Many therapists and coaches who are attempting to help individuals overcome their shyness have taken the view that:
1. It is not possible to fully over come it,
2. That is has something to do with having inadequate social skills and,
3. That social skills classes help you become more ... Views: 69
Do you know that co-dependent needy behavior can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviors, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self ... Views: 54
Do you know that many people walk around in life feeling and being weighed down by old emotional baggage in the form of negative memories from their past? Do you know that this "weight" is real, drains one's Life Force Energy, their confidence, self worth, self esteem, optimism, hope, strength, ... Views: 41
Do you know that the majority of individuals exist within an invisible bubble of limiting negative beliefs that severely constrict them and shut down their full creative potential to live a full and fulfilling life?
Do you know that's what is responsible for such things as low self esteem, ... Views: 62
Do you know that the main reason individuals harbor feelings of self loathing or self hate is because they have been programmed to believe they are inadequate, worthless, responsible for the pain of others around them, stupid, unlovable, weak, useless, a burden to others and so on? Do you know ... Views: 62
Do you ever feel like life is against you? Do you walk around feeling angry most of the time? Do you spend a lot of your time feeling envious of others? Do you feel cheated or that life has been unfair to you? Well if you answered yes to any of the above then you will likely agree that you feel ... Views: 49
Have you ever noticed that negative undesirable self sabotaging behaviors tend to occur often outside of your direct control in an automatic pre-programmed manner? If you are supposedly in control of your mind, your behaviors and your life this would seem to make no sense at all. The fact ... Views: 70
Are you one of those individuals who recalls feeling like their "True Self" as a child but found that during the process of becoming an adult you lost your "self" and got buried by a web of beliefs that have enslaved and deadened you ever since? Have you been trying to recover your True Self ... Views: 73
Do you follow the crowd and lose your true self or do you strike out on your own and live a rich creative and fulfilling life that you are passionate about? Do you regularly make new and adventurous heartfelt choices that enrich you, help you to express your true authentic self or do you simply ... Views: 59
We have just until July 16th, 2014 to remember all the lessons and reasons for gratitude we've received from the passage of Jupiter in the sign of his exaltation, Cancer.
"What is the body? That shadow of a shadow of your love, that somehow contains the entire universe." ... Views: 101
I abhor rumors and gossip. They're petty, destructive, and hateful. Yet, truth-be-told, I have engaged in gossip from time-to-time. I'm not proud of it, just honest. I could try to justify it by saying that I've only done so out of concern for others. Sometimes the sharing of information about ... Views: 44
When Christians announce the time of God's judgment, perhaps it should be with Good News of how to avoid the judgment that is coming. While “anything can happen” and it seems like “anytime,” in Bible times, God said, “I will execute judgment” in the context of Passover, Exod 12:12.
That's ... Views: 57
"I have a large seashell collection which I keep scattered on beaches all over the world." Steven Wright
Jupiter, the planet of expansion and growth, brings us the most positive energy in the Universe in different areas of ourselves and life over a twelve-year cycle as he ... Views: 150
"Peace" can sound merely sentimental or clichéd ("visualize whirled peas"). But deep down, it's what most of us long for. Consider the proverb: The highest happiness is peace.
Not a peace inside that ignores pain in oneself or others, or is acquired by shutting down. This is a durable peace, ... Views: 41
Do you know that many individuals make themselves martyrs and door mats because they believe deep down they'll be rewarded for doing so?
Do you know that there is no "reward" for this self destructive strategy besides death? Do you know that this tendency to submit as the punching bag of ... Views: 57
Do you know that self sabotaging thoughts and behaviors are generated subconsciously by programming based in negative memories from your past? Do you know that unless one can permanently erase/delete the memories driving that programming they will remain a helpless and self destructive being ... Views: 75
Do you know that a controlling personality actually controls the very person who has it? Do you know that the need to control others is driven by a need to compensate for deeply buried emotions such as: the fear of feeling disappointment, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of feeling ... Views: 69
Do you know many individuals feel like needy, dependent, weak, vulnerable, helpless, frightened children inside? Do you know this "personality state" robs them of their self confidence, inner strength, courage, ability to trust and assert themselves, and ultimately of any real success or ... Views: 67
The happiest people I have seen on this planet so far are the newly arrived children. The saddest and most unhappy ones I have seen so far are the departing adults. The difference between the two is that the first ones have not yet accepted everything they are not, and are in tune with ... Views: 76
This week I've been working with how much courage it takes, for those who are people-pleasers , to be authentic. It's a fact that you can't set a boundary to take care of yourself, and take care of the other person's feelings at the same time. For many, the prohibition against hurting someone ... Views: 68
When I was much younger and more naive, I used to buy into the New Age belief that we create our personal reality 100% of the time based on our thoughts. But, I've come to realize that this is only a partial truth. And, while our beliefs certainly do influence and affect our experience of ... Views: 86
Various “triggers” can put people at risk of relapsing into old patterns of addiction. A trigger can be as simple as people, places, or feelings that initiate a desire, or craving or reminder of past addictive behaviors. Causes of relapse can differ for each person. Pay attention ... Views: 72
Over five weeks ago I was approached by one of my patients on the unit who let me know that he hated his life. He talked about the various experiences he had and he was concerned that a short stay in rehab wouldn’t offer him the opportunity to find any kind of comfort or relief. I suggested that ... Views: 69
I remember a supervisor from the past whom I never thought had the right personality to be a psychiatrist. I mean, he was a little angry and domineering for my taste. But heck — I gave him a “bye” since he worked in a prison context.
I was never attacked by a prison patient through my ... Views: 41
When you work with and support others, do you experience: Feeling drained? Do you desire them to "get better"? Do you take on one more client because there is no one else? Are you attached to them making progress?
When I first heard the expression Divinely Selfish- I experienced a lot of ... Views: 77
It is good to explore the difference between exerting effort and applying oneself to something. The clarity that comes from that understanding can help us lead a peaceful life. One can then move on to sensing the deeper aspects of living on this planet.
We often feel elevated when we see a ... Views: 97
You visit your sick co-worker in the hospital or at home and he looks terrible. He's not sounding like himself and he's sharing way too much personal information. Then, you happen to see a pamphlet on the nightstand about a scary illness that you were not aware that he has. To top it off, some ... Views: 56
Perhaps you’ll agree that when something is bothering you, it prevents you from being at peace. In truth, the more we try to figure out “what-to-do” or “what-not-to-do” actually keeps the situation from changing. Take a moment and look at this consideration more carefully. Whatever we are ... Views: 53
Do you enjoy a good fight? I don't but I know some people who do. Regardless of who we are interacting with, differences of opinion, issues , and conflict will arise periodically. Some approach arguments with zest, others with great trepidation, and some avoid them at all costs. There are times ... Views: 62
Keywords: A warm, refreshing orange aroma that fairly sparkles with brightness. Petitgrain is a top note often used in perfumery. Almost all cologne waters contain some petitgrain oil.
Steam distilled from the leaves of the bitter orange tree Petitgrain oil has a lovely fresh and revitalizing ... Views: 102
The title of this practice is a little tongue-in-cheek. What I mean is, most of us - me included - spend time worrying about criticism: past, present, and even future. Yes, try hard, keep agreements, "don't be evil," etc. But sooner or later - usually sooner - someone is going to point out the ... Views: 39
Life can feel like a perpetual classroom. You’re constantly learning. Sometimes you make mistakes and other times you get a gold star for your achievements. Once in a while, a particular lesson alludes you, no matter how many times you experience it. When frustrations build, you might consider ... Views: 42
Many relationships end miserably. Why is that? Well it's largely because the foundation upon which such relationships are initially based is inherently faulty. Let me explain.
If you ever stop to reflect on the underlying reasons why many individuals enter relationships in the first place you ... Views: 73
The fear of being honest.
Isn't that something you've struggled with at some point in your relationship? Well I'm sure more than once.
They belief is that honesty can be hurtful to the other person and therefore could have negative repercussions for you. Perhaps make you feel like a ... Views: 83
Does it ever feel like the negative thoughts intruding on your mind have a mind of their own? Does it ever feel like you are losing the battle waged at trying to reclaim full ownership over your freewill? Well that's because those negative thoughts are trying to hijack your mind and your life ... Views: 109
It is a common misconception that the critical inner voice that many harbor is somehow useful to them. In this article I outline a short exercise that will help bring clarity to how toxic it is and also help you begin to permanently silence it.
It is a common belief that the critical inner ... Views: 66
You've had many years of training in your craft as a performer, singer, actor etc. but if you still feel haunted by the ravages of Performance Anxiety your career may be in serious jeopardy.
Performance Anxiety, that familiar nemesis to all performers is often experienced as some or all the ... Views: 64
Anxiety is largely the result of what I call "emotional landmines" i.e. negatively charged memories stored in your unconscious mind and body that keep getting re-triggered by daily events thus leading to anxiety and other painful emotional and physical experiences. If you would like to know how ... Views: 68
The textbook formula for weight loss is apparently quite simple – eat less and start working out. It sounds simple but the weight loss reality is quite different. For thousands of people, it turns into a tremendous struggle that seems to almost have a predetermined end.
Have you been trying ... Views: 118
Two things are certain a) everyone is carrying some emotional baggage and b) everyone struggles to keep it at bay. What most don't know is it's now possible to completely and permanent delete old emotional baggage from the subconscious mind so that all ones time, energy and focus can go into ... Views: 93
The impulse to get married almost seems programmed into us from a very early age. Many believe that being married reflects on how attractive, lovable, and successful they are as human beings. Do you know, however that most people who are thinking about marriage are not yet ready for such a ... Views: 99
Are you one of those individuals who "lives in the past"? Do you continually find yourself rehashing past events all the while wishing they could have been different, better, more satisfying or fulfilling? Do you continually use the past as a way of licking your wounds and as justification for ... Views: 55
Do you feel inhibited or afraid to be your true inner Self in all areas of your life? Do you feel like you betray your Self, your inner truth and integrity on a regular basis? Does this make you feel inadequate, ashamed, and bad about and towards your Self? Would you like to develop the courage ... Views: 90
As you move through your life do you ever find yourself repeating or recreating situations that are less than desirable? For instance do you find yourself caught in certain self sabotaging or self destructive habits that have taken control over your mind and life? Do you feel sufficiently ... Views: 107
Impotence, or erectile dysfunction, (E.D.), is afflicting many men. You can see that from the billions of dollars sales of drugs like Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra.
Sometimes, people die, when using these drugs. Sometimes, E.D. is just a way warning you that you have to look into the underlying ... Views: 46
Do you know that self sabotage happens when one is triggered into an auto pilot trance state like in which they actually lose awareness and control over what they are doing? Do you know this is much like texting while you are driving and then wind up getting into an accident?
Do you know ... Views: 77
Sometimes the people who need therapy the most are the very people who find it hardest to seek help. They’re afraid they’re wasting the therapist’s time. They’re afraid they’re wasting their own or their loved one’s money. They’re afraid of exposing their deepest selves—and of trying and ... Views: 40
It’s easy to see when your friend needs to dial it down at a party. When your cousin’s behavior is a little off. When things are off balance for someone else. But it’s not so easy to see about yourself. Sometimes you seek therapy precisely because you are not clear about where you are trying to ... Views: 42
Within the last week, I've had the opportunity to see the movie "Divergent" not once but twice due to the fact that the movie (and book) is all the rage with girls and my daughter is no exception. It's your typical good versus evil plot but the twist is a young woman named "Tris" who's ... Views: 67
Creativity is intelligence having fun.
-Albert Einstein, physicist
Do you think fun is frivolous? If so, perhaps you should think again.
Pause at the end of this paragraph – just for a few seconds – to recall a very happy, joyful, engaging moment from your life. Please stop and reflect ... Views: 86