When I was much younger and more naive, I used to buy into the New Age belief that we create our personal reality 100% of the time based on our thoughts. But, I've come to realize that this is only a partial truth. And, while our beliefs certainly do influence and affect our experience of ... Views: 142
Various “triggers” can put people at risk of relapsing into old patterns of addiction. A trigger can be as simple as people, places, or feelings that initiate a desire, or craving or reminder of past addictive behaviors. Causes of relapse can differ for each person. Pay attention ... Views: 138
Over five weeks ago I was approached by one of my patients on the unit who let me know that he hated his life. He talked about the various experiences he had and he was concerned that a short stay in rehab wouldn’t offer him the opportunity to find any kind of comfort or relief. I suggested that ... Views: 126
I remember a supervisor from the past whom I never thought had the right personality to be a psychiatrist. I mean, he was a little angry and domineering for my taste. But heck — I gave him a “bye” since he worked in a prison context.
I was never attacked by a prison patient through my ... Views: 86
When you work with and support others, do you experience: Feeling drained? Do you desire them to "get better"? Do you take on one more client because there is no one else? Are you attached to them making progress?
When I first heard the expression Divinely Selfish- I experienced a lot of ... Views: 129
It is good to explore the difference between exerting effort and applying oneself to something. The clarity that comes from that understanding can help us lead a peaceful life. One can then move on to sensing the deeper aspects of living on this planet.
We often feel elevated when we see a ... Views: 149
You visit your sick co-worker in the hospital or at home and he looks terrible. He's not sounding like himself and he's sharing way too much personal information. Then, you happen to see a pamphlet on the nightstand about a scary illness that you were not aware that he has. To top it off, some ... Views: 104
Perhaps you’ll agree that when something is bothering you, it prevents you from being at peace. In truth, the more we try to figure out “what-to-do” or “what-not-to-do” actually keeps the situation from changing. Take a moment and look at this consideration more carefully. Whatever we are ... Views: 91
Do you enjoy a good fight? I don't but I know some people who do. Regardless of who we are interacting with, differences of opinion, issues , and conflict will arise periodically. Some approach arguments with zest, others with great trepidation, and some avoid them at all costs. There are times ... Views: 113
Keywords: A warm, refreshing orange aroma that fairly sparkles with brightness. Petitgrain is a top note often used in perfumery. Almost all cologne waters contain some petitgrain oil.
Steam distilled from the leaves of the bitter orange tree Petitgrain oil has a lovely fresh and revitalizing ... Views: 178
The title of this practice is a little tongue-in-cheek. What I mean is, most of us - me included - spend time worrying about criticism: past, present, and even future. Yes, try hard, keep agreements, "don't be evil," etc. But sooner or later - usually sooner - someone is going to point out the ... Views: 71
Life can feel like a perpetual classroom. You’re constantly learning. Sometimes you make mistakes and other times you get a gold star for your achievements. Once in a while, a particular lesson alludes you, no matter how many times you experience it. When frustrations build, you might consider ... Views: 84
The textbook formula for weight loss is apparently quite simple – eat less and start working out. It sounds simple but the weight loss reality is quite different. For thousands of people, it turns into a tremendous struggle that seems to almost have a predetermined end.
Have you been trying ... Views: 235
Impotence, or erectile dysfunction, (E.D.), is afflicting many men. You can see that from the billions of dollars sales of drugs like Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra.
Sometimes, people die, when using these drugs. Sometimes, E.D. is just a way warning you that you have to look into the underlying ... Views: 92
Sometimes the people who need therapy the most are the very people who find it hardest to seek help. They’re afraid they’re wasting the therapist’s time. They’re afraid they’re wasting their own or their loved one’s money. They’re afraid of exposing their deepest selves—and of trying and ... Views: 72
It’s easy to see when your friend needs to dial it down at a party. When your cousin’s behavior is a little off. When things are off balance for someone else. But it’s not so easy to see about yourself. Sometimes you seek therapy precisely because you are not clear about where you are trying to ... Views: 73
Within the last week, I've had the opportunity to see the movie "Divergent" not once but twice due to the fact that the movie (and book) is all the rage with girls and my daughter is no exception. It's your typical good versus evil plot but the twist is a young woman named "Tris" who's ... Views: 128
Creativity is intelligence having fun.
-Albert Einstein, physicist
Do you think fun is frivolous? If so, perhaps you should think again.
Pause at the end of this paragraph – just for a few seconds – to recall a very happy, joyful, engaging moment from your life. Please stop and reflect ... Views: 141
An Oscar-nominated documentary called “The Invisible War” tackles the seemingly taboo subject of rape and sexual assault in the military. ABC News covered a quick story of the documentary and featured three women who bravely volunteered their personal stories of being raped while enlisted in the ... Views: 91
Intimate personal violence, which is similar to domestic violence, affects an estimated 12 million people, both men and women, per year. That is according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline’s website, where plenty of similarly shocking statistics can be found. For instance, “more than 1 ... Views: 94
Operation: I.V is a 501(c)3 non-profit founded in 2012 that helps combat veterans heal from both PTSD as well as traumatic brain injuries. Its founder, Roxann Abrams, is a Gold Star Mother who lost her son SFC Randy Abrams in 2009. Randy took his own life after experiencing a PTSD flashback from ... Views: 89
“People of Western Europe, the hour of your liberation is approaching. All patriots, men and women, young and old, have a part to play in the achievement of final victory. This landing is but the opening phase of the campaign of Western Europe. Great battles lie ahead. I call upon all who love ... Views: 86
According to an article released by CBS News called “Fake Service Dogs a Growing Problem,” real service dogs help assist a wide variety of individuals, including “people who use power or manual wheelchairs, have balance issues, have various types of autism, need seizure alert or response, need ... Views: 80
Divorce - it's a word that makes me cringe every time I hear it. Mine was thirty-two years ago (not of my choosing) and was one of the most painful periods of my life. Two people brought together in love take a sacred vow to love, honor, and cherish one another for eternity. No one ever says, ... Views: 255
"What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do." Tim Ferriss
How did we become a society that cannot hear the word No? Why are we so sensitive to being told No? There is yes and there is No, there is night and day, dark and light, yin and yang, and on and on. So to be balanced ... Views: 144
You may have seen the old Mickey Mouse movie in which he is working at a conveyor belt in a factory. More and more widgets come at him that he has to handle, and he gets increasingly frazzled as he struggles to keep up.
Do you ever feel the same way? Think about all the dishes, emails, ... Views: 70
Neil Findlay says he is just, “An ordinary person out there doing some stuff.” But he is so much more than that. Both Neil and his wife have dedicated some of their working years and now their “retirement” to helping children around the world. They are both an inspiration for what we can all ... Views: 141
Summary: Daniel was told to seal his book “till the time of the end,” but his book defines that time. His vision [chazon] of a ram and goat is at the time of the end, Daniel 8:17. Historians confirm the ram as the Medes and Persians conquered by Alexander the Great, but that was not the time of ... Views: 120
Today researchers find that for every four females with anorexia, there is one male, and for every 8-11 females with bulimia, there is one male. (American Journal of Psychiatry) The majority of men suffer with Binge Eating Disorder and the majority does not get treatment until they have ... Views: 97
It is not uncommon to hear people say that they feel ungrounded and while this may be a term that is more commonly used amongst people who are into self development, it is something that anyone can experience. It therefore won’t matter if they are into self development or not, as they can still ... Views: 138
PBS Frontline estimates that almost half a million soldiers are afflicted with some form of traumatic brain injury (TBI). However, admittedly, that number is “hard to pinpoint,” because TBIs can easily go either mis/undiagnosed by the medical community. However, some TBIs can be deadly if left ... Views: 82
Do you know that you can be living with a brain aneurism and might not even know it? An article released by ABC News called “8 Everyday Ways to Have a Brain Bleed” says that if you “[smoke], [have] hypertension, [are] female or [have] a family history of an aneurisms,” you have a higher risk ... Views: 75
The Scripps Research Institute in California created a study that proved that stress had a direct correlation to addiction (and therefore substance abuse). Psychology Today captured the study in 2010 under the article title, “Stress Hormone Key to Alcohol Dependence”. It is no secret that stress ... Views: 96
Can medical science now physically predict individuals whom are most likely to commit acts of violence? Adrian Raine, a criminologist and author of The Biology of Violence, has discovered a biological root that exists in many “cold-blooded killers”.
In general, Raine refers to an inclination ... Views: 84
Combat soldiers are placed in a very precarious position once they join the military. While they were civilians, soldiers were taught that violence and murder were both morally wrong, and should refrain from committing such acts against others. However, on the battlefield, these same soldiers ... Views: 96
If you have ever felt frozen in time and space as a result of some fear inside of you, you know precisely how uncomfortable that is, how you do not like that feeling, and how it keeps you from enjoying the life you love. I would like to talk about two forms that fear assumes and how you might ... Views: 67
No matter where you go in life, you'll find that humans share similar goals: we are all seeking happiness, success, good health, wealth, and love. Some are fortunate to acquired some or all of them. And yet as quickly as we obtain them we can lose them or they can disappoint and hurt us. You ... Views: 148
MoStory Posted by Dr. MO Each of us faces problems, challenges and difficulties in in our lives. In today’s post I am sharing story that is an allegory or fable, a story that provides insights into how to deal with an important part of life.
A young woman went to her mother and told her ... Views: 212
12 Tips to Release Stress to Live a Happy Life
Do you want to be happier? If so, then make it a point to release stress regularly. We often have stress without even realizing it, but your body does. When you feel worried and strained your body is yelling with an ‘energy megaphone’ that you’re ... Views: 89
Shed Fat Faster with the Power of Your Mind
If one of your goals is to shed some weight before summer, then you’re in luck; what I’m about to share with you are powerful tips to help you reach your weight-loss goals. Your most powerful tool to shed fat fast is not found in the gym or in ... Views: 101
5 Tips to LOVE Everything about YOU!
We all desire love from others, but how many of us truly love ourselves? It’s easy to lose sight of the need for self-love when you are filling your to-do list and caring for others. But if you come to truly love and accept yourself, just as you are now, ... Views: 122
The Power of Expectation
Did you know that your life and body as it is right now is a result of what you expected to come about in your life? Did you know that because of the Law of Perception, what you perceive as “good” or “bad” will, in fact, be drawn to you, whether you like it or ... Views: 103
[Note: This JOT is adapted from the first chapter of my book, Hardwiring Happiness.]
I've hiked a lot and have often had to depend on what was in my pack. Inner strengths are the supplies you've got in your pack as you make your way down the twisting and often hard road of life. They include ... Views: 72
"Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything."
In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mean No. After listening ... Views: 99
For many years anxiety was viewed by people as some sort of a weakness in character. They attributed this state of mind and body to the weakness of will. The basic recommendation for battling anxiety was just to gather up one’s will and go on with life, as if nothing was really happening inside ... Views: 136
You hear about it all the time. First impressions are lasting impressions, you only get one chance to make a good first impression. Nobody will know how good you are unless you make a good first impression on them.
Unfortunately most people see themselves as not good at making a first ... Views: 165
I can’t sleep,” Shelly said. “I mean, I don’t have much trouble falling asleep. But then I wake up at three in the morning and can’t get back to sleep.”
For Shelly, it started with a combination of a fast-paced job and the hormonal changes of pregnancy. While those things started her insomnia ... Views: 157
Anger and vindictiveness always comes from the belief that one is cheated and their life is unfair. For Eliott Rogers, it seems that the memories that he focused on were of two varieties which, in combination can cause anger and rage.
The first type of memory is one that you are a nice person ... Views: 145
We all have had times in our lives when we felt our partner , parent, child or friend was selfish, unsympathetic and difficult. We may even have accused them of being a narcissist. Behaving badly, lacking empathy and being selfish, though not desirable traits, does not alone define you as a ... Views: 96
Many of my clients come in with complaints about personal habits that feel toxic in their lives. Just as you can detox your body when you’re feeling sluggish, it’s also possible to detox your emotional life. Here are some of the most common ways your life can back up on you, and how ... Views: 153