding onto no longer has a purpose and it is ... Views: 5
Following the tragedy of Robin Williams’ death from suicide, I was struck to hear how many people were affected by his death. Clients, who I was seeing for depression, told me how they thought maybe suicide was a good idea and they seemed to be considering it more seriously since the comedian’s ... Views: 5
I recently read an article that described depression as "a psychological reaction to the violent deformities of the modern world." I found that statement deeply provocative and began to ponder it's meaning. "Anger turned inward" doesn't satisfy me anymore. I do not subscribe to the belief that ... Views: 5
A major problem impairing an executive's performance are his Emotional Blind Spots. Emotions, whether we like them or not, have a significant impact on one's decisions. An example is the Enron case where executives ran into severe ethical and legal consequences after falling prey to the ... Views: 7
The heartbreak of a breakup can leave painful scars on the Heart that often must be defended at all costs. Unfortunately this undermines one's courage to open themselves up again to a new potential lover in the same unbridled and authentic way. Sadly this leads to inauthentic or falsely ... Views: 4
Do you know that all relationship conflicts arise because of unconsciously held co-dependent patterns held by each partner? Do you know such patterns are rooted in early negative relationship experiences stored in the subconscious mind as negative memories or rejection, abuse, abandonment, ... Views: 7
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a 70-yr old man who has been married more than forty years. I read your article "Autonomy and Dependency" I feel like I've been in a codependency relationship the last fifteen years and havedeveloped anxiety & depression. My wife is a ... Views: 22
My wife and kids tease me that the title of this practice is corny - and it is. Still, I like it. If you don't nourish the things that nourish you, they wither away like a plant in dry stony ground.
I'm writing this on New Year's Eve. Looking to the year ahead for you - a year that can begin ... Views: 6
Our coming and following it presence and activities in society can be very much likened to a movie production.
Immediately after arrival in this organic world, we then (without being asked) get downloaded into one of the various social structures with their made up and continuously imposed ... Views: 32
Do you know that neediness hijacks the mind and causes one to make choices based on feelings of insecurity, fears of being abandoned or rejected, jealousy, etc.? Do you know this not only makes one feel and appear unattractive it also leaves them feeling out of control and unable to discern ... Views: 15
Do you know that feelings of jealousy are a) not a sign of how much you love someone b) make you a potentially controlling, needy, unattractive person and c) has the tendency to destroy your relationships?
Do you also know that these negative feelings were actually imprinted "into" you as a ... Views: 14
Do you know the main reason one continues to feel like a failure after having endured a negative event is that they harbor within the negative memory of that event? Do you know that memory serves as the incontrovertible evidence for the belief that they are a failure?
Finally do you know ... Views: 9
Do you know that all negative thoughts and feelings are generated by the sum total of all negative memories stored within your subconscious mind that behave like a waking nightmare? Do you know that unless you are able to completely and permanently erase or delete those memories (i.e. shut down ... Views: 12
The concept of a Type A personality has not been around for long. It was actually identified in the 1950s by two cardiologists, Drs. Meyer Friedman and Ray Rosenman, who were studying coronary heart disease. They found a link between personality types and heart disease. According to their ... Views: 10
FAILURES NOT AN OPTION:
NEVER GIVE UP!
So often we miss out on God’s best because we give up too soon.
As you all know, I'm going through a very difficult time in my life right now. Not a day goes by when I don't feel like throwing in the towel and just giving up. But when I sit still ... Views: 21
If I spend time thinking about the various issues specific to addicted clients I come up with a few central themes. Many people need to find a sense of purpose, some need to find a sober place to live, and others need to find a way to earn income or repair family relationships. However, what is ... Views: 31
Do you know that early experiences of abandonment behave like a curse worse than death when one is trying to establish a successful and healthy relationship in their adult life? Do you know that the negative memories of abandonment remain stored deep in the subconscious mind and from there ... Views: 13
Do you know that many people sabotage their relationships because of a fear of commitment, fear of intimacy, fear of being rejected or abandoned, feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness, and neediness just to name a few?
Do you know all this negativity is generated by old emotional baggage ... Views: 22
Do you know that most people only have a vague recollection of who they truly are? Do you know that this Authentic Self has become progressively buried under many layers of early life conditioning that is collectively referred to as old emotional baggage?
Do you know that this baggage ... Views: 21
The narcissist constructs a narrative of his life that is partly confabulated and whose purpose is to buttress, demonstrate, and prove the veracity of the fantastically grandiose and often impossible claims made by the False Self. This narrative allocates roles to significant others in the ... Views: 41
Attics and basements were a staple of most houses on the East Coast, where I was brought up. The attic was often stifling hot, cramped and suffocating. You would ascend a steep, narrow stairway, a storage box held precariously in hand, and deposit it in the nearest empty space, relieved to get ... Views: 27
It could be argued that stress management is a lot like time management. Everyone has the same amount of time in a day, but the individuals who are most productive tend to be those who are very careful about how they spend their time.
In terms of tackling stress, the same principle applies. ... Views: 17
Many of us are taught that self-praise is selfish and immodest. Some have even been taught that it was wrong. Or perhaps it was indirectly inferred that it was wrong. For example, we may as children have heard our mother, father or teacher say "look at her, she's so full of herself" or look at ... Views: 40
Are you one of those individuals who craves to have friends around you all or most of the time? If so have you ever wondered what motivates your craving? Have you ever wondered how discriminating you are when it comes to the types of people you choose to invite into your life and into your ... Views: 28
Regardless of how many tragedies occur in this country due to mental health issues, for many Americans there is still a stigma attached to those who suffer. Few are willing to openly address the issue. Tragedies such as Adam Lanza's mass murder of over twenty innocent elementary school children ... Views: 12
Surely there can never be personal growth without someone having a Memory. Perhaps one of the key physical ingredient to personal development is having a good memory. We use it in our daily lives but often we take it for granted. Imagine life without memory. You would not even remember your own ... Views: 16
"There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds." Laurell K Hamilton Mistral's Kiss
From the outside looking in, it is easy to say, but he had so much why couldn't he find the help he needed. From the inside looking out, a lot of the ... Views: 16
Start Doing This Immediately to Train Your Brain for Success!
What I’m about to share with you in this article cannot be ignored. It has literally made the difference in my clients’ ability to gain control over their lives in remarkable ways.
You may have heard of visualization or maybe ... Views: 32
We are all in a time of high stress, and
national disasters often bring up fear. If these fears are not
dealt with, they can lead to acting out behavior,
such as drinking too much or creating relationship, work or money
problems as a distraction. To avoid ... Views: 27
Do you got to?
Enjoy the freedom not to.
We're pulled and prodded by financial pressures, commuter traffic, corporate policies, technology, advertising, politics, and the people we work with and live with. As well, internal forces yank the proverbial chains, ... Views: 14
Do you know how much of your time and energy is wasted by the constant flow of negative thoughts through your conscious mind? Do you know those thoughts behave like "friction" in the mind slowing you down and making life feel difficult and effortful?
Do you know those thoughts undermine your ... Views: 17
Do you know negative thoughts consume huge amounts of mental energy thus seriously blocking the flow of your life? Do you know this means you are being robbed of your life by this seemingly uncontrollable negativity? Do you know this abnormal but also completely unnecessary?
Do you know most ... Views: 19
We live in a culture where expressing grief is not honored in meaningful ways. We live in a society that’s awkward around the subject of death & dying, as well as grief. We have “bereavement leaves” in the workplace that last for three or four days. We use words like you need to “get over it,” ... Views: 16
Do you know that the fear of abandonment is a key factor in the demise of many relationships? Do you know that it can make individuals insecure, jealous, controlling, manipulative, needy, smothering, and that all of these inevitably cause the very thing they fear, abandonment? Do you know that ... Views: 31
Have you ever had the experience where you find yourself losing your identity or the sense of yourself once you get into a relationship? If you're not sure what I'm talking about here let me elaborate.
You start out having perspectives, preferences, opinions, desires and attitudes that you ... Views: 18
Self worth is the ability to respect, honor, value and appreciate yourself. Unfortunately there is an epidemic of low self worth here on the planet. Why is that and what can be done to achieve what many believe to be impossible; Supreme Self Worth?
The main reason why most, yes most, ... Views: 38
Recovering from any addiction does not happen overnight. It could take years to get back to your old self. The withdrawal symptoms are difficult to deal with, too. With the right mindset and dedication to overcome, you will kick the nasty habit. Find 6 ways to muster enough courage to overcome ... Views: 14
Secure America Now sponsors an ad that recreates the “Daisy Girl.” It suggests Obama’s refusal to stand up to the Islamist Iran is risking disaster for America. Muslim jihadists in America are probable.
Described as “a nonpartisan organization dedicated to bringing critical security issues to ... Views: 17
SOME PEOPLE AS THEY GET OLDER or busier have difficulty remembering names, among other things. Age is not always the reason. Our brains continue to restore and generate new neurons. Actually, you probably know young people who have problems remembering names, words, events. When we are young we ... Views: 66
Summary: Prescription drugs have had a “free pass” for too long. It's time to revisit the science of pharmacology, evolved from toxicology—the science of how much chemical killed half the animals.
A close friend of Williams said Robin was taking a drug for Parkinsons that listed suicide as a ... Views: 19
Depression and anxiety are, by far, the most common mental health problems. Nearly 20 percent of the US population struggles with or will struggle with one or both of these problems.
The most common treatment today for these issues is medication—typically prescribed by the primary care ... Views: 24
The suicide of Robin Williams has shaken—and awakened us up. News of his death has made many of us think:
If someone with family, fame, and fortune could do that, could that happen to someone like me who doesn’t have all those things?
I’ve been feeling really down lately, and ... Views: 18
The trouble with passive-aggression is that both the giver and the receiver often have no idea what’s really going on. In other words, the person who’s passive-aggressive (P-A) may know he hates conflict, may know he’s feeling a little angry and may know he’s covering it up. But he doesn’t ... Views: 27
At best, their behavior is dishonest. At worst, it’s abusive. But you may not have even noticed it. That’s because a passive-aggressive person can be so subtle you may not realize their supposed joke was really a hostile remark. Or their procrastination at getting something you need done is ... Views: 17
What is emotional resilience? Well pure and simple it is about one's ability to steer clear of taking a situation personally.
What does it mean then to take something personally? Well it relates to old buried emotions being triggered by whatever is happening in the present. When triggered ... Views: 22
Several years ago, I had a client whose nine-year old son had anger issues. His doctor diagnosed him with ADD and suggested medication to quell his angry outbursts. "What do you think?" the mother inquired of me. Not an advocate of prescription medications (with the exception of the most extreme ... Views: 23
Do you know that self sabotage is controlled by subconscious negative thoughts such as: I am unworthy, inadequate, undeserving, a loser, a failure, deficient, defective, incompetent, unlovable, bad and so on? Do you know such thoughts subtly derail any conscious efforts to achieve success and ... Views: 31
Do you know that all needy behaviors have an underlying cause that can immediately and easily be discerned, unearthed and deleted from your life? Do you know that such behaviors are based in old negative memories from your past that are stored in your subconscious mind and which serve as ... Views: 31
Do you know that the most significant roadblock to being a confident public speaker is emotional in nature? Do you know that even the most successful public speakers can become immensely more successful if they could somehow permanently address their fears of rejection, inadequacy, sounding ... Views: 29