Why is it that some bad memories just continue to resurface in one's mind and life often intruding on one's thoughts and negatively affecting one's functional state?
Memories of bad events are over time stored in the subconscious mind i.e. they are made unconscious by a mechanism in the ... Views: 18
This past weekend, while we were away for the 4th of July holiday, I had a profound realization of how addicted I've become to my iPhone. While I love many aspects of how technology enhances our lives and allows us to connect with one another in some very cool ways, I'm also aware of the ... Views: 28
Do you know that needy behavior is a huge turn off? Do you know most needy people keep getting rejected simply because they don't know they are needy? So what constitutes needy behavior and what can one do about it? Find out here!
1. Have a fear of being alone.
2. Need others to ... Views: 51
Do you know that most people pick the same "kind" of unhealthy partner over and over and never realize it until their life is spent and they are too old? Do you know this unhealthy dating pattern is rooted in early childhood relationships you had with important caretakers (usually parents) often ... Views: 50
Does it ever feel like your best made plans are regularly undermined by a hidden force within you that is constantly one step ahead of you? Do you feel like you have been cursed by God? Do you know that this force actually does exist but has nothing to do with God? Do you know that you can ... Views: 51
Do you know that most people walk around with a chorus of negative voices sounding off in the back of their minds causing a great deal of confusion, distraction, loss of resolve, self doubt, lack of focus and concentration, indecisiveness, loss of energy and enthusiasm, reduced confidence and ... Views: 37
Do you know most people confronted with the reality of being able to completely erase negative memories from their subconscious mind and permanently enhance their lives become immediately skeptical about this? Do you know sadly this keeps many individuals unnecessarily imprisoned in negative ... Views: 46
None of us goes through life without any grief or loss. And it can stop us in our tracks when it does happen. And death is a part of the Circle of Life, so why is it so hard?
For me, even though my husband had been so very sick for so many years, it still comes almost as a shock. While he was ... Views: 27
Last week was amazing. I spent 4 mesmerizing days in Amsterdam. Yes, I am talking about the beauty of the city with its history and architecture, with timeless canals and cobbled ‘straats’, with wild trams that stop for no one and even wilder bikers who own the roads and the sidewalks.
But I ... Views: 19
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” – Mark Twain
What was the last thing that made you angry? The bad driver cutting you off? Your kids not picking up their toys? You were passed over for a promotion?
How long ... Views: 36
Do you know that low self esteem and self sabotage are two sides of the same coin? Do you know that both are rooted in subconsciously stored beliefs generated by negative memories of your past that undermine your self worth, and make you feel like an undeserving individual who needs to suffer in ... Views: 43
In an article published in this e-zine I outline a free, simple, straightforward, self administered questionnaire that one can use to quantify the level of their "emotional maturity" in minutes. Emotional maturity (To take the test Google "Emotional Maturity Quotient")is, in my view, a key ... Views: 37
Do you know that most people walk around in a self sabotaging trance? Do you know most don't realize they are asleep and their minds have been hijacked? Do you know reading this will help you to momentarily wake up, notice your state of enslavement and motivate you to take back your mind and ... Views: 85
Do you know that you have to work extra hard in life if you are carrying old emotional baggage that literally weighs you down, leads to poor choices, self sabotaging behaviors, low self confidence, low self worth, and so on? Do you know this means that you are effectively handicapped compared to ... Views: 62
Have you ever been told that you were passive aggressive? This is not the most endearing of titles to be given by anyone. Why is that?
Well because it implies a number of things:
1. That you have trouble being open and honest about your feelings.
2. That you grudgingly accept something ... Views: 37
Mental problems are difficult to diagnose and treat. However, there are some steps that you can take to help a family member manage such conditions.
A person suffering from any form of mental condition should see a certified psychiatrist to receive a proper diagnosis. ... Views: 19
"Your crown has been bought and paid for--all you need to do is put it on your head."
When big-hearted, abundance-loving Jupiter transitions into noble Leo on July 16th, it kicks off a year-long theme of claiming our Divine uniqueness and letting it shine.
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In my youth and throughout most of my early adult years I suffered from paralyzing shyness.
Early in my life I was so anxious about meeting and speaking with people that I would find myself making every excuse possible to avoid social engagements.
I suffered especially during my medical ... Views: 33
I admit it: whether close to home or far away, I wish some people were different. Depending on who they are, I wish they'd stop doing things like leaving cabinet doors open in our kitchen, sending me spam emails, or turning a blind eye to global warming. And I wish they'd start doing things like ... Views: 27
Isn't that what women expect and desire from a confident man? Of course most women expect that their man will have the maturity and the courage to be openly emotional when the moment calls for it. Yet many men find themselves severely handicapped in this department, often without really knowing ... Views: 36
In several other articles I have pointed out that because of men's socialization patterns many are not only unable to express their emotions they are more seriously also unable to "feel" them.
So how can one express what one doesn't feel? Well simply, you can't!
So how does one kick start ... Views: 31
Each day you wake up if you could decide how you wanted to feel what would that be?
Well after some thought I'm sure that you would come up with some or all of the following: at peace, calm, happy, contented, joyful, free, relaxed, healthy, light, care free, playful, grounded, present, ... Views: 48
What does "emotional baggage" consist of? Well it is the sum total of all of the negative memories of all of the experiences that you have had in your life to date or what many call their "Life History". All of these experiences are "stored" at some level in your mind/body. How are they ... Views: 51
Everyone loves a good laugh, especially those who are going through tough times. Laughter gives a momentary break from the crisis at hand and the anxiety it brings. A touch of humor reminds us that the patient and the family are not defined by the illness, and that those who are sad and grieving ... Views: 51
What do we need to do to see ourselves in an entirely new way?! How about deciding what we would like to accomplish; then, pursuing our goal until it is positively achieved. Truly these are appropriate steps in any successful goals process. Regardless if the goal includes issues related to ... Views: 115
Why is this article in the sections of Depression & Gratitude? Because if you believe that you came from a monkey, you might be depressed. Seeing support for the biblical account that we were made in God's image (and have a higher destiny than apes) brings gratitude to the Creator. This also ... Views: 33
With the Fourth of July festivities approaching, many animal owners are very concerned for their companions, especially dogs who can be terrified of the loud noises of fireworks and thunderstorms.
Commonly seen signs of noise phobias include:
• Shaking, trembling
• Excessive ... Views: 39
Do you know that a relationship breakup can damage one's self esteem to the point that it can take 3 to 5 years, or more, before the individual regains enough courage to re-enter the dating scene? Do you know this is unnecessary time wasted? Do you know that it is possible to completely erase ... Views: 34
Do you know that your relationship conflicts are determined not by external inter-relational factors but by deeply buried internal "emotional landmines" that control you and cause you to be "out of control" whenever something happens in your relationship that triggers them and leaves you ... Views: 42
Have you ever wondered where self doubt comes from? Well it arises when one chooses to turn against their own inner wisdom and truth out of a need to please others, to feel wanted, feel loved, be validated, feel included, be respected, feel accepted, to be taken care of by important others, to ... Views: 55
Do you know that self sabotage happens when one is triggered into an auto pilot trance state like in which they actually lose awareness and control over what they are doing? Do you know this is much like texting while you are driving and then wind up getting into an accident? Do you know those ... Views: 66
Do you know that most people, without realizing it automatically operate from a series of subconsciously driven programs that cause them by default to feel and behave like dependent, small, helpless and needy children? Do you know this makes them unattractive, unsuccessful in relationships, feel ... Views: 43
Do you know the possibility of being permanently free of any/all limiting beliefs is now at hand? Do you know it requires that you commit yourself to being personally honest with yourself about what is "you" and what is foreign (mental propaganda) programming that has been downloaded into you? ... Views: 67
Clinical Hypnotherapy is a powerful form of Psychotherapy combining cognitive therapeutic counselling with subconscious healing techniques. Hypnosis is commonly described as a natural treatment that uses guided relaxation, intense concentration, and focused attention to achieve a heightened ... Views: 76
With summer here, it’s time to relax. To let yourself daydream. To take time off from your usual frantic schedule. To free yourself from the rigors of daily life and quiet your mind. Lack of structure used to be a feature of summer vacation, but we seem to be increasingly programmed. Maybe it’s ... Views: 33
There is ritual sexual abuse and there is ritualized sexual abuse. The terms are sometimes interchanged, but for the purpose of this article I am delineating between the two as Ritual Sexual Abuse being cult or cult-like abuse in which “the abuse has a spiritual or social goal” (David Finkelhor, ... Views: 32
Zen is a form of meditation with focusing on the mindful awareness of the present moment. The phrase “being Zen” or “having a Zen attitude” has come to mean viewing life calmly with self-control. Zen is the harmonious state of the mind, body, and soul. It can help you relax, have a positive ... Views: 45
As I sit in the park watching my grandson play tag with other kids on the playscape, the noise from all the children is deafening, yet I can pick out my grandson’s voice amidst the din. It makes me wonder how we are able to tune things out that are not important to us at the time, and yet when ... Views: 54
They all complained about the daily gossip that ran rampant among them. Every one participated in it yet ironically no one could understand why they would be targeted. In the fifteen years I worked at the battered women's shelter, both staff and residents criticize those who engaged in rumors ... Views: 35
Life has a way of wearing on you. Sometimes things go your way and sometimes they don’t. Regardless if life has knocked you down, or someone has, it is up to you to get back up! One million bad things could have happened to you, but it is up to you to stand back up. When you do get back ... Views: 58
As general categories that each include a number of specific methods, my Top 5 practices (all tied for first place) are:
* Be mindful
* Take in the good
* Go green
* Open out
So far, I've written about the first four of these, and you can click the links just above for some ... Views: 25
Do you feel inhibited or afraid to be your true inner Self in all areas of your life? Do you feel like you betray your Self, your inner truth and integrity on a regular basis? Does this make you feel inadequate, ashamed, and bad about and towards your Self? Would you like to develop the courage ... Views: 51
Do you know that most people only have a vague recollection of who they truly are? Do you know that this Authentic Self has become progressively buried under many layers of early life conditioning that is collectively referred to as old emotional baggage?
Do you know that this baggage ... Views: 42
Do you know that low self esteem and self worth are significant impediments to creating and sustaining healthy, fulfilling and long lasting relationships? Do you know that when one feels deficient in these qualities it is not because there is anything wrong with them but largely because they ... Views: 54
Do you know that many people are not fully mature enough to have healthy relationships? Do you know this immaturity manifests as a fear of being alone, fear of abandonment, feelings of jealousy and insecurity, controlling and manipulative behaviors, fears of commitment and intimacy, self ... Views: 61
Do you know that all self sabotage in relationships arises from an internal hijacker that many refer to as their "inner child"? Do you know this hijacker a) is not you rather poses as an imposter that tries to unconsciously convince you that it is part of you so that it can continue to reside ... Views: 47
I have had numerous individuals come to me for help after being frustrated by years of endless psychotherapy that left them poorer but not better. Is it just that they had bad psychotherapy or is there a deeper issue here?
I can speak personally about this matter because during my own ... Views: 35
Many therapists and coaches who are attempting to help individuals overcome their shyness have taken the view that:
1. It is not possible to fully over come it,
2. That is has something to do with having inadequate social skills and,
3. That social skills classes help you become more ... Views: 67
Do you know that co-dependent needy behavior can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviors, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self ... Views: 52
Do you know that many people walk around in life feeling and being weighed down by old emotional baggage in the form of negative memories from their past? Do you know that this "weight" is real, drains one's Life Force Energy, their confidence, self worth, self esteem, optimism, hope, strength, ... Views: 40