Most people have heard the phrase "random acts of kindness", which refers to a selfless act of giving resulting in the happiness of another person. Terms like this are increasing in popularity around the world, as more people identify a deficiency in their lives that can only be fulfilled by ... Views: 65
We're all carrying a load, including tasks, challenges, worries, inner criticism, mistreatment from others, physical and emotional pain, loss and illness now or later, and everyday stresses and frustrations.
Take a moment to get a sense of your own load. It's very real, isn't it? Recognizing ... Views: 42
Summary: Many see trouble coming from government spending and then printing money non-stop. And the gov is preparing for the trouble by buying billions of bullets and armored vehicles. The Bible has warnings for what we see. Before Christ saves us in the sky, heeding His words could save us in ... Views: 75
But if I know that eating less and exercising more will result in weight loss, why don’t I just do it? What’s getting in my way? Or, if I do succeed in losing a little weight with a diet, why do I usually regain the weight I lost? Why can’t I hold onto healthier habits as a ... Views: 99
The shame, guilt and misunderstanding of eating disorders makes it hard for anyone to come forward to get help, but it is so much harder for a public figure to do so. Celebrities may put their fame, career and acting opportunities on the line and open themselves to, ridicule and criticism if ... Views: 49
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One of the most common challenges I have heard my clients express is their difficulty to deal with or accept changes. Whether it is a change at work, at home, in their relationships, in their body, in their income or lifestyle; they all find it ... Views: 93
There are lots of ideas floating about on how to improve your brain health and to train your train to be smarter. What may surprise many people is that some of these have been tried, tested and proven. This article is about separating out the wheat from the chaff. These tips will help kids and ... Views: 72
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It’s funny how sometimes life sneaks up on you and catches you by surprise. I had some occasion of inspiration recently to examine the way I have been thinking, the way I have been living and the general direction of my life. It was not something I planned on doing, it just ... Views: 79
" Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." Steve Jobs
Someone recently asked me the definition of Codependency, so let's take a look at what we can see to help uncover this complicated phenomenon. The visual I have is someone who is suppose to be driving his own ... Views: 100
Somewhere, right now, multitudes of women are attending seminars urging them to think differently about themselves, live their best lives, believe in themselves and grow. And no matter how wonderfully uplifting these seminars may be, they are outmatched, out-ranked and out-gunned by the ... Views: 73
"I'm a victim of domestic violence." That's one phrase you'll never hear emanating from my mouth. Even though I spent three years engaged to marry someone who verbally and physically abused me, I never once entertained the thought of myself as a victim. Perhaps it's because I define a victim as ... Views: 82
Relieving yourself from stress at work (or any stress, for that matter) might be much more important than you think. We often tend to overlook this issue and accept it as an inevitable fact. Of course work is stressful, but does it really have to affect you that much? Is there an easy way to ... Views: 69
An Introduction by the Pastoral Medical Association (PMA)
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The Pastoral Medical Association (PMA) extends much thanks to SelfGrowth for recognizing the PMA’s contribution to alternative medicine, and for ... Views: 72
Lately I've been writing about the fifth of my personal Top 5 practices (all tied for first place): open out, by which I mean relaxing into a growing sense of connection, even oneness, with all things. (The other four are be mindful, love, take in the good, and go green.)
"Opening out" can ... Views: 48
When we live with someone we have to share many things from food to bed. In couples, usually arguments arise due to having a contradictory point of view about one object. Do you want to know what is the real truth about your partner with respect to love, sex and intimacy? Are you aware of your ... Views: 87
This past weekend, while we were away for the 4th of July holiday, I had a profound realization of how addicted I've become to my iPhone. While I love many aspects of how technology enhances our lives and allows us to connect with one another in some very cool ways, I'm also aware of the ... Views: 87
None of us goes through life without any grief or loss. And it can stop us in our tracks when it does happen. And death is a part of the Circle of Life, so why is it so hard?
For me, even though my husband had been so very sick for so many years, it still comes almost as a shock. While he was ... Views: 62
Last week was amazing. I spent 4 mesmerizing days in Amsterdam. Yes, I am talking about the beauty of the city with its history and architecture, with timeless canals and cobbled ‘straats’, with wild trams that stop for no one and even wilder bikers who own the roads and the sidewalks.
But I ... Views: 58
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” – Mark Twain
What was the last thing that made you angry? The bad driver cutting you off? Your kids not picking up their toys? You were passed over for a promotion?
How long ... Views: 81
Mental problems are difficult to diagnose and treat. However, there are some steps that you can take to help a family member manage such conditions.
A person suffering from any form of mental condition should see a certified psychiatrist to receive a proper diagnosis. ... Views: 55
"Your crown has been bought and paid for--all you need to do is put it on your head."
When big-hearted, abundance-loving Jupiter transitions into noble Leo on July 16th, it kicks off a year-long theme of claiming our Divine uniqueness and letting it shine.
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I admit it: whether close to home or far away, I wish some people were different. Depending on who they are, I wish they'd stop doing things like leaving cabinet doors open in our kitchen, sending me spam emails, or turning a blind eye to global warming. And I wish they'd start doing things like ... Views: 58
Everyone loves a good laugh, especially those who are going through tough times. Laughter gives a momentary break from the crisis at hand and the anxiety it brings. A touch of humor reminds us that the patient and the family are not defined by the illness, and that those who are sad and grieving ... Views: 150
What do we need to do to see ourselves in an entirely new way?! How about deciding what we would like to accomplish; then, pursuing our goal until it is positively achieved. Truly these are appropriate steps in any successful goals process. Regardless if the goal includes issues related to ... Views: 212
Why is this article in the sections of Depression & Gratitude? Because if you believe that you came from a monkey, you might be depressed. Seeing support for the biblical account that we were made in God's image (and have a higher destiny than apes) brings gratitude to the Creator. This also ... Views: 78
With the Fourth of July festivities approaching, many animal owners are very concerned for their companions, especially dogs who can be terrified of the loud noises of fireworks and thunderstorms.
Commonly seen signs of noise phobias include:
• Shaking, trembling
• Excessive ... Views: 89
Have you ever wondered where self doubt comes from? Well it arises when one chooses to turn against their own inner wisdom and truth out of a need to please others, to feel wanted, feel loved, be validated, feel included, be respected, feel accepted, to be taken care of by important others, to ... Views: 109
With summer here, it’s time to relax. To let yourself daydream. To take time off from your usual frantic schedule. To free yourself from the rigors of daily life and quiet your mind. Lack of structure used to be a feature of summer vacation, but we seem to be increasingly programmed. Maybe it’s ... Views: 70
There is ritual sexual abuse and there is ritualized sexual abuse. The terms are sometimes interchanged, but for the purpose of this article I am delineating between the two as Ritual Sexual Abuse being cult or cult-like abuse in which “the abuse has a spiritual or social goal” (David Finkelhor, ... Views: 74
Zen is a form of meditation with focusing on the mindful awareness of the present moment. The phrase “being Zen” or “having a Zen attitude” has come to mean viewing life calmly with self-control. Zen is the harmonious state of the mind, body, and soul. It can help you relax, have a positive ... Views: 97
As I sit in the park watching my grandson play tag with other kids on the playscape, the noise from all the children is deafening, yet I can pick out my grandson’s voice amidst the din. It makes me wonder how we are able to tune things out that are not important to us at the time, and yet when ... Views: 115
They all complained about the daily gossip that ran rampant among them. Every one participated in it yet ironically no one could understand why they would be targeted. In the fifteen years I worked at the battered women's shelter, both staff and residents criticize those who engaged in rumors ... Views: 81
Life has a way of wearing on you. Sometimes things go your way and sometimes they don’t. Regardless if life has knocked you down, or someone has, it is up to you to get back up! One million bad things could have happened to you, but it is up to you to stand back up. When you do get back ... Views: 108
As general categories that each include a number of specific methods, my Top 5 practices (all tied for first place) are:
* Be mindful
* Take in the good
* Go green
* Open out
So far, I've written about the first four of these, and you can click the links just above for some ... Views: 52
Do you know that most people only have a vague recollection of who they truly are? Do you know that this Authentic Self has become progressively buried under many layers of early life conditioning that is collectively referred to as old emotional baggage?
Do you know that this baggage ... Views: 87
Do you know that low self esteem and self worth are significant impediments to creating and sustaining healthy, fulfilling and long lasting relationships? Do you know that when one feels deficient in these qualities it is not because there is anything wrong with them but largely because they ... Views: 105
We have just until July 16th, 2014 to remember all the lessons and reasons for gratitude we've received from the passage of Jupiter in the sign of his exaltation, Cancer.
"What is the body? That shadow of a shadow of your love, that somehow contains the entire universe." ... Views: 197
I abhor rumors and gossip. They're petty, destructive, and hateful. Yet, truth-be-told, I have engaged in gossip from time-to-time. I'm not proud of it, just honest. I could try to justify it by saying that I've only done so out of concern for others. Sometimes the sharing of information about ... Views: 87
When Christians announce the time of God's judgment, perhaps it should be with Good News of how to avoid the judgment that is coming. While “anything can happen” and it seems like “anytime,” in Bible times, God said, “I will execute judgment” in the context of Passover, Exod 12:12.
That's ... Views: 116
"I have a large seashell collection which I keep scattered on beaches all over the world." Steven Wright
Jupiter, the planet of expansion and growth, brings us the most positive energy in the Universe in different areas of ourselves and life over a twelve-year cycle as he ... Views: 270
"Peace" can sound merely sentimental or clichéd ("visualize whirled peas"). But deep down, it's what most of us long for. Consider the proverb: The highest happiness is peace.
Not a peace inside that ignores pain in oneself or others, or is acquired by shutting down. This is a durable peace, ... Views: 69
The happiest people I have seen on this planet so far are the newly arrived children. The saddest and most unhappy ones I have seen so far are the departing adults. The difference between the two is that the first ones have not yet accepted everything they are not, and are in tune with ... Views: 132
This week I've been working with how much courage it takes, for those who are people-pleasers , to be authentic. It's a fact that you can't set a boundary to take care of yourself, and take care of the other person's feelings at the same time. For many, the prohibition against hurting someone ... Views: 128
When I was much younger and more naive, I used to buy into the New Age belief that we create our personal reality 100% of the time based on our thoughts. But, I've come to realize that this is only a partial truth. And, while our beliefs certainly do influence and affect our experience of ... Views: 139
Various “triggers” can put people at risk of relapsing into old patterns of addiction. A trigger can be as simple as people, places, or feelings that initiate a desire, or craving or reminder of past addictive behaviors. Causes of relapse can differ for each person. Pay attention ... Views: 136
Over five weeks ago I was approached by one of my patients on the unit who let me know that he hated his life. He talked about the various experiences he had and he was concerned that a short stay in rehab wouldn’t offer him the opportunity to find any kind of comfort or relief. I suggested that ... Views: 123
I remember a supervisor from the past whom I never thought had the right personality to be a psychiatrist. I mean, he was a little angry and domineering for my taste. But heck — I gave him a “bye” since he worked in a prison context.
I was never attacked by a prison patient through my ... Views: 83
When you work with and support others, do you experience: Feeling drained? Do you desire them to "get better"? Do you take on one more client because there is no one else? Are you attached to them making progress?
When I first heard the expression Divinely Selfish- I experienced a lot of ... Views: 127
It is good to explore the difference between exerting effort and applying oneself to something. The clarity that comes from that understanding can help us lead a peaceful life. One can then move on to sensing the deeper aspects of living on this planet.
We often feel elevated when we see a ... Views: 147
You visit your sick co-worker in the hospital or at home and he looks terrible. He's not sounding like himself and he's sharing way too much personal information. Then, you happen to see a pamphlet on the nightstand about a scary illness that you were not aware that he has. To top it off, some ... Views: 102